The second grandmother and Yang Jiuhong in "The Gate of the Big Mansion", the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law met for the first time, and they were full of gunpowder.
The second grandmother asked, "Which house is this woman?" Stop, so ignorant of the rules! Come back! ”
Yang Jiuhong replied, "I am Jiali's mother!" ”
The second grandmother asked Bai Jiali, "Is she your mother?" ”
Bai Jiali said coldly, "No, I don't have a mother!" ”
The second grandmother said, "You all heard it!" Jing Qi is here, give me this faceless..."
Bai Jingqi walked towards Yang Jiuhong in embarrassment.
Seeing this paragraph, I was thinking: The second grandmother has always been generous to others, can be considerate and tolerant of the next person; can be generous to the opponents in the business; and can fully protect the little uncle Bai Yingyu, who has always been against her.
Why did the second grandmother change her previous generosity and become ruthless when she arrived at Yang Jiuhong? Not only did he disregard his dignity and tear his face with Yang Jiuhong in public, but he also ordered Bai Jingqi to beat Yang Jiuhong, which was not to embarrass his son?
Looking at it now, I understand that the second grandmother's ruthless humiliation of Yang Jiuhong stems precisely from the complex and delicate mother-child relationship between her and Bai Jingqi.
1. The delicate mother-child relationship between the second grandmother and Bai Jingqi
Outside, the second grandmother does not let her eyebrows be raised, which can be said to be a strong woman in the workplace, but her ideological tradition is still safeguarding the interests of the patriarchal society.
At home, she was a strong mother and a majestic parent. She takes the rules very seriously, and everyone must abide by the house rules and must not violate them.
Bai Yaping and Bai Yufen had both complained that the second grandmother was unkind. These two are the aunts of the two generations of the Bai family, and the second grandmother usually tries to treat and tolerate them as well as possible, but they still evaluate the second grandmother. It can be seen that the strength of the second grandmother is indeed difficult to accept.
And Bai Jingqi and Bai Yuting, as children, live under the power of the second grandmother every day, what should it feel like?
Usually under the suppression of a strong mother, the child will go to two extremes, either without a little opinion, obeying the mother's arrangement, or desperately resisting and doing everything against the mother.
Obviously, Bai Jingqi and Bai Yuting chose the latter, and the more the second grandmother valued the rules and regulations, the more deviant they were. The second grandmother does not look at bitches and dramas, they prefer such people.
Bai Yuting is a girl, and the second grandmother spends relatively less attention on her. And Bai Jingqi is the only son, the second grandmother naturally attaches more importance to it, has higher expectations, and of course has more requirements.
Bai Jingqi was stubborn from an early age and did not obey discipline. The second grandmother did not fight with this son.
She was worried and worried, and invited many teachers for Bai Jingqi, but they were all angry and ran away. Later, Ji Zongbu took the initiative to become Bai Jingqi's teacher, and under the tutelage of this Mr. Ji, Bai Jingqi really changed a lot.
Time flew by, and Bai Jingqi grew up. But he still loves to break into trouble, loves to tease people, and the second grandmother can no longer chase and beat him, but can't move to make him kneel, and reprimand and educate him in public.
Despite this, the second grandmother believed that in the face of great right and wrong, in the face of morality and ethics, Bai Jingqi was measured.
However, the second grandmother was punched in the face again and again. Every time she thought that Bai Jingqi was obedient, she would always quickly fall from a short period of relief to the bottom of disappointment.
She wouldn't have thought that she would be wrestling with this son until her death, trying to make him listen to her. But Bai Jingqi has been rebellious all his life.
This pair of powerful mothers and sons have to fight, and it is inevitable that the people around them will be involved as targets. And Yang Jiuhong, a kiln sister who is not tolerated by the world, is one of them.
2. The second grandmother robbed the child, and Yang Jiuhong was the target for the first time
I analyzed in the previous article why Bai Jingqi desperately wanted to marry Huang Chun, the daughter of the enemy family. Because he insists not only on his own love, but also on his own will and strength.
At that time, Bai Jingqi experienced the medicine of An Guo, experienced the death of his life mentor Mr. Ji, and experienced the turmoil of the times, all of which accelerated Bai Jingqi's awakening and growth.
He desperately needed to show his strength and prove himself. He does not want to exist as the "son of the second grandmother", he wants to live his own appearance.
Marrying Huang Chun, the daughter of the enemy family, is a very legitimate reason for him to openly rebel against the second grandmother, and it is also an opportunity for him to prove his strength.
