Author: Zhang Jianyun
Chatting with a friend at noon, after listening to my theory, he said, I really should let my wife come to listen to your class!
Looking at his happy and vengeful look, I can read what he means: brainwash her wife.
Men who always want to change their wives are ignorant. There are two reasons, one is that it cannot be changed at all, just like the vow of "the sea withers and the stone does not change" during love. A woman's will is much stronger than a stone's. The second is that there is no need to change. As long as a man changes himself, he can change his wife, he can change his children, and he can change the world.
This is why Chinese arrange the order of self-cultivation, family unity, governance, and peace in the world. However, many people ignore the 4 most important items before self-cultivation: qualities, knowledge, sincerity, and sincerity.
Qualities are the source of all education. Without recognizing the world, without recognizing life, without recognizing values, without recognizing emotions, without recognizing gains and losses, without recognizing good and evil, beauty and ugliness, and right and wrong, and talking about learning, work, career and mission, a person cannot enter into success. And just too many people are living in this kind of confusion.
Knowledge is the wisdom obtained after the lattice. It is not enough for a person to have wisdom. Wisdom is like a gun, to kill the enemy is to uphold justice, to kill oneself is to lose the conscience.
What to do?
Trigger your inner conscience with sincerity, and then use righteousness, mindfulness, awareness, and awareness to deliver positive energy to the body, mind, and mind. This is the necessity of qualities, knowledge, sincerity, and righteousness.
Therefore, a man thinks that his wife needs to be brainwashed, needs to go to class, needs to be repaired, not the man's cleverness, but the man's dereliction of duty, the man's embarrassment, the man's embarrassment. Much like a man's clothes are dirty, his shirt is wrinkled, and it's easy to think that the man's wife is a bit unreliable.
They all need to go into their own hearts, use the skills of righteousness, sincerity, knowledge, and qualities to evaluate themselves, ask themselves, examine themselves, and correct themselves, so that the other party can get better.
Mencius said: Those who have passed the test, those who have wronged themselves, and those who have not been able to be straight.
Meaning, it's you, it's you, it's all your fault. If you want to use your own curved path in life to correct the behavior and ideas of others, there has not been such a thing since ancient times that it is not true!
More importantly, don't criticize your own child in front of outsiders: this child is disobedient, this child has no rules, this child does not love to read, this child is obsessed with games, this child is not polite...
What does this mean?
The vast majority of children's mistakes come from their parents. It's tantamount to you saying, I'm not obedient, I'm not a rule, I'm not a bookworm, I'm obsessed with games, I'm rude...
So, a man, of course, includes women, especially men and women who are parents. If you want to cultivate your child well, there is only one way: to know your mistakes, admit your mistakes, find mistakes and correct your mistakes. Beyond that, there is no way out.
That is to say, if parents do not clean up and eliminate the internal shortcomings, the child will not be able to become a talent. Because, the child is the child of the parents, the parents are the parents of the children, a kind of blood, a gene, a habit. Hello, he is good; you are bad, he is bad. You are gentle, he is like water; you are sunny, he is masculine.
It's just that too many people don't know their true face, just because they are in pride. As the saying goes: it's good to think you're stupid. The implication is that you think you're right, but you're actually wrong.
How do you measure yourself whether you are true or false, or how do you find your true self?
1, listen to what you say after drinking, that is, be true to yourself;
2, recall the dreams you have, the dream is the real yourself;
3, a person alone in the dark night, no one asks, no one supervises and evaluates, what is thought at that time is the real self.
In this way, you know whether you are a real person or a fake, you know who your wife's fault comes from, and you know how your children should be educated.
Today's original text is selected from the "Mencius TengWen Gongzhang Sentence Xia, Section 1"
Mencius said: Those who have passed the test, those who have wronged themselves, and those who have not been able to be straight.
Zhang Jianyun
Writer, scholar of traditional Chinese studies, member of the All-China Women's Federation Family Construction Expert Think Tank, member of the Chinese Writers Association.
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