In "The Gate of the Mansion", before the second grandmother died, she was distressed that Bai Jiali did not have a mother to take care of, and was anxious to let Bai Jingqi find a good family for her; worried that Huang Chun would not live long, Bai Jingqi would not have a caring woman after that, so she promised Bai Jingqi her own personal maid locust flower.
The second grandmother was also worried about the future development of the White Family, and instructed that the door of the big mansion should not be maintained any longer, and that in the future, each house should stand on its own, and also advised that life should not be too public, and the foreign car at home was too eye-catching, so sell it quickly!
The second grandmother did everything in detail, and even a car was arranged. But for the only daughter Bai Yuting, the second grandmother did not have a word of instruction.
Bai Yuting is more than thirty years old, and she has become an old girl, why does the second grandmother not care about her daughter's marriage before she dies?
In fact, the second grandmother has her own arrangements, and the answer is hidden in her last words.
1. The mother-daughter relationship between the second grandmother and Bai Yuting
When the second grandmother was pregnant with Bai Yuting, she was running around to revitalize the Baicao Hall, and she was still worrying about various affairs until she was in labor, and she was Born in the carriage.
When Bai Yuting understood things, the second grandmother had already run the Bai family very prosperously. It can be said that the birth and growth of Bai Yuting was accompanied by the re-emergence of the Bai family.
This is Bai Yuting's luck, but it is also doomed to the loneliness of her childhood.
Because when Bai Yuting needed her mother's care and companionship the most, the second grandmother was busy, handling the big and small things outside the home, and did not have enough energy to take care of Bai Yuting carefully.
In Bai Yuting's childhood, her mother was often absent, and although her father was gentle and loving, he could not replace his mother after all.
There are several small details that can be proved, Bai Yuting grew up from small to large, and the second grandmother did not care enough about her.
First, Han Rongfa was in the Bai family, very arrogant, causing the second grandmother a headache, so he worriedly consulted with the second grandfather. The second master wanted Bai Jingqi to return from Jinan. At this time, Bai Yuting asked, "Mom, when will my brother come back?" ”
The second grandmother was a little impatient, anxious to let her out, and said that she would accompany her to the theater at night. Turning his head, he also said to the second master, "This girl is fascinated by the drama." ”
It can be imagined that Bai Yuting's situation at that time, her favorite brother Bai Jingqi started a business in Jinan, there were many boys in the family, few girls, and there was no playmate of the same age, she must be very lonely and boring, only listening to the drama for recreation. Since then, she has been fascinated by the famous wan xiao ju.
But the second grandmother did not understand the adolescent daughter's heart, but often listened to the drama to coax her.
From this point of view, Bai Yuting's infatuation with Wan Xiaoju was actually inadvertently promoted by the second grandmother.
Second, before the seventieth birthday of the second grandmother, Bai Jingqi said that he would celebrate the second grandmother in the new garden, and he would also hold a church meeting, invite all the famous characters in the capital, and also said that he would let the third master and Bai Yuting sing a song.
At this time, the second grandmother remembered to ask Bai Jingqi: "Yuting, what does she do all day?" Tell her that she doesn't do it, and no one wants it in her thirties. ”
The second grandmother, as a mother, did not know what her daughter was doing every day, or Bai Jingqi mentioned Bai Yuting, and she only remembered to ask.
It can be seen that the mother and daughter are not close at all.
Third, the second grandmother's seventieth birthday, happy to listen to the church meeting in the new house, listened for a while to ask Bai Jingqi, did you invite Wan Xiaoju. Bai Jingqi secretly proposed for Bai Yuting before, but Wan Xiaoju refused, so he deliberately did not invite, but he could not tell the truth.
The third master next to her was very witty, diverted the topic, and proposed to let Bai Yuting sing a song, and she learned Wan Xiaoju like a mold carved out.
Bai Yuting sang on stage and performed very brilliantly. The second grandmother was surprised and happy, and she didn't know when her daughter had learned drama so well.
Everyone knows that Bai Yuting is infatuated with Wan Xiaoju, and outsiders are talking about it behind their backs, but the second grandmother doesn't even know.
