"Why should I pick up the rags?"
"Then if you don't study, you'll have to pick up the rags!"
By chance, I saw a video.
My 6-year-old daughter didn't want to go to school early in the morning. The mother and the child's father have repeatedly failed to persuade, and this familiar scene has resonated with many parents.
Whenever school starts, I think about home, I just don't want to go to school.
When most parents face this situation, the most direct way is to come up and scold.
And this mother, directly to the class teacher to help the child take a day off, and herself also asked the company for a day off. I pulled out a large woven bag from home and took my daughter to pick up the garbage. The mother and daughter went along the road to pick up plastic bottles, and at first, the daughter was still very happy, but it didn't take long to say that she couldn't walk. But mom still firmly took her, walked three kilometers, picked up a few empty bottles for fifty cents. She earned fifty cents, and the child was still very happy, because this was the first time she had been paid through her labor.
On the way back, the daughter said she couldn't walk. Ask Mom, "Can we take a taxi home?" Mom said: "The starting price of a taxi costs 8 yuan, do you have money?" The daughter shook her head, and then looked at her mother again: "What about taking the bus?" "You need a dollar for one person to take the bus, is your money enough?" The daughter lowered her head, looked at the fifty cents in her hand, and was silent.
There was no way, she had to go back with her mother.
At this time, she saw a milk tea shop, but a cup of milk tea costs 12 yuan. The child's money is simply not enough to buy a cup of milk tea, there is no way, she can only follow her mother to continue to move forward. After walking for a while, it was close to noon, and just came to the door of a restaurant, the daughter told her mother that she was hungry and wanted to eat, but her mother said that it cost at least 20 yuan to eat a meal.
The child suddenly burst into tears. The emotions that had been backlogged for half a day exploded in an instant, crouching there buried in pain and crying that they wanted to go home.
The mother said to her daughter in a serious tone, learning is not for the mother to learn, but your own business, now if you can't even eat the pain of learning, you will have to eat more social suffering in the future. ”
Yes! If you can't even bear the suffering of learning, then you will have to endure even greater suffering in the future. After the mother's handling method was uploaded to the Internet, it was praised by many netizens. The traditional way of education can no longer meet the needs of current social education, and this kind of experiential education is an effective method for the growth of children.
Since it is more nonsensical, why not let the child experience it directly.
Let children deeply understand themselves and society by personally experiencing a certain thing or a certain situation, and gradually form their own new experiences, new concepts, new understandings, and constantly produce cycle stages. Let go and boldly let students dare to face the complex society, and do not avoid the contradictions in real life, so as to cultivate children's ability to adapt to nature and society, form a positive attitude towards life, and promote the teaching method of personality growth.
Since becoming a mother, I have deeply realized that "raising" children is not only nurturing, but also paying attention to education.
And the road to parenting is obstructive and long.