There is a sentence in the movie "My Brothers and Sisters": Brothers and sisters, originally snowflakes floating down from the sky, no one knows anyone, but after landing, they melt into one, freeze into ice, turn into water, and can never be separated.
Once upon a time, we all thought that blood was thicker than water, and that the feelings between brothers and sisters could never be broken. But in fact, this is not the case.
When they were young, brothers and sisters were in a common family, playing and fighting, loving each other, and growing up together. By adulthood, siblings have their own careers and families, and correspondingly, relationships are unconsciously alienated.
This is contrary to the original intention of the parents, who originally hoped that the brothers and sisters could support and take care of each other for a lifetime. But I don't know that there are some families, with the death of their parents, the family is also separated, and the brothers and sisters have cut off contact.
Why is this happening? The truth is poignant.
First, the injustice of parents has caused indifference between brothers and sisters.
Although, in the eyes of many parents, they think that there are multiple brothers and sisters in the family, and when they leave, they can take care of each other, but this is actually just the wishful thinking of parents.
In some families with many children, the relationship between brothers and sisters is not as good as parents expected. When the parents are there, everyone rushes to the core of the parents and gathers together every New Year's Festival.
It seems to be funny and lively, but if the parents leave, the family will have no dominant force. If the brothers and sisters usually have ordinary feelings, neglect to contact, and no one organizes a party reunion, they will basically disperse.
In particular, some parents, who cannot treat their children with a bowl of water, will be particularly partial to a certain child, and will also cause the inner opinions of other brothers and sisters, hindering the respect of their parents, and they will maintain a basic balance when they are alive.
Once the parents leave, the favored child loses his dependence, and if he does not have a good relationship with his brothers and sisters, it is basically more difficult to contact his feelings at this time.
Other families will cause conflicts between siblings because the division of property is not fair enough when their parents leave. After all, in the face of money and interests, there are not many people who can be as calm as water.
Parents cannot treat every child fairly and justly, which is the most direct reason why their siblings are reluctant to come back and forth after they leave.
All feelings in this world are dependent on causes and conditions, and without the cause of "harmony and fraternity", how can they bear "the fruit of a lifetime"?
Second, factors that differ in the economic situation between siblings.
Children grow up in the same family and in the same environment, but everyone's talents are different.
Some children focus on their studies, some children are more playful, although it is the same starting point, but the results are very different.
Some people have broken a path of life for themselves because of learning, some people have lived a different life because of marriage, brothers and sisters cannot live exactly the same life, there are always people who are good, some people are slightly worse.
Once such a situation occurs between people, it is easy to cause psychological imbalance, which is an unconscious behavior.
Some brothers and sisters look down on their poor brothers and sisters because they have money, and they are afraid that the other party will get entangled with themselves because of money; some brothers and sisters feel that the other party has money, and naturally they must help themselves...
Once there is a conflict between brothers and sisters because of money, feelings can easily become angry. The contradictions that have arisen may have been maintained during the lifetime of their parents for some reason.
But after the parents are gone, there is no need to deliberately hide, do not have to worry that the elders will be sad and cry because of this, so they naturally alienate the relationship.
Third, the result of distance.
Today's society is an open society, and the population is more mobile. Even siblings living in the same family are distributed throughout the country because of their ambitions or choices as adults.
Although the distance is not the key to blocking family affection, when the parents are alive, because they have to consider filial piety and take care of their parents, they will take time to visit them no matter how tired and busy they are.
At that time, brothers and sisters could still get together in the same family, chat with each other, and appeal to each other's hearts.
When one day the parents have left, the hometown in the heart has begun to become blurred, there is no home for the parents, if the brothers and sisters have a normal relationship, it will basically be scattered.
Coupled with each other's heavens and seas, they all have their own lives and careers, and they all have their own difficult to read a sutra, so they don't have so much time and time to take time out to meet.
Over time, the days are long, even if they are still thinking about each other at the beginning, the feelings will gradually fade.
After all, feelings need to come and go to build a solid foundation. But if they don't have contact with each other for a long time, their affection will be indifferent. Especially between the next generation, there is a lack of emotional foundation, so there will be little contact.
Although your brothers and sisters are the closest people in the world who are related to you by blood, they can't withstand the cruelty of reality.
Even if everyone's feelings are deep, after growing up, they all have their own families and life circles, and if they don't come and go often, they will be able to talk less and less.
The idea of parents initially wanting to find a companion for their siblings is good, but how can everything go as expected in real life?
However, since brothers and sisters are a fate that many people can't ask for, if you have it, you still have to know how to cherish it.
After all, in this life, the one who accompanies you the longest is your brothers and sisters. If you can support each other and promote each other for a lifetime, why not make people feel happy?
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