The 12-year learning career seems to have been a process that every student needs to go through, but the students who can reach the end and enter the university door are not all, and it is inevitable that some students will give up and be abandoned for various reasons.
According to statistics, the suspension rate of primary and secondary school students will reach more than 20%, and even universities may not be able to escape the phenomenon of students suspending school, so we conducted a survey of 18 families who were suspended from school, and the reasons were alert to tens of millions of parents.
18 "families suspended from school" were exposed, and the reasons were a wake-up call for tens of millions of parents
8 reasons why families have their children suspended from school: "You see other people's children..."
In the process of children's learning, in fact, the encouragement of parents is particularly important, but it is precisely because parents give their children more expectations, so the expectation value of children will be further improved, and even when they see that their children are dissatisfied with a certain behavior or learning results, they will bluntly say "you see other people's children, how excellent."
This may be the "mantra" of many parents, thinking that this will wake up their children, but they will not expect to have a greater impact on their children, and even have a sense of frustration and lose more confidence, so they will suspend school.
3 Reasons why families have their children suspended from school: they give up because they are too stressed
Under the pressure of competition now, the implementation of the policy of diverting the middle school entrance examination and the super pressure of the college entrance examination are enough to make the students breathless, so in these 18 families, 3 families cause the reason for the suspension of children is that the children themselves, because of excessive pressure, so they choose to give up.
In the process of learning, the school will also give students more expectations, because it is related to the school's promotion rate, so it will also exert pressure accordingly, but too much pressure will lead to some depression among students, which is also the reason for the suspension.
7 reasons why families have their children suspended from school: too much focus on their children's learning outcomes, and do not care about the process of hard work
At the same time, some parents pay too much attention to their children's learning results and ignore the process of hard work, because each child's learning ability is different, and some students may have made enough efforts, but the improvement of grades is relatively slow.
However, this part of the parents will feel that the child is not really working hard, otherwise how can they not see the results, which has a relatively large impact on the child and hurts their confidence in learning.
analyse:
In this survey, we surveyed 18 families who have suspended school, and according to the reasons exposed by these 18 families, in fact, we can find to a certain extent that more than 15 families have caused their children to suspend school because of their parents, even if the children of other 3 families are too stressed, the pressure is also from the parents.
Every parent hopes that their child can have a good development in the future, so they give more expectations, but they do not expect that this will become a stone that hinders the progress of their classmates, and constantly beats their confidence in learning.
The current social competition is more and more so, for the students, it is natural to hope that they can become the role models in the hearts of the students, the pride of the teachers and the parents, but they have more than enough and lack of strength.
There are many reasons for the suspension of students, and according to the comprehensive reasons of these 18 families, the reason for the suspension of children is not that the children are rebellious, but "sick", psychologically ill, or emotionally ill.
Instead of creating a "fish tank" for children, it is better to create a "runway" for children
The current situation of most parents is that they hope that their children can develop within their own planning range, or it can be said that they have planned their children's lives in advance, and what they need to do is to do it according to their own requirements, but they do not know that it is a kind of constraint for their children.
We can also become such classmates as "children raised in the fish tank", who will be strictly controlled in terms of learning from an early age, and will be well protected in life, basically without experiencing the torture of life.
Perhaps from a certain point of view, this is the credit of the parents, who protect the child very little, but this credit has a side effect, that is, it does not make the child have an independent consciousness.
There are no excellent children in the fish tank, instead of creating a "fish tank" for the child, it is better to create a "runway" for the child, which is a very simple truth.
Life itself is a marathon, a child who will only learn is doomed to not win the long run of life, because there is no answer in the book for the problems encountered by children in future growth and life.
Good education is not what you teach, the child learns, but parents and children work together, parents should learn to listen to the child's heart, rather than blindly demanding and demanding, wanting to let the child give the results you want to see.
Everyone will have their own life, and a person's life is in their own hands, so I hope that parents will not interfere too much, and can change the intervention into encouragement and listening, which can also reduce the occurrence of children's suspension.
Today's topic: What do you think is the most basic reason for your child's suspension from school?