On the day of the second grandmother's funeral, the third grandmother helped Bai Yaping to the door of the mansion, and Ding Bingkuan helplessly said to them: "When is this, and your two old people are still following the coaxing?" ”
At this time, Bai Yaping said weakly, "Old lady, second sister-in-law, I want to go with you." ”
Bai Yaping sat on the palanquin and followed the brigade to send the second grandmother on the last journey.
Along the way, the famous and prestigious families in the capital all set up a road sacrifice shed for the second grandmother, and just when the leader reported to the seventh master that the front was the Guan family, Xiangling immediately ran to report to Bai Yaping.
As a result, Xiangling lifted the curtain and shouted "Mom" a few times to find that there was no reaction.
XiangLing probed Bai Yaping's sniffles with her hand, and at this time, she found that Bai Yaping had died.
Many people were touched by the sister-in-law relationship between Bai Yaping and the second grandmother, but there were also many people who were lamented by Bai Yaping's life's encounters.
Obviously, he was born with a golden key, and he was married
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On the configuration of the body, Bai Yaping belongs to the top match, gets a good hand of cards, but the result is not good for her own life.
What did Bai Yaping do wrong?
Bai Yaping is a proper Bai Fumei, who was born in the heyday of the Bai family.
There is a father on the top who loves him, three brothers on the bottom who protect him, and he and his second sister-in-law become good girlfriends in the middle.
Bai Yaping is not badly married, the public relations master is the editor of the Hanlin Academy, belongs to the Shuxiang Mendi, and the marriage between the two families of Bai Guan is a real strong and powerful combination.
Such a family lineage, such a marriage, even if Bai Yaping closes her eyes and lives a good life, she can live very well.
However, Bai Yaping does not like the atmosphere of the in-laws' home, she feels that her father-in-law has occupational diseases, and she has a face at home all day, and the old public relations Shaoyi is even more bored, and there is no heat in the whole body, and she stays like a piece of wood.
In Bai Yaping's eyes, the in-laws' home is not a warm place.
According to the reason, a family like this, with Bai Yaping's enthusiastic personality and like to worry about trivial things, as long as she takes the initiative a little and has more contact with her husband, this family believes that under her leadership, sooner or later there will be more life fireworks.
And her relationship with Guan Shaoyi was originally like two glasses of cold water, getting along for a long time, learning more, and the cold water also became warm water on the day.
However, Bai Yaping did not do this, she did the opposite.
After getting married, he ate and lived in his mother's house for many years, and after giving birth to a daughter and a son, he still did not change.
The second grandmother gave birth to Bai Jingqi, Guan Shaoyi went to the Bai family to drink full moon wine, during which he also offered to take her back, but he did not expect Bai Yaping to go back, or chose to live in her mother's house.
If you don't go back, your husband will not pick you up, and no matter how reasonable a man is, then he will slowly dislike such a daughter-in-law.
Bai Yaping's uneasiness has been guarded, so that her relationship with Guan Shaoyi did not change from cold to warm, but directly froze into ice.
Some people say that Bai Yaping lives in her mother's house all year round, and her parents also have responsibilities when it comes to responsibility.
There is a small truth to this statement.
A married daughter returns to her mother's house for many years, indicating that her marriage is problematic, at this time, parents should talk to their daughter about what is the problem and how to solve it.
However, in the Bai family, Old Master Bai never asked About Bai Yaping's marital status.
This is a little dereliction of duty as a father, but if it is to blame him completely, I do not agree with it.
Children do wrong things, the father did not tell the child its solution, it is the father's fault, and Bai Yaping is already an adult, growing up and does not know how to deal with their own problems, that is their own fault.
Therefore, the most wrong thing to do in living in her mother's house all year round is Bai Yaping herself.
Moreover, Bai Yaping is in her mother's house, and her brother and sister-in-law have some opinions, but it is only hindered by The fact that Old Master Bai is in charge, and everyone is not good at saying anything.
When Bai Yaping found out that the third brother had put the printing money, she ran to tell the second grandmother, and finally did not forget to remind the second grandmother not to let the third sister-in-law know.
At the end, Bai Yaping also said, "I still don't care about your family's affairs." ”
At this time, the second grandmother replied to her: "Do you have less control over this family's affairs?" ”
Later, Bai Laosan embezzled the public's money, and Uncle Bai wanted the money of the big house to fill the hole, and the grandmother desperately obstructed, causing the uncle to get angry and want to beat the grandmother.
