In "The Gate of the Big House", the scene where Bai Jingqi and Xiangxiu meet for the first time is very interesting.
Bai Jingqi went to see the second grandmother, and when he saw the second grandmother's pet dog at the door, he couldn't help but pick it up.
At this time, Xiangxiu came out and loudly ordered, "Put down! Put it down! Hear no, tell you to put it down! ”
Bai Jingqi looked at Xiangxiu with an intriguing eye, wondering which room head's handmaiden dared to talk to him like this.
The hu manager next to her reprimanded her: "This is the Seventh Master, there are no rules!" ”
After knowing Bai Jingqi's identity, Xiangxiu did not have the slightest sense of fear, and still said without humility: "Then this dog cannot be held by anyone except me, give it to me!" ”
Bai Jingqi asked in a deep way, "Tell me, which room is the head?" ”
Xiangxiu replied, "You can't control it, give it to me!" With that, she snatched the dog and carried it into the house.
Xiangxiu is a 14-year-old country girl, the second grandmother only bought her to hold the dog, she dared to confront Bai Jingqi, that heroic, not to lose the second grandmother and Bai Yufen.
But the second grandmother and Bai Yufen are arrogant, have family lineage and strength to do the bottom, where does Xiangxiu's confidence come from?
Now, I understand that the capital that Xiangxiu relies on is something that many Miss Qianjin does not have. She can go from holding a dog to a rich lady, and she can't do without this.
1. What kind of girl is Xiangxiu?
The second grandmother came to Bai Jingqi's new house to visit, talking and laughing along the way, and dropped the pet dog big top. The second grandmother especially likes the big top and is anxious for people to find it.
Wang Xiguang, the head of the new house, found a big top by the lotus pond, and he was playing with a little girl. Wang Xiguang walked over and scolded with his head covered: Whose wild? Is this dog also something you can hold? ”
Wang Xiguang said, and then picked up the big top to leave. Who knew that the big top bit Wang Xiguang for a moment, jumped out of his arms, and went to play with the little girl again.
Wang Xiguang was so angry that he wanted to beat the dog, but the little girl guarded him, picked up the dog and said, "Bite him, bite him!" ”
At this time, the second grandmother came over and asked the little girl, "Are you willing to go back with me and play with this dog every day?" ”
Wang Xiguang encouraged from the side: "Say yes quickly, your blessing is coming." ”
The little girl was still a little moved, and was hesitating, when she heard Wang Xiguang say this, she directly left a sentence and ran away: "Unwilling!" ”
This little girl was Xiangxiu, who was only 14 years old at the time and was wearing a patched dress. But it is such a wild, who dares to fight with Wang Xiguang and dares to refuse the blessing that is within reach.
In fact, she can be so humble and undaunted, without fear, and the confidence comes from her parents.
2. Xiangxiu's luck, even the current girls can not compare
Seeing Xiangxiu's first appearance, I always think of Li Qingzhao, the first talented woman in the ages. Although putting her and Li Qingzhao together, compared to each other, it is a bit absurd. But they do have something in common.
Although Li Qingzhao was born in the feudal era, his parents were very enlightened, and never confined her to a deep boudoir, but gave her enough freedom to take her out to see the world.
It is precisely in this way that she is not bound by the identity of "everyone's bridesmaid", has her own independent personality, she drinks and writes like a man, talks about politics; she is not afraid of authority, and judges famous lyricists and literary heroes, saying that the words they make are not like "words".
Like Li Qingzhao, Li Xiangxiu is brave and fearless, not afraid of authority, and has a distinct personality and independent thoughts. They all have enlightened, loving parents. It is the kind of parents who give them the atmosphere to grow up freely, so that they have the space to show their personality.
Although Xiangxiu's father was only a country craftsman, not as good as Li Qingzhao's father who was full of poetry and books, he did not value sons over daughters, but extremely loved this daughter, went out to work, and also took her with him to see the world.
Wang Xiguang asked him to buy Xiangxiu, he categorically refused, he said that he only had such a daughter, he did not want money, he wanted a daughter.
The second grandmother later said a sentence to Xiangxiu's cousin: "You people, I understand at a glance that hate can't use the bitch's head as a cash cow, a lifetime of eating and drinking, hate can't all be squeezed out of this bitch's body." ”
It can be seen that at that time, it was very common to treat the daughter as a cash cow. But Xiangxiu's father is an exception, he loves Xiangxiu very much.