Bai Yuting saw that the second grandmother was happy, so she took the opportunity to say: "Mom, ask me to marry Wan Xiaoju, right?" ”
The second grandmother was shocked: "What do you say?" Darn! Do you understand shame? ”
From all the above, it can be seen that the second grandmother does not know Bai Yuting at all, and she does not care enough about Bai Yuting. She only knew that Bai Yuting was in her thirties and did not marry, but she did not know why Bai Yuting was unwilling to marry.
As soon as the seventieth birthday passed, the second grandmother fell ill. She was deeply shocked, because she knew that the White Family was in crisis and was about to lose. She felt that her time was short, and arranged various aftermaths, except for Bai Yuting.
The second grandmother is dying, and I don't believe she cares about her daughter at all. I think her heart must be full of guilt for Bai Yuting. Delaying her daughter into an old girl is her mother's responsibility. But she couldn't make up for it anymore.
For the sake of the Bai family's face and rules, she could not accept a drama as a son-in-law.
This is already the case, and she can't bear to kidnap Bai Yuting before she dies and force Bai Yuting to marry someone she doesn't like.
Therefore, she did not mention Bai Yuting's marriage problems, not because she did not care, but because she could not ask questions.
2. The second grandmother's attitude towards Bai Yuting's marriage and love is hidden in the last sentence
After the second grandmother arranged big and small things before she died, she could no longer hold on. But she still took her last breath and said to Bai Jingqi, "No, No, No Yang Jiuhong is allowed to wear filial piety." ”
Bai Jingqi was shocked to hear this. Bai Jingyi next to him said, "How did the old lady think of such a sentence?" ”
Yes, the second grandmother could not put down the problem of Yang Jiuhong wearing filial piety before swallowing, which was indeed incredible.
But the second grandmother has always taken one step to see ten steps, and has long-term considerations, and her last words naturally have her thoughts:
First, to avoid her death, Yang Jiuhong ascended to the throne and made a blessing. The second is to warn future generations to abide by the rules, marry wives and sages, do not covet beauty, and any woman dares to provoke, which is not good for the White family.
In addition, there is the most important point, that is, to beat Bai Yuting.
Bai Yuting once said that what she admired most was Yang Jiuhong, who had the courage to roll up the cool mat and sit at the door and wait for Bai Jingqi for three days and three nights, this courage and courage, men can not compare.
She also joked with Bai Jingqi: "I also learned Yang Jiuhong from Ming'er." ”
The second grandmother naturally did not know Bai Yuting's admiration for Yang Jiuhong, but as the head of the Bai family, she would think that it was Yang Jiuhong who took this head and made the Bai family become so unruly.
The second grandmother thinks so, and there is a basis for it.
Before the second grandmother's seventieth birthday, Bai Jingqi's new garden was completed, and he held a church meeting. The second grandmother listened to the play and heard half of it, and was anxious, so she went to the new garden to find a toilet. Just happened to meet Yang Jiuhong, Yang Jiuhong was anxious to avoid, heard the second grandmother called Bai Jiali, stopped again, looked at his daughter who had not been seen for many years, and waited for the reaction, turned his head and left.
When the second grandmother saw that she did not say hello, she felt that she had no rules, and deliberately asked Yang Jiuhong who she was. Yang Jiuhong said with resentment, "I am Jiali's mother." ”
The second grandmother asked Bai Jiali, "Is she your mother?" ”
Bai Jiali said coldly, "No, I don't have a mother!" ”
The second grandmother was not addicted to killing people, and said unceremoniously to Bai Jingqi: "Give me this faceless." ”
At that time, when I saw this, I was thinking that the second grandmother had always been generous and generous, and thought that Sister Yao was the lower nine streams, so why did she deliberately calculate with Yang Jiuhong on the day of the big day and lose her dignity.
Now, I understand that the second grandmother is extremely disappointed in Yang Jiuhong.
Before, the second grandmother had asked Bai Jingqi, "When is your aunt going to pick it up?" You have become a family business, built a new house, and who loves to pick up whom, I will not be able to control it from now on. “
Although the second grandmother is still dissatisfied, she can take the initiative to mention this matter, indicating that she still has a little kindness to Yang Jiuhong, as long as Yang Jiuhong can be disciplined, honest, and behave with her tail between her legs, she can turn a blind eye and everyone is safe.