And the second grandmother did not believe that Bai Jingqi would make a lifelong secret agreement with Huang Chun, and dared to kill foreigners and make friends with Japanese soldiers, when Bai Yingyu came to her to file a complaint, she vowed to ask Bai Jingqi to confront her face to face, and as a result, she was punched in the face on the spot and vomited blood.
This was Bai Jingqi's first struggle with his second grandmother after he became an adult. As a result, the second grandmother kicked him out of the house, he came to Jinan to start a business, and he met Yang Jiuhong when the spring breeze was triumphant.
And the second grandmother received the silver ticket sent back by Bai Jingqi in Beijing, and she was not happy in her heart. She thought that Bai Jingqi would go to the right path from now on and stop messing around. But unexpectedly, he went to prison for a kiln sister, and secretly became close to Yang Jiuhong and gave birth to a child.
The second master was critically ill, and Bai Jingqi hurried back to Beijing, so that the mother and son could talk about Yang Jiuhong face to face.
In this regard, the attitude of the second grandmother is that Bai Jingqi is already an adult, and she can't control his affairs outside, but Sister Yao's heart is not right, and she can't enter the door of the mansion.
The second grandmother was very dissatisfied with Bai Jingqi's repeated disobedience to her, but Bai Jingqi and Yang Jiuhong already had children, and she had no choice.
When Bai Yufen brought Yang Jiuhong's mother and daughter back to Beijing, the second grandmother said bluntly to Bai Yufen that she would only bring the child back.
Obviously, the second grandmother wants to go to the mother to keep the child, so she snatched Bai Jiali is not a temporary intention, but a long-planned plan.
Later, it was Yaping who was kind and secretly gave the child to Yang Jiuhong and hugged her back.
The second grandmother had no choice, so she forced Bai Jingqi to carry the child back.
Bai Jingqi was very embarrassed and advised the second grandmother not to compete, who the child followed, she was the child's grandmother.
But the second grandmother said: "I still have to be more energetic today." Dare you still turn to her aren't you? ”
As a strong mother, the second grandmother could not stand her son disobeying her again and again, and spoke to a kiln sister.
At this time, she was more determined to rob the child's heart, because she robbed not only the granddaughter, but also the son's heart.
Therefore, she deliberately let Bai Jingqi hold the child, not because she did not understand the embarrassment of Bai Jingqi sandwiched in the middle, but to see how Bai Jingqi chose in the dilemma.
This time, the second grandmother won. Bai Jingqi ignored Yang Jiuhong's prayers and forcibly took the child away. His explanation to Yang Jiuhong was that his mother had made him do it, and he couldn't do it.
Bai Jingqi said this, more like a mother treasure man. But in fact, it is his own selfishness, do not want to be caught in the middle of the embarrassment, so he chooses the easiest way to solve - sacrificing the weak Yang Jiuhong.
Later, he saw that Bai Jiali only recognized her grandmother, not even his father, and he really felt the pain.
Because of this, he only violated the yin and yang after that, ostensibly agreed to the second grandmother to chase Yang Jiuhong at the station, but in fact deliberately let Yang Jiuhong return to Jinan to give birth to the second child, that is, he was worried that the child would be robbed after birth.
The second grandmother took the child for the second time and lost, but Bai Jingqi did not win, because Yang Jiuhong miscarried on the train.
Yang Jiuhong, the target, left for ten years, and the second grandmother and Bai Jingqi were also considered to be harmonious between mother and child in this decade. But their struggle is not over.
3. Yang Jiuhong returned to Beijing, and the second grandmother and Bai Jingqi began the final battle
Yang Jiuhong has been away from Beijing for ten years. In this ten years, Bai Jingqi only went to Jinan to see Yang Jiuhong twice.
In this long period of time, Bai Jingqi was under the eyes of the second grandmother, and he was also peaceful and obedient, which can be described as the victory of the second grandmother.
But the joy of this victory quickly dissipated with Yang Jiuhong's return.
That day, Bai Jingqi brought his second grandmother to visit the new house he built. The second grandmother said, "When is your aunt going to pick it up?" ”
As the victorious party, the second grandmother is willing to take a high posture and make appropriate concessions.
