Two days ago I saw such a topic: "What is the meaning of falling in love?" ”
Especially below the topic, a netizen's message, he said:
The significance of falling in love is that one day I finished eating instant noodles and found that I ran out of dishwashing liquid, and when I washed the dishes with shaving foam, I thought that it might be good to have a girlfriend.
It's not that I won't eat instant noodles when I have a girlfriend, or because I have a girlfriend, someone will wash the dishes for me, but I think there will be someone there when I turn around and go back after washing the dishes, waiting for me, and then I said with a mysterious face: "Guess what dish I just washed?" ”
Yes, if you must say the meaning of falling in love, no one may have a different answer. It's just that it all has a meaning, that is, to let us know how to love someone.
Some time ago, a reader friend asked me such a question: "I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a long time, but now there is no time at the beginning, that feeling is gone, what should I do." ”
I didn't answer it at the time, but thought about it for a few days before answering it.
The experience of being in love is probably the same, from the passion and impulse at the beginning to the end as the two people spend more and more time together, and slowly the passion and impulse dissipate. The freshness of the two people is gone, and slowly the two people's getting along becomes flat.
At this time, you suddenly find that the original love is not as beautiful as you think, and you will start to make comparisons. At this time, you may feel that your current life is not free when you are in love. Nor is there happiness when we first fell in love.
At first, he wouldn't be upset because of your little sadness, so he would get busy and ask for warmth. You also won't be overwhelmed by his little bit of bad mood.
The more you look back, the more you realize that after you were together, especially after you had established a relationship, he seemed to have changed as a person. He doesn't seem to be sharing everything or following you anytime, anywhere.
So in the dead of night, you will wonder if you no longer love him, or if he is like yourself, and he no longer loves himself. It was as if he had lived his life without him.
This is actually a very normal situation, and the romance in love will eventually dissipate. When that feeling dissipates, we have to start making a choice. And the choice at this time determines whether our relationship can continue or end.
Because in feelings, only relying on so-called true love cannot last long. Just liking it won't last long. With the continuous understanding of the two people. The advantages and disadvantages of the other party also appeared at this time.
And this is when we need to communicate. The most frightening thing in the feelings is that if there is a problem, it is not said, but in the heart, so that it is a long time. No one can stand it. In the end, the relationship will go to the point of breaking up.
This is why we often say that the end of a relationship is not sudden, but because the disappointment has been saved enough, the other party decided to leave.
Of course, this is not absolute, and sometimes it is just because of simple lack of love. Such feelings are usually problematic in the beginning. It's just hidden.
So, when you meet your boyfriend very well, but you feel that you have no feelings, this time is actually entering the exhaustion period of feelings.
The best way to do this is when you need to think about a question, what exactly do you need. Is it the freshness of dopamine secretion, or the long-term love.
If this problem is not solved, even if you re-meet a new person and start a new relationship later, you will still encounter such a problem. So you have to be clear about whether you want to miss the feeling of hot love or the happiness of the feeling.
Because a person's life is also a life. The life of two people, it is also life. In fact, in essence, they are no different. But only two lives can show heartwarming moments, bursts of passion, and happy surprises in a calm daily life.
Therefore, at this time, it is not that you do not have feelings, but at this time, your feelings need to be further sublimated. So, in my shallow understanding. What you need most at this time is for yourself to understand, in this relationship, what do you really want?
Of course, this presupposes that the boyfriend is nice to you. And not the kind of person who doesn't cherish it when he gets it.
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