Some families around to have a second child, the reason is often to give the child a companion, and then the parents will not be there in the future, they are the closest blood relations in this world, but also to take care of each other and support each other.
When the parents' original intentions are mostly good, but in a family with brothers and sisters, can everyone's relationship really be as their parents expect to love each other for a lifetime?
In fact, the world is often unpredictable, especially in terms of feelings, and it is the most difficult to withstand the test of time.
When they are young, brothers and sisters may love each other, and when they are middle-aged, they will find that brothers and sisters will become more and more realistic.
If you want to have a good relationship with each other, you also need certain conditions. Otherwise, it will only drift apart, and eventually the relationship will not even be as good as ordinary friends.
Brothers and sisters, when they are young, are the best partners.
Have you found that children of families with many children often know how to hold groups better than only children?
When I was a child, I had a conflict with the neighbors and children, and the other party opened his mouth to "call my brother to help me" and "call my sister to beat you"... To tell the truth, I am still quite envious, because I can't find a helper.
Those who have brothers and sisters, even if they do not go out of their own homes, there are people who accompany them to play together. Whenever I listen to them talk about how to fight wits and courage with their brothers and sisters, they feel yearning, and they complain in their hearts about why their parents do not have one more child.
Seeing the little friends holding the benefits they received from their older siblings, I think it is the happiest thing in the world.
Even if they quarrel and fight together, and compete for the love of their parents, the lively atmosphere is something that only child families cannot ask for.
As they grew up, there were subtle changes between siblings, especially as adults, and their lives were different, leading to changes in their relationships with each other.
Among the brothers and sisters, some have lived a good life by studying hard, while others have struggled at the bottom of life and relied on their strength to eat.
Although the social division of labor is different, there should be no discrimination, but the difference in each other's circles will gradually cause everyone to be angry.
Often, people who have a good life feel that things they don't think, and the family reactions that are slightly worse are more sensitive, and in the long run, everyone's relationship has a gap, and they can no longer return to their young time.
If the life between brothers and sisters is still quite good, basically the relationship between each other is not much worse, I am afraid that the gap is too large, and the resulting impact may be unexpected.
In some families with many children, it is difficult for parents to be fair in a bowl of water and treat every child fairly.
When you are young, you don't feel anything, but as you get older, this resistance is more obvious.
In particular, parents are too doting on a child, resulting in him not learning and no skills, spending most of his time eating the old, and even involving brothers and sisters to contribute to their lives.
In this case, the relationship between them is certainly not much better. After all, brothers and sisters are related again, but when they become adults, they have their own families to take care of, and it is impossible to spend all the money and goods on their brothers and sisters.
Once their own family interests are damaged, it will inevitably involve the emotions of their partners. If the family is not harmonious and the life is not peaceful, then the relationship between brothers and sisters will inevitably be challenged.
There are also some people, who are not living well, feel that they are all family, with the same blood on their bodies, and their brothers and sisters should take care of themselves unshirkably.
However, brothers, clear accounting, even if the relationship is good, it is impossible to pin their hopes in life on their brothers and sisters.
After all, no one's happiness is within reach, it is earned by their own efforts little by little.
Brothers and sisters are willing to help you out of affection, not to help is the duty, in the end you want to live a good life by your own hands, rather than relying on the help of brothers and sisters.
If you are born without a golden key, you should figure out the direction of your struggle, you can ask your more successful brothers and sisters to give yourself some advice on life, but ask for money and things, as far as possible to avoid.
After all, after brothers and sisters become a family, they have changed from family to relatives, and it is impossible to be as young as when they were young, and there is no sense of boundaries.
When we were young, we all lived under the same roof, and when we grew up, we established our own families. Parents hope that brothers and sisters can love each other for a lifetime, and only in middle age do they understand that maintaining a relationship with each other requires conditions.
Brothers and sisters used to have a good relationship, but at this age, they must understand that if you want to maintain a lifetime of family affection, you can't just rely on the efforts of one party, communicate with each other, and follow certain conditions.
Brothers and sisters help you, you also have to respond, can not be taken for granted. Treating brothers and sisters as if they were interacting with friends can make each other's feelings develop more harmoniously.
Imagine whether you will be excessively demanding of your friends, and whether your friends will accept your demands beyond your own ability.
Therefore, do not cause contradictions because your requirements for brothers and sisters are beyond the measure.
When people reach middle age and have experienced the storms and ups and downs of the first half of their lives, they should understand that the interaction between people is conditional.
Even brothers and sisters cannot violate each other's principles and bottom lines.
Otherwise, no matter how deep the affection, it will be exhausted.
Maintaining the relationship between brothers and sisters, like all feelings, requires continuous giving, constantly pouring love and sincerity into this relationship.
Only by letting the other party feel your sincerity and solid affection can you be a relative who will not abandon you for a lifetime, as your parents wish.
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