Bai Jingqi said: "I have already asked someone to go to Jinan to pick me up." ”
When the second grandmother heard this, she said, "You have established a family business, built a new house, and loved who to pick up, and I will not be able to control it from now on." “
Although it was also to pick up Yang Jiuhong, the second grandmother ordered to pick up, and Bai Jingqi went to pick up privately, which was not the same. Obviously, the second grandmother had a strong sense of loss in her heart, she said this, the implication is nothing more than that Bai Jingqi's wings are hardened, he does not discuss anything with her, he makes decisions without authorization, and he does not put her as a mother in his eyes at all.
The second grandmother couldn't help but complain: "If you had listened to me, your nine reds shouldn't have left, and this child wouldn't have given birth on the train." ”
The second grandmother has been worried about this matter for ten years, I believe it is because a large family like the Bai family cares more about heirs, but I believe that the second grandmother is pregnant with Bai Jingqi and does not listen to her in this matter.
The second grandmother has been strong and shrewd all her life, even if she is old, she still needs the obedience of the family, especially the obedience of her son Bai Jingqi, she once thought that in this decade, she succeeded. But unexpectedly, it was she who was self-righteous.
This is undoubtedly a painful blow, the second grandmother can not accept it, must fight back.
Therefore, the second grandmother met Yang Jiuhong in the new house and deliberately asked her: "Which way are you an aunt and grandmother, how do I not know?" ”
So there was the fiery dialogue at the beginning of the article.
Bai Jiali's sentence "I don't have a mother" is a knife of the second grandmother, she is not addicted to killing people, and she unceremoniously said to Bai Jingqi: "Give me this faceless." ”
I used to think that the reason why the second grandmother humiliated Yang Jiuhong so shamelessly was because she was disappointed in Yang Jiuhong, who had not learned to restrain her temperament for so many years, and she did not understand the rules and etiquette.
Now that I think about it, it's not all because of this, even if Yang Jiuhong was respectful that day, the second grandmother would still find an opportunity to humiliate her.
Because she wanted to vent her dissatisfaction with Bai Jingqi on Yang Jiuhong's body. She forced Bai Jingqi to beat Yang Jiuhong for this reason.
She is old, her son built a new house to move out, and also privately took Yang Jiuhong back to Beijing, which is equivalent to escaping her control, her loss is greater than comfort, she feels that her majesty is not there, not willing.
Therefore, the most important thing for her to make such a scene in public is not to make rules for Yang Jiuhong, but to the Bai family up and down, especially Bai Jingqi, to illustrate one thing: she is still the second grandmother who said one thing at the beginning, and no one can disobey.
She needed Bai Jingqi to stand up and take a stand.
Although Bai Jingqi was embarrassed and had the heart to avoid, in front of everyone, he still had to be a filial piety. Therefore, he slowly walked to Yang Jiuhong.
At the most tense time, Bai Yingyu came out to play the round field and called the second grandmother to listen to him sing. The second grandmother came down the steps happily. Why? Because Bai Jingqi walked in front of Yang Jiuhong, even if she expressed her position, she had already achieved her goal, and she did not want to be too embarrassed to end it.
Bai Jingqi was well aware of the old mother's thoughts, so when Yang Jiuhong returned to the room and committed suicide, the servant called Out to Bai Jingqi several times, and he did not go back to see.
Before, I thought he was too cold and ruthless, but now he understands, because he understands one thing: the more he behaves in pain for Yang Jiuhong, the more fierce the second grandmother will make trouble. This is not good for anyone, it is better to chill Yang Jiuhong first, and then secretly appease.
This time, in the silent contest between the second grandmother and Bai Jingqi's mother and son, Yang Jiuhong once again became a target of many holes.
But this is not the most harmful, the second grandmother did her best to leave the sentence "Do not allow Yang Jiuhong to wear filial piety" before she died, which is to kill people without seeing blood.
The second grandmother left this last word, which was to warn the descendants of the Bai family to abide by the rules and marry their wives and wives, and it was also the last declaration of war against Bai Jingqi, which meant that the woman you married without permission would not be approved by me until I died. Without my approval, saying that it is useless to say anything, you don't have to be stubborn, settle down a little, don't be obsessed with that Yang Jiuhong, don't I reward you with a locust flower?
In that era, paying attention to "hundred good filial piety first", Bai Jingqi could not disobey, not to mention that the second grandmother was so solemn, and this sentence that was desperately said before swallowing breath could not be ignored.
This move before the second grandmother died did not give Bai Jingqi the slightest chance to fight back. Although she is dead, her last words will represent her will.
In this protracted struggle of the strong, it is the life of the weak that is trampled under the iron hoof. Watching Yang Jiuhong zero fall into the mud is sad and painful!