At this time, Bai Yaping and the second grandmother arrived, and she spoke to the eldest brother first: "There are no men in my family who beat women." ”
Uncle Bai said to her impatiently, "If you marry out, you are not a member of the White Family, and you will not interject in the affairs of the family in the future." Go to your mother-in-law's house to preside over justice, soak in your mother's house every day, and count how to return to the child. ”
Generally when others are so resentful, they will calm down and think about each other's words.
However, after Bai Yaping was told this by the great master, he only asked one question: "Big brother, do you hate me too?" "Then I still live in my mother's house."
But as long as she has some understanding, she should take this opportunity to return to her in-laws' house and live her own life well.
Bai Yaping not only has no understanding, but also does not pay much attention to children.
After Bai Yaping gave birth to a son, she took her to her mother's house to raise her, and as a result, in order to make her nephew happy, she held her child high.
As a result, the third brother who broke into the door was startled and fell to his death by throwing the child on the ground.
Since then, her husband has hated her to the bone, and Bai Yaping has also gone insane.
The son is dead, she still has a daughter, and she is also young, if you take this time to atone for your sins, go back to your in-laws' house to take your daughter well, and then have another child with her husband, or live a good life.
But Bai Yaping still did not go back.
Later, the husband married the second room, her daughter Xiangling because there is no mother around, in the Guan family is often abused by the aunt, it is the young Bai Jingqi and Yahuan can not bear it, quietly go to bring Xiangling back to the Bai family.
Gradually, Bai Yaping, who was accustomed to living in her mother's house, was doomed to not be able to return to the Guan family, and even the family did not pay attention to her.
Since you can't go back, you have to consider your future.
At that time, the second grandmother was already in charge, Bai Yaping had the best relationship with her, and the second grandmother also regarded her as a sister.
If Bai Yaping knows how to plan for herself, she can follow the second grandmother, even if she can't learn her wisdom, she can also learn some principles for living in the world.
As long as she gradually becomes enlightened, she does a small business and the like, which is enough to support herself and her daughter.
However, After entering middle age, Bai Yaping will only accompany her nephews to play and waste a lot of study time.
It is no wonder that when the Bai family was in trouble, Bai Laosan said impatiently to her: "All day long pretending to be stupid, cheating on eating and drinking, our family has been eating dried radish pickles all day, you are still eating white rice here, hurry back to your broken mother-in-law's house." ”
Later, foreign soldiers invaded, and everyone fled Beijing.
The second grandmother wanted to take Bai Yaping's mother and daughter with her, and as a result, Guan Shaoyi came to the Bai family and only wanted to take her daughter.
Xiangling refused to leave, she knew that bai yaping would not be taken care of, and the second grandmother did not agree, Guan Shaoyi finally had no choice but to take Bai Yaping and Xiangling away together.
Who knows, when I went to Guan's house, the second room could not accommodate Bai Yaping, and Guan Shaoyi did not want to sit in the same car with her, and Bai Yaping was left behind by everyone.
Until Bai Laosan came to guan's house with a group of foreign soldiers, they saw Bai Yaping and directly pulled into the room to bully, and when they came out, Bai Yaping went crazy.
Bai Yaping's life is good to say good, and it is not good to say bad.
When he was young, he was covered with parents and brothers;
In middle age, there are two grandmothers to take care of;
In his later years, he was accompanied by his nephew Bai Jingqi and his daughter Xiangling.
No matter what time, she does not lack a good meal to eat, which is the good side of Bai Yaping's life.
After all, putting aside the marriage problem, Bai Yaping also has advantages.
She is both upright and kind, and when she sees something wrong, she will say it directly.
Bai Jingqi did not cry when he was born, Bai Laosan said a lot of unlucky words, Bai Yaping listened to him and said to his face: "You are talking, I will smoke you with my big mouth." ”
Bai Jingqi and Bai Jingwu fight, and when Bai Laosan scolds Bai Jingqi, Bai Yaping directly asks him how he can discipline the child in this way.
Later, the second grandmother took away Yang Jiuhong's daughter, and Bai Yaping was not afraid of offending the second grandmother, so she sent her daughter back to Yang Jiuhong.
Therefore, this is also the reason why Bai Yaping lives in her mother's house all year round, but her mother's family still respects her up and down.
If Bai Yaping would play this advantage in her in-laws' family, it would have had a different ending.
After all, her husband's hatred for her and the resentment against the Bai family were gradually formed because of her not going back, and the moment when she fell to her son.
Bai Yaping had a good hand of cards and played a mess.
Her ending also told all female friends that once married, no matter how good the mother's family background is, how much her parents and brothers love themselves, the mother's family still should not run too hard.
Living your own little home with peace of mind is the king.
(The pictures are all from the stills of "The Gate of the Mansion.")