The reason why he finally let Xiangxiu enter the Bai family was probably that Xiangxiu's mother agreed. She thought that the Bai family was a good family, and she had helped them, thinking that her daughter would not be wronged when she went there.
Xiangxiu's mother had not read any books, she was a woman who could not read big characters, but she gave Xiangxiu a good maternal love. There is no shortage of shrewdness and survival wisdom in her simplicity.
This can be seen by looking at the appropriate thoughtfulness of her reception of Bai Jingqi in the back, and after Bai Jingqi was imprisoned, the Bai family was in deep crisis, and it was she who gave Xiangxiu support.
In that patriarchal society, Xiangxiu, as a low-level girl, can have such parents, and it is a great fortune to be loved by her parents like this, which is incomparable to many Miss Qianjin, even if it is placed now, it is also to make many girls envious.
And this is the bottom line of Xiangxiu. A girl who has been unconditionally loved since childhood, she has a high sense of self-worth, and has the courage to fight against worldly injustices and prejudices, and to live her own humble and unassuming.
3. Xiangxiu can become a rich wife, the first thing to rely on is personality
Many people say that Xiangxiu can get to the top by relying on heart tricks. Of course, the heart is essential, but her first thing is personality.
Xiangxiu's first appearance dared to call Out Wang Xiguang and dare to reject the second grandmother; the first time he saw Bai Jingqi, he dared to speak out, and he dared to rob the dog, so arrogant, is so personality.
And Bai Jingqi can watch Xiangxiu, precisely because she likes her personality, the two people have similar temperaments.
But Xiangxiu was not willing to be a concubine. She wasn't as docile as the locust flower, as long as she listened to someone else's arrangement. She was not as satisfied as Acacia, and felt that a concubine for a servant was already very satisfied.
Xiangxiu has never been inferior because she is a handmaiden, she is always self-respecting and confident, quarreling with Yang Jiuhong, being said twice by Bai Jingqi, she dared to leave privately, and said: "Where do you not eat a bowl of clean rice?" ”
She not only inherited her father's backbone, but also relied on her ability to eat, and was unwilling to suffer from the nest. At the same time, she also inherited her mother's shrewdness and wisdom of survival.
When Bai Jingqi found her home, she offered to be a wife, and when she saw Bai Jingqi hesitate, she deliberately used the radical method to stimulate him.
She can use this trick, and it can't be considered how clever, after all, where is Bai Jingqi's age, her little trick, he can see through it all.
But she dared to force Bai Jingqi so hard, not afraid of the risks, because she grew up nourished by love since she was a child, had enough security, and was never afraid of losing, let alone being abandoned. Even if she is not successful, her parents will still hurt her, love her, she has a way out, there is a choice, so she has confidence.
Of course, in the end she succeeded. Bai Jingqi would rather go against the whole family, make the wedding beautiful, and marry her home.
4. Being loved as a child is the armor of a person's life
Yang Jiuhong had not waited for decades, and Xiangxiu succeeded in one fell swoop. Where did Yang Jiuhong lose? She loses mainly on her own character.
Yang Jiuhong has no bottom line of principle, and there will be more difficulties in small things, and easy compromises on major matters, such as reconciling with her brother-in-law who sold her, and taking them over; for example, if she achieves a little success, she will get carried away, and there is no tolerance for people, and finally forced to die.
Yang Jiuhong has such a personality, mainly affected by the growth environment.
She lost her parents from childhood, was sold to the kiln by her brother-in-law, was not well loved, lacked a sense of security, had a low sense of self-worth, she would desperately grasp what she could grasp, refused to let go, was afraid of losing, and lived a crumbling life all her life, as if she would fall to the brink of collapse at any time.
And Xiangxiu was nourished and raised by love, and her pride, self-esteem and courage all came from this.
Writer Zhuang Yu once said on the stage of "I am an orator": "Even when I was full of pimples and weighed 140 pounds, I still felt that I was a cherished child. Even in the face of a huge blow, standing on the verge of collapse, I still did not give up on myself... Being loved as a child is a lifelong armor. ”
As a parent, no matter how poor life is, no matter how much you struggle at the bottom, the love for your children cannot be destroyed by poverty.
Because the lower the children, the more they need spiritual support, the more they need the love of their parents and their families, which is the most abundant nourishment they have obtained in the barrenness, the foundation on which they build the edifice of life, and the armor of their whole life.