My mother-in-law is paralyzed, should I quit my job to take care of her?
Knowing that seeing a hot issue, I really feel that my head is shaking badly just by looking at the title, it turns out that the moral kidnapping of women in this society is not friendly to women, and there is such a thing, which is simply speechless.
The protagonist is a young mother who has not yet worked. Her mother-in-law was suddenly paralyzed by cerebral hemorrhage and could not take care of herself. The mother-in-law is widowed, has no wife, and only has the only son of her husband.
The protagonist is an only daughter, married for 2 years, and the daughter is 1 year old. Studying medicine, because the master's degree is about to graduate and can not find a job, when the mother-in-law is healthy, she signed up for the doctorate examination, prepared for half a year, and when she was about to face the examination, the mother-in-law was suddenly paralyzed. Paralyzed and needed to be cared for, this candidate became the topic of discussion at home.
The protagonist's husband is also a doctor, and the current career development prospects are bright, and it is naturally impossible to give up his career to take care of his mother. Another option is to hire a babysitter, which is a good choice for everyone, no need to delay the hostess, and in the conditions of their home is not unaffordable expenses. But people in the family feel that asking the babysitter to take care of it will not be dedicated, it is best to come by themselves, especially the husband is more obsessed with this, and said that he will be grateful in the future. To tell the truth, with his mother's current situation, the time is also limited, so let the heroine insist on a few more years.
The heroine is unwilling, does not want to be bound by family responsibilities, loses herself, is only in her 30s, and does not want to look at the head. If you promise to take care of your mother-in-law, your academic dreams will definitely be shattered, and if you don't agree to take care of it, you will be blamed by people in the family, and the rumors will be fiercer than the tiger.
Write at the back:
I think that people with a slightly correct view will advise girls: filial piety, but not foolish filial piety. After asking for a babysitter, it does not mean that you should throw up your hands, but if you don't hire a babysitter, it is your own internal friction.
In just a few years of youth, the time for a person to strive for the most is also limited. We should seize this time and do our best, otherwise it will be too late to regret when we are old and have no chance.
But many women are very capable of embedding themselves in the family. Who does not have their own ideals, without their own pursuits? But as a family system gradually improves, women who are often mothers and wives lose themselves and abandon their previous pursuits. Even in this era of shouting for women's independence, this would be taken for granted.
As for moral kidnapping, it depends on what you think. Whichever you choose, there will be gossip, and no matter what you do, there will always be people who will disagree. There is no need to live in the sneers of others, not to follow the so-called worldly opinions, but the attitude of one of them is very important, that is, the man in the middle: the husband of the woman, the son of the mother-in-law.
It is recommended to talk to this husband deeply, throw out his own thoughts and concerns, and then look at his attitude. If he is still obsessed with making you sacrifice yourself to complete your family, shouldn't you pay more attention to such a partner?
You tell me? Marriage is not easy, just be a practice, do it and cherish it.