The daughter of li Meijin, a parenting expert, is a scum, which does not affect her prestige in the parenting circle

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People in the mother's circle, probably no one does not know Professor Li Meijin.

Li Meijin, a professor at the China Public Security University and a graduate tutor, is known as Professor Li Meijin, an expert who has long been engaged in the study of criminal psychology and adolescent psychological problems, and she is popular with mothers because she has her own set of parenting theories.

Professor Li Meijin's daughter was just an ordinary girl

Professor Li Meijin has a daughter, and now her daughter has long grown up, because her mother is very famous in the parenting circle, and her daughter's achievements naturally attract everyone's attention.

When people learned that her daughter was a very ordinary girl, and could even be described as a "school scum", some people began to cheer.

"It's ridiculous that my own daughters haven't been raised well, and it's ridiculous to teach others how to raise children!"

"The children I raise casually have better grades than her daughters, don't come out and shame anymore..."

Some people also compare Li Meijin's daughter with Yin Jianli's daughter, because the two people's parenting views are very different, and Yin Jianli has also publicly written a long article criticizing Li Meijin's parenting concept.

Nowadays, Li Meijin's daughter has long been an adult, she is not as good as her mother, rarely paid attention to, she is a happy, ordinary music teacher, like many ordinary ordinary people.

Although the daughter is a scum of the school, it does not affect the status of Professor Li Meijin in the hearts of mothers

Professor Li Meijin's daughter is an ordinary music teacher, but all parents who pay attention to Li Meijin's parenting concept basically understand this fact, but this does not affect The status of Professor Li Meijin in the hearts of mothers.

This also just shows that more and more parents have now got rid of the "achievement first" parenting thinking, and parents put their children's health and happiness and psychological growth in the first place.

Educating a child with a sound personality and positive personality is the top priority of parents, not everything depends on the results.

This is a good phenomenon, I believe that there will be fewer and fewer children in the future, because of psychological problems, because this year of parents have begun to reflect on the ultimate goal of educating their children.

Professor Li Meijin's daughter is ordinary, ordinary, as far as talent is concerned, it should be middle and inferior among ordinary children, and mathematics is always failed, and her academic performance is very poor.

But what does it matter? She found her own interest, turned her interest into work, lived happily, she is an ordinary person, an ordinary person who successfully enjoys life and affirms self-worth, is this not exactly what we as parents hope to see?

Professor Li Meijin's parenting concept focuses on mental health

Professor Li Meijin has never said what to do to raise a child with high scores, or an excellent child.

Her parenting concept focuses on allowing children to develop good habits, let children form a healthy psychology, let children have a sound personality, be full of positive energy when they become adults, love life, and be able to adapt well to the environment and society.

In the past ten years, almost every year, many teenagers choose to have a light life because of depression, why do the living conditions become better, the material conditions are abundant, but the children are not happy?

Because parents transfer their selfish desires to their children, parents do not complete the dream, hope to be completed through the child, children regardless of qualifications, whether they have the talent to learn, are rushed to the front line of learning by parents, spare time is seriously compressed, personal hobbies are deprived, such children can not be depressed?

Losing happiness and feeling stressed may still be transformed into motivation for adults, but for most children, it can only be a distortion of personality, either repressed to hurt themselves or to hurt others.

Either way, it's not the end parents want to see.

Accepting the child's possible ordinariness, mental health is the first priority

Each child has its own characteristics, and when they are born, although they look the same, they have different personalities.

Some children are naturally sensitive to language, some children are talented for drawing, some children like numbers, some children like rhythm...

I couldn't find two identical leaves, nor could I find two identical children.

If this is the case, then why can't we let go of our feelings and not force our children to compete for the first place?

The happy thing is that more and more moms now recognize this and will no longer try to gain satisfaction by forcing their children to learn.

In fact, from the daily life and the mothers of the communication can feel this, when we were young, the mothers gathered together to talk about the child's academic performance, I personally is deeply affected, my high school before the academic performance has been among the best, to the parents to bring unlimited glory, but also become their daily competition goals, but after high school, the mind has become more, with the pressure of parents, more and more uneasy, it is difficult to concentrate on learning, the grades have declined all the way.

Now that I think about that time, it is sad.

Now mothers get together and talk more about their children's interests, and few people talk about their children's achievements, and it can be determined from this point that this year's children will be happier and live more freely in the future.

As parents, we have to adjust our mentality, we must be mentally prepared: your child may be an ordinary child with ordinary qualifications, average learning ability, even if you work hard a thousand times, you still can't get good results.

When we accept this premise, we will no longer force our children to learn.

Developing good habits and forming a sound personality is the key to parenting

We should adjust the direction of our parenting, we raise children, educate children, not to let children glorify their ancestors, nor to make children become superiors.

Children are the crystallization of love, while the arrival of children has also produced a series of reactions, to parents and families to bring a lot of happiness, in addition to love, our hope for children is that they can be safe and happy, healthy and confident, can adapt to the environment very well, the future after leaving the protection of parents, can have a piece of their own sky.

Raising a child is very easy, raising a child with a sound personality is not so easy, and it is not so easy, the principle of adhering to is "making rules, urging children to abide by rules, giving children the freedom to choose", as for the future direction of children's lives, on the basis of chance, it still depends on the child's personal talent.