Mothers who deliberately raise their own children? Have you ever seen it? Were you shocked?
Since ancient times, looking forward to Jackie Chan has been the greatest wish of parents, and now there are still people who deliberately raise their own children?
This is the true story of my former colleague's mother. Her mother had a son in middle age, and was the younger brother of her colleagues, and has been doting on this son ever since. After graduating from college, her colleague went to Shanghai to find a job, there was no way to go home often to see, her mother had been to Shanghai several times, and usually she could only contact her parents through mobile phones.
There was a long vacation, after 3 years she was finally able to go home, but this vacation was destined to be extraordinary. While at home, she found that her brother, who was 10 years younger than her, was in high school and did nothing but eat, sleep, and play games. Don't study, don't participate in chats, and don't get involved in housework. If Dad and co-worker lose their temper at the slightest word, the co-worker's mother will tell others not to talk about him. Colleagues feel that this state of the younger brother is very bad, secretly learned about the younger brother's school life, found that in the school, the younger brother's grades are also at the bottom, although they will not drink and smoke to make trouble, but it is common to play games and fail.
Excluding her brother, she brought in her mother and father for a family meeting, intending to talk about her brother. As soon as she opened her mouth to say a few questions about her brother, her mother immediately blackened her face and refused to listen, she felt that her son was very good, very well-behaved, not to fight and make trouble, and was a very good child. Colleagues said a lot about the future brother going to college, leaving home independent things, her mother listened to it even more unhappy, said that when her son is older, he can not leave home, work in this small place, and stay at home all the time, without thinking so much about him. For the mother's strength, the father of the family who is only non-committal has no sense of resistance at all, and only listens to the mother.
Colleagues feel that their mother is very problematic and have always wanted to communicate well during the holidays, but her mother has not cooperated. Later, the holiday was over, and she had to go back to Shanghai to work, and when she left, she said a few more words. At this time, her mother said: "What is the use of raising children well, running to other places one by one, running abroad without going home to see their parents, or it is best to put them next to them, there is no need to be too outstanding." "It turned out that she saw that many of the children who left their parents in the neighbors' homes did not come back, and their daughters were often not around, and her mother had the idea of raising her son to be mediocre and not to leave the house."
At this time, the colleague knew the root cause of these things, and it turned out that all this was deliberately done by her mother. She didn't want her son to be too good, because the better he was, the more he had to run out, and the less likely he was to stay with his parents. Colleagues know that they can't persuade their mothers, so they can only let their fathers do more of their mother's work.
When I first heard about this from my colleagues, I was amazed, is there such a mother in the world? In order to keep the child around, deliberately raise a crooked child and not let the child be too good. To be honest, this is a very selfish mother, the child is not a tool to exist for your needs, he is an independent person, but also to go outside to see more interesting things and enrich their own life. However, the mother's approach niped this possibility in the bud, allowing a child to begin to instill at a very young age the idea that it is best not to leave the local area, mediocrity is a blessing, and the safest way to stay with the parents, so that the child slowly becomes less active, does not work hard, and becomes just a puppeteer who obeys the arrangements of the family.
In the end, the colleague still did not find a way to persuade the mother, the younger brother's age is not small, and the effect of intervention is not good, she can only pray there that the brother can fight a little, self-reliant on the mother's control, to see a different scenery.