There is an impressive scene in "The Gate of the Great Mansion": Bai Yuting's eyes fluttered, and she walked to the famous character Wan Xiaoju, who was unloading makeup in the background, and whispered a few words to him gently, tricking him into his room.
Later, Wan Xiaoju came out of Bai Yuting's room, nervous and sweaty, and just bumped into Bai Jingqi, he wiped his sweat while panicking and said: "Don't dare to be, really don't dare to be!" Shame on you! ”
When I saw this, I admired Bai Yuting, as a Miss Qianjin, who could break the shackles of the world and boldly and actively confess to a play, which was really courageous and courageous.
But after more than 10 years, it is even more touching to see wan xiaoju who fled in a hurry. The more he refused, the more respectable he became. Unfortunately, Bai Yuting, who loved him deeply, was very blind, loved in the wrong direction, and she did not find the most precious and worthy of love for Wan Xiaoju.
1. Wan Xiaoju rejected Bai Yuting three times, and each time it was more respected than the last
Wan Xiaoju went to the Bai family to sing the church. Bai Yuting came backstage and generously showed her liking for him: "I have never played your play, and I have listened to this "Great Britain" nine times. ”
Wan Xiaoju thanked her politely and thanked her for her presence.
Unexpectedly, Bai Yuting continued, "You take me as an apprentice, I will go to the sea." ”
Wan Xiaoju declined, "That's not possible, Miss, you are a golden branch and jade leaf, how can you enter our line?" ”
This was the first time Wan Xiaoju had rejected Bai Yuting.
It can be seen that although Wan Xiaoju is a famous actor in Beijing, he also understands that as a drama, he is destined to be inferior. No matter how famous he is, he can't change the world's view of drama. He is self-aware, and he knows how to divide and measure, and is polite and polite to Bai Yuting.
For Bai Yuting, Wan Xiaoju's refusal this time did not cause her a blow. She was only tempted this time, and through this temptation, she came to the conclusion that Wan Xiaoju did not understand her mind at all, he just regarded her as one of countless fans. She had to show her love more bluntly.
So, later, she directly tricked Wan Xiaoju into her room and boldly confessed to him.
As a result, Wan Xiaoju was frightened and fled in a hurry, and along the way, her mouth kept saying: "Shame and shame!" ”
When he met Bai Jingqi on the road, he said in a panic: "Seventh Master, I really don't dare to be it, I really don't dare to be it!" ”
He did not deliberately hide it, showing his frankness. After all, it was suspicious that a big man had never run out of the room of a lady and was sweating profusely. But he was open-minded, and in the face of Bai Yuting's warm confession, he did not have a ghost obsession, let alone did anything unseemly. Therefore, he is bright and honest, and he is not ashamed, and at the same time, he does not think that Bai Jingqi will maliciously guess him.
But he also did not reveal the truth on the spot. This not only maintained Bai Yuting's face, but also avoided Bai Jingqi's embarrassment. After all, Bai Yutingtang, a miss of a thousand gold, took the initiative to pursue men and was rejected, and it was not honorable to be known.
Wan Xiaoju's refusal this time, although she seemed overwhelmed by the shock, she also instinctively saved Bai Yuting's face, being bright and honest, humble and thoughtful.
However, Bai Yuting fell deeper and deeper, obsessed, and he begged Bai Jingqi to let Bai Jingqi go to Wan Xiaoju's house to propose to him. She would rather give Wan Xiaoju a concubine, as long as she can stay by his side, she will be satisfied.
Bai Yuting was so infatuated and so humble, but Wan Xiaoju still ruthlessly refused this family affair.
Wan Xiaoju's refusal this time is the most hurtful, but also the most respectable, he let us see the affection and responsibility of a man.
2. Wan Xiaoju's not marrying Bai Yuting is actually a kind of affection and sobriety
The Bai family is extremely prestigious in the capital, rich and powerful, and Wan Xiaoju is even if it is red, it is still a drama, he dares to risk offending the Bai family and refuse this family affair, how much courage should it take!
Wan Xiaoju's determination is very valuable and sober.
But gui did not have the heart of climbing the magnate, and he had a deep affection for his wife, even in the face of the rich and powerful Bai Yuting, he did not have a heart.
Sober in his understanding of feelings and human nature, he deeply understood that some love will only bear bitter consequences, rather than this, no result is the best result.
Because he understands that the identities of two people are placed there, even if they overcome all kinds of obstacles, they will not be happy in the end.
Wan Xiaoju is a drama, and has seen all kinds of women boldly pursue love. The Seven Fairies, Bai Suzhen, are not afraid of the shackles of the world, bravely pursue love, but basically all end in tragedy. Bai Suzhen was pressed under the Leifeng Pagoda, and the Seven Fairies and Dong Yong looked at each other across the galaxy.
This kind of story is poignant and moving, but real life is not art, poignant is not what he wants, and a happy and stable family is real.
What's more, he is a dramatist, and there is a family room, which cannot be compared with Xu Xian and Dong Yong.
At that time, the drama was considered to be three or nine streams, and Wan Xiaoju knew that she could not change the prejudice of the world, and at the same time knew how harmful this prejudice was.
