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I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and finally decided to meet both parents. Taking advantage of the company's annual leave, I followed my boyfriend back to his hometown in Shandong!
At my boyfriend's house, I felt the boldness and enthusiasm of the people of Shandong, and my boyfriend's mother gave me a large table of dishes every day, persuading me to eat this and that, afraid that I would not eat well. My boyfriend's sister is also very enthusiastic about me, pulling me to ask questions every day, and often taking out her own private snacks for me.
I feel that my boyfriend's family is really a warm family, and I have to show my sincerity. So I play the spirit of twelve points every day, take out the "virtuous daughter-in-law" posture, rush to wash the dishes after each meal, take the initiative to help the boyfriend's mother cook, sweep the floor and mop the floor every day, I feel that I have left a particularly good impression on the boyfriend's family, his mother is eager to let me go to the boyfriend to get the certificate immediately!
Everything was so beautiful and harmonious, until the appearance of boyfriend grandma!
The old lady has a total of 3 sons, and lives in the home of 3 sons in the middle and late parts of each month, although the old lady has many sons, the grandchildren are only my boyfriend.
On the third day of my boyfriend's house, it was the turn of the old lady to live at the boyfriend's house, and as soon as I entered the house, the old lady took my hand and told me that my boyfriend's mother was busy at work, and that the grandson was brought up by her, and said how close she was to her grandson...
However, an ominous premonition slowly arose in my heart!
The old lady said that she was sick and could not live for a few years, and her only wish in this life was that her granddaughter-in-law could wash her feet.
There were also many relatives of my boyfriend's family who were present, and everyone heard it, and I felt both embarrassed and surprised at the time, and I never expected the old lady to make such a request.
Wash it, I really can't accept it in my heart. But don't wash it, the boyfriend has been breaking the thoughts on the side, saying that the relatives are watching it, even if it is to fulfill his filial piety, he also wants me to wash the old lady's feet, and I don't have to wash it seriously, which means to do it!
I struggled in my heart for a long time, I really couldn't convince myself, so I said to my boyfriend: "I haven't passed the door, let me wash your grandmother's feet in front of so many people, I really can't do it, I'm sorry!" ”
The boyfriend suddenly became very angry, thinking that I had made him lose face, and actually shouted to me: "If you can't wash it, don't stay at my house, we can't stand your big lady's temper, where to go back and forth!" ”
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After listening to my boyfriend's words, I felt very uncomfortable, and I turned around and left his house to go to the hotel in tears. In the evening, my boyfriend messaged me that he wanted to give me another chance, that tomorrow there are no relatives at home, and if I still love him, I will go back and wash his grandmother's feet!
I ignored him, he continued to say that his grandmother really treated me as a granddaughter-in-law, let me not be so cruel to reject an old man, and finally he transferred 500 yuan to me, saying that I gave you money to the general line, go to the foot bath shop to wash your feet can not spend so much money, you don't have to be wronged...
I was speechless, how did I not find out that my boyfriend was such a person before? If he's in front of me, I'd love to give him a slap!
I suddenly didn't want to let him go, so I took the money, and then immediately blocked my boyfriend, and then found a foot massage shop on the Internet and made an appointment for his grandmother!
Back at the company, I found that my colleagues were secretly pointing at me and confusing me, and later I learned that my boyfriend actually said to the people in my company that I was particularly selfish, and even the last wish of the old man before he died was not satisfied!
It's really unladylike, until now I am quite fortunate, fortunately with him back home once, let me really see the boyfriend's personality, avoid a "big pit", if such a thing happens after marriage, it is really too late to regret!
03
Love is not a deal, nor is it a chip that can be used to blackmail each other, and many of us are prone to fall into a strange circle in love, that is: "Since you love me, why can't you do something for me?" ”
Love is selfless, but also free, now we, will not be infatuated with a person and deliberately please each other, will not just love a person, we will force ourselves to become the other party likes!
The relationship between husband and wife in "House of Cards" has always been something I admire, they are intimate and interdependent with each other, but they do not forget themselves and adhere to principles. I think this is a comfortable and healthy love model: two people are intimate, but they are spiritually free from each other, and you should love the real me, not the me you imagined!
Qian Zhongshu once described Yang Dai this way: "She combines three completely different roles, wife, lover, and friend!" "Both men are very talented, both love to write, but their styles are very different, and they have never thought about letting each other go their own way in their lives. Hu Heqing once described the two: "Qian Zhongshu is like a male sword, and the box is self-singing, and Yang Dai is like a female sword, not showing the blade!" "Their love for each other and independence from each other is enviable!"
Good love, when they are separated, each wonderful, together the world is invincible!
Three books that are worth reading over and over again for a lifetime
1 "38 Letters from Rockefeller to His Son"
2 "Kazuo Inamori's Advice to Young People"
3 "Buffett's Life Advice to His Children"
Bill Gates says there's only one name for the money-making influence he has in mind, and that's Rockefeller.
He was the world's first billionaire to emerge
His wealth is equivalent to 8 times that of Bill Gates today!!
In other words, if he lived to this day
His wealth will be 10% more than the world's top ten richest people combined.
This "38 Letters from Rockefeller to His Son" was recommended by Buffett, Li Ka-shing and countless other bigwigs, and Wang Jianlin bought it to make a 20-year-old birthday gift for his son.
A few of them are well worth remembering
1 The starting point affects the result, but the starting point does not determine the result.
2 I don't live by god-given luck, but I develop by planning luck.
3 A man can only rely on himself to not let himself down.
Finally, he said: "We strive not only to make money, but more importantly, to make us who we want to be
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Mr. Inamori and Mr. Fu lao single-handedly founded two Fortune 500 companies. He stressed that the purpose of life is to improve the heart, young people should love their work, go all out to live every day, and only those who have a strong desire for their goals can succeed
The book "Kazuo Inamori's Advice for young people's life" is mainly from three
On a case-by-case basis
1 life chapter
2 workplace articles
3 Business Management Chapter
Everyone is an apple that has been bitten by God, and if your suffering is always special, it is because God especially likes your fragrance. This classic quote is also from the book Oh ~
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Why can't someone who takes care of you marry, a father said to his daughter: Children, you must understand that the best spouse should be your ally on the battlefield of life, rather than finding someone to meet your laziness and giant baby, a man pours you a glass of water, buys you a barbecue in the middle of the night, this is not a scarce species, and women in reality often live for this low-cost payment.
In the book "Buffett's Daughter's Life Advice", it is said that the really scarce resources are the other party's conversation, knowledge, business vision, and the other party's ability to control and stable emotions, do not underestimate these characteristics, to cultivate these advantages, the cost is extremely high, can be encountered and can not be sought.
Maybe Buffett is really the one who spied on God's secrets
In this book, "Buffett's Life Advice to His Children," content and wisdom are the best assets left to their children.
If you are also a parent, then I recommend that you also read these three books. In these three books you can see yourself, see heaven and earth, and see sentient beings.
Then, while learning the wisdom of the top super rich, you can also practice the world's top parenting concepts. Whether it's the adult workplace or the home, it can come in handy.
This set includes Rockefeller, Kazuo Inamori, Buffett 3 celebrities to educate their children, and suggest the painstaking works of young people.
A collection of the top wisdom of mankind, are you sure you can't come to a set?