Introduction: With the change of lifestyle, more and more young parents pay more attention to their careers, but with children it is inevitable to be distracted, asking a childcare sister-in-law at home is not only not low in cost, but also letting outsiders take care of their children is always not enough to rest assured. therefore
Most of the people who have elderly people in the family will still choose to let the elderly take the children.
One is that the elderly have also been raised and experienced when they are young; the second is that the elderly will also prefer children, and the generations of relatives are also very good. But is it really foolproof to let grandparents and grandparents bring their children?
The child's 40-degree high fever is actually the grandmother's "deliberate" cover up, and the older generation is really good with the baby
The child's high fever of 40 degrees, but the grandmother "deliberately" covered it?
Ms. Zhang, who was working, received a visit from her mother-in-law in the company, and the mother-in-law hurriedly told her that the child had burned to 40 degrees, the situation was very serious, and this news could frighten Ms. Zhang into a cold sweat and run to the hospital without stopping. As a result, when she arrived at the hospital to learn about the situation, Ms. Zhang was almost fainted by her mother-in-law's "riot operation".
According to the doctor, it turned out
The reason why the child has a high fever is because the mother-in-law feels that the weather is cold, afraid of freezing the child, and constantly adds clothes to the child to cover it
。 Ms. Zhang is angry, but the mother-in-law does not think so much, thinking that the weather is so cold, there is no problem in wearing more clothes for the child, and her experience is unlikely to hurt the child. Ms. Zhang was even more angry after listening, and her mother-in-law felt humiliated when she was accused, and the two had a big fight.
Fortunately, under the careful treatment of the doctor, the child was cured, but Ms. Zhang was afraid of the way her mother-in-law took the baby, what should she do if the child has a good villain? She is even more blunt to her husband - she can't risk the safety of the child, if she lets the mother-in-law see the child again, they will divorce, and there will be no contact with the mother-in-law.
There are advantages and disadvantages to the elderly with their babies, and parents cannot completely let go
Some time ago, the video about the elderly with babies on the Internet exploded, and the children brought by parents were fashionable little masters, walking with the wind. The children entrusted to the care of the elderly suddenly changed from little fairies and little handsome men to small dirt buns in the village. Although this kind of video is ironic, it also reflects the very different ways that the elderly carry their babies and the young parents bring their babies.
Take the child to wear clothes, the old man does not understand fashion, the weather is cold he feels cold, the child must also be cold, clothes one by one piled up on the child, a little careless, naturally will be like Ms. Zhang's mother-in-law as kind as to do bad things.
In other aspects, the elderly with babies also have places that make young parents crazy, such as liking to kiss the child's mouth, like to chew things with their mouths and then feed the child, although it is a love for the child, but it is really not hygienic, which also makes many young parents feel difficult to accept.
In addition, there are supplements for children to eat, premature food for children to eat things that need to be chewed, etc., parents' hearts are almost jumping out, and it is easy to say bad words when they are in a hurry.
The old man will feel wronged when he is "taught", feel that he is kind to take the child, and he has to be scolded by the junior. The thinking of both parties is not on the same channel at all, over time, the contradiction will naturally accumulate more and more, like the aforementioned Ms. Zhang to divorce is really a lot of situations.
Some old people love their children to the point of almost being doting, what the child wants to give, put it in the mouth to melt, hold it in the palm of the hand for fear of falling, but will not spoil the child into a lawless bear child.
Although the old man with the baby does not have any bad eyes, but the method is not right, it will only harm the child.
but
Everything has two sides, although the concept of the older generation with a baby is outdated, but the elderly with children is not only harmful, after all, the elderly are more experienced than younger parents
In terms of taking the baby, there is also its own parenting experience, and it will be more sad for the child, compared to the similar "nanny arson case", entrusting the child to the elderly at home will actually be safer and more assured.
All in all, the elderly with a baby has advantages and disadvantages, parents can not completely let go, nor can they embarrass the elderly because they are worried about the elderly with a baby.
Parents who want the elderly to help with the baby should communicate more with the elderly, and they cannot put the burden of raising children on the elderly
In the face of the old man's wrong way of taking the baby, parents should also give advice in a tactful and decent way, and they can also directly teach the elderly how to take the baby more scientifically. At the same time, family harmony can also make children grow up healthily.
But I still hope that more young parents can do it themselves, after all, grandparents, grandparents are close, and they are not as close as their parents' sense of security to their children.
If parents are absent from their children's lives for a long time, in addition to making their children alienated from themselves, it is not conducive to future upbringing. The small problems that children have cultivated around the elderly since childhood are difficult to correct after a long time, and it is too late to regret it.