And Bai Yuting is the Bai family's Miss Qianjin, she has never been beaten by life, she is wantonly warm, has the capital, has the courage to live according to her own preferences, and pursues what she likes, and can ignore it.
But if she really married Wan Xiaoju, the criticism and grievances she would have to bear were unimaginable to her.
At this point, Wan Xiaoju's heart is like a mirror.
The identities of the two people are hugely different, even if Bai Yuting does not care about the criticism of the outside world, does not care about identity, puts down her self-esteem and face, and prefers to make a concubine for Wan Xiaoju. And then what?
Sharing a husband with other women is either jealous or aggrieved. A woman as high and proud as Bai Yuting, the former she despises, the latter she can't do.
Maverick, if she wants to enter marriage, she is to walk into the cracks of reality, and she will only be squeezed beyond recognition and broken.
For Wan Xiaoju, Bai Yuting's love and sacrifice were the weight of life that he could not bear.
If he accepts it because of a momentary touch, then he will feel very tired in the long days after marriage. Because in this relationship, he has to try his best to remind himself not to fail Bai Yuting and treat her well, this woman has paid too much.
It is equivalent to saying that he must always live a married life with a heavy moral shackle, such a day is destined to be exhausting, not to mention that he can not only take care of Bai Yuting's emotions, he also has a wife and children.
This kind of intimacy that is unbalanced in the first place will not bring happiness at all, it will only make everyone miserable.
Therefore, Wan Xiaoju resisted great pressure and refused this family affair, which was a deep love for his wife, and even more a heartache and protection for Bai Yuting.
This sobriety, wisdom, single-mindedness and responsibility are so precious.
At this point, Bai Jingqi did a far worse job.
At the beginning, Yang Jiuhong took the initiative to redeem himself to bai jingqi, bai jingqi was originally unwilling to marry a kiln sister, but when he saw Yang Jiuhong waiting outside for three days and three nights with a cool mat, his heart softened. After marrying home, Bai Jingqi could not treat each other sincerely, but only coveted other people's bodies, and finally ruined Yang Jiuhong's life.
I have to say that sometimes the most ruthless people are the most ruthless, and the heartless people are affectionate.
3. Bai Yuting has no vision, just blindly pursues Wan Xiao Ju, and does not understand the most lovely place of Wan Xiao Ju
Unfortunately, Bai Yuting had never seen the most real and precious side of Wan Xiaoju, all she saw was the stage and the Wan Xiaoju she imagined.
She blindly pursues her self-righteous love. In fact, she was just tired of the boring life and wanted to find an ideal and interesting life.
As the only daughter of the second grandmother, she has enjoyed the infinite love of her family since she was a child, and her brother Bai Jingqi is infinitely tolerant and protective of her.
It can be said that Bai Yuting lacks nothing, whether it is material or love. It's a blessing, but sometimes it's also a pity.
There is a line in the Korean drama "Squid Game" that makes a lot of sense: "Do you know what penniless people have in common with people with rich families?" It's that life is no fun at all. If you have a wealth in your family, no matter what you buy or use to satisfy your appetite, you will eventually become lifeless. ”
Perhaps, Bai Yuting has found that life is boring since she was a teenager.
In addition, at that time, her favorite brother Bai Jingqi started a business in Jinan, no one played with her, there were more boys and fewer girls in the family, and there were no playmates of the same age, she must be lonely and boring, only listening to the drama for recreation.
Since then, she has been fascinated by Wan Xiaoju.
Her pursuit of Wan Xiaoju is not so much because of love and infatuation, but because she is tired of the boring life and challenges to old ideas.
She had embraced new ideas, longed for love and marital autonomy, and longed for equal freedom. She admired the kiln sister Yang Jiuhong's courage to roll up the cold mat and wait for Bai Jingqi for three days and three nights.
It can be said that what she pursues is not only Wan Xiaoju, but also an ideal.
But this ideal is contrary to worldly life, and she wants to marry Wan Xiaoju, thinking that she wants to let the ideal shine into reality, but the most likely result is that the ideal is touched by reality.
Yang Jiuhong is a living example, but unfortunately, Bai Yuting only saw Yang Jiuhong's original courage, but did not see her pain, distortion and brokenness in marriage.
Of course, the courageous and persistent pursuit of a person is admirable. But true love is not what is said online: I love you is my own business, it has nothing to do with you.
I especially don't approve of this sentence, just as I don't approve of Bai Yuting marrying a photo of Wan Xiaoju.
Love needs to be responded to, and only through response can both parties establish deeper and more sincere emotions in interaction and understanding. Such emotions are solid and positive, and both parties will grow, transform, and become more perfect and beautiful in this relationship.
But if there is no response, then the person who persistently pursues it cannot understand the real other party. Just like Bai Yuting, all she loves is her fantasy wan xiaoju.
A lifetime of love for the virtual Wan Xiaoju, and ignoring the most real and valuable place of the other party, this is where Bai Yuting makes people sigh. Of course, it can also be said that she is an obsessive pursuit of ideals. Pathetic and honorable!