Unfortunately, when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law met for the first time, Yang Jiuhong was not inferior. The second grandmother was disappointed, and she was even more convinced that her inherent prejudices against Sister Yao were right. But she could no longer be the master, so she was angry and corrupt, and wanted to give Yang Jiuhong a little color to see, let her stop being unruly, and make a bad demonstration for the Bai family.
But Bai Yuting did not understand the meaning of the second grandmother, and also complained for Yang Jiuhong: "My mother is also true, robbing other people's girlfriends not to say, and still squeezing people unforgivingly." ”
The second grandmother has paid attention to the rules all her life, partial to her sons and daughters, and has gone her own way and deviated from the scriptures. The second grandmother did not look at the bitch and the drama, and the son and daughter chose such a person.
Bai Jingqi and Yang Jiuhong already have Bai Jiali, what else can she do? She can only hope that her daughter will stop clinging to it. So before dying, he took his last breath and left his last words: Yang Jiuhong is not allowed to wear filial piety.
The second grandmother's operation is to kill the chicken and scare the monkey, warn Bai Yuting, the bitch is the bitch, the drama is the drama, the people who are not welcomed by the mainstream society, it is difficult to turn over and ascend to the sky, even if they try their best, there is no good end, so that Bai Yuting broke the idea of the drama Wan Xiaoju.
3. The second grandmother's request to each room to set up its own portal is actually the last favor for Bai Yuting
Before her death, the second grandmother said that the door of the mansion should not be maintained anymore, and in the future, each house will stand on its own. This instruction is the second grandmother's wise prediction of the future development of the Bai family, and it is also the second grandmother's last favor for Bai Yuting.
Each house is self-reliant, that is, the separation of the family, Bai Yuting is not married, she can naturally get a rich share of the family property. And this family property is enough to maintain Bai Yuting's life without worry.
No matter whether Bai Yuting will get married or not in the future, what kind of person she marries, she has money in her hands, and her life will be better.
The second grandmother had witnessed the unfortunate marriage of her sister-in-law Bai Yaping and her niece Xiangling. If Bai Yaping and Xiangling are not smart and strong enough to have such a tragic encounter, then the second grandmother herself is also a heroine among women, shrewd and capable, will she be happy? Perhaps, only she herself knows how much grievance she has swallowed and how much sacrifice she has made.
A woman, whether strong or vulnerable, smart or simple, meets a good man or a bad man, and must be sacrificed to varying degrees in marriage. If you understand the way of marriage management, life can still go on; if you don't have that wisdom, married life will be very difficult.
The second grandmother understood that Bai Yuting had not been beaten by life, innocent and simple, and untamed, and marriage was not the best choice for her.
Instead of that, it's better to be free. With a family property, she does not have to rely on men for the sake of life.
Of course, before the second grandmother died, she did not explicitly state that Bai Yuting was not allowed to marry Wan Xiaoju. Because she understood that Bai Yuting was a tendon, it was useless for outsiders to stop it. If Bai Yuting insisted on marrying, no one could stop her except wan Xiaoju, the party concerned.
In this case, the family property is Bai Yuting's regret medicine. When she suffered a lot in her marriage and was discouraged, she still had the capital to come out and live on her own.
In summary, the second grandmother ostensibly ignored Bai Yuting's marriage, but in fact, all aspects were considered for Bai Yuting.
Like all mothers in the world who love their daughters, she hopes that her daughter will listen to her own words and not risk loving a man who should not be loved, but if her daughter wants to act willfully, it is the mother who will eventually surrender.
What the mother cares about is never that she loses to her daughter, what she cares about is whether her daughter will lose happiness in the big gamble of life.
The second grandmother did not want her daughter to bear the tragic price of gambling and loss, so she tried her best to cover her daughter. Even if you can't hold it, you must leave enough gambling funds for your daughter before dying. That is the confidence and capital of Bai Yuting's casual life.