In the "Augmentation of the Sages", it is written: "It is better for people to bear me than for me to bear others." ”
People interact with each other, it is best not to bear the debt.
If you owe money and return it to the other party with profits, you don't owe each other.
If you owe a love debt, you can only spend a lifetime to accompany you, otherwise, you will continue to have a relationship in the next life.
However, there are always some people who are good at playing with their hearts and minds and treat feelings as games.
In society, people should be cautious in making friends and recognizing relatives, and they must understand that negative people have these four commonalities.
01
When you are poor, pretend to be pitiful.
Tu Lei, the love mentor, said two words of advice: "Never talk about love with a poor boy, a poor boy with ambition will not want love, he will choose to struggle; girls should not believe that there are honest men in this world, only men who have no chance to be bad for the time being." ”
For women, it is inevitable that love will flood and treat those fallen men as malleable talents. In the end, the man has transformed into a big man with a head and a face, and has long left the wife of the chaff behind.
In "The Surprise of the Second Moment Shooting", there is a man named Mansheng, born in the Song Dynasty, whose parents died early and was raised in foster care with his uncle.
He read poetry and books all over his life, but his character was not good, and he was disliked by his uncle and his family.
There is no place under heaven for life. He went to Bieliang alone, and wanted to ask his parents' old friend for help, but the old friend had already moved and disappeared.
After stumbling for several months, he came to Fengxiang and encountered a heavy snowfall. Penniless, in the small hotel, hungry and crying. A landlord named Jiao Dalang sympathized with his plight and not only gave him food, but also gave him his daughter Xu.
Two years later, He took the exam and became a local official in high school.
The official Mansheng took another wife and did not visit Jiao Dalang for ten years.
The Ming Dynasty scholar Cao Xueqi once said: "Negative hearts are mostly readers." ”
There are some people who look Sven on the outside and look like acid show talents, but they are very vicious in their bones. The books I have read are only for the sake of coveting fame, and I have not really applied the teachings of my ancestors to reality.
Therefore, when you see poor people who are wagging their tails and begging for mercy, you should put away your generosity and not blindly help him. Give him a bowl of rice and he will be grateful to you; give him glory and wealth, he will bite back; you and he will always be united in the same heart, and he will treat you as an "emotional card".
02
When it hurts people's hearts, it's a matter of course.
There is a saying in the "Cai Gen Tan": "Nine of the ten words may not be strange, and if one word is not in the middle, it is a collection of you; ninety percent of the ten plots may not be credited, and if the plot is not successful, it will be discussed." ”
A person wants to hurt you, then he will wear out your good, all of it, and then turn out your bad, one by one, and slowly enlarge. It seems that all contradictions are picked out by you, and all the pain is made by you.
If you make a mistake, he will hold on to it and become the reason for his negativity.
For example, in the previously mentioned "Mansheng", after he became an official, he did not go to see the old man, nor did he take his wife to enjoy the blessings together, but instead said: "She is the daughter of a landlord's family, how can she be worthy of me as an official?" ”
Since ancient times, marriage has paid attention to the right door, and the truth is not false. But we can't put "raw and rigid" real reciprocity, not the reciprocity of wealth and status, but the moral and spiritual reciprocity of being human.
If there are ten thousand reasons to love someone, then there are ten million reasons not to love someone.
When you meet someone whose feelings are looking for rifts, you hurry up and leave him, no matter how strong he is. How good you are to him when you are in a relationship with him, how sad you will be later.
03
When life is proud, turning the other cheek is ruthless.
Tu Lei once said: "People want to be cheap, and no matter how expensive their clothes are, they are useless." ”
When a person turns over, the house is bigger, the car is expensive, and the style of going out is bigger. At this time, his feelings also became colorful. Today there are friends please eat and drink, tomorrow someone to give gifts, the day after tomorrow someone took the initiative to give hugs.
Many lovers or couples can share hardships, but they cannot share wealth.
The person who says," "Bring you with you to the blessings," don't trust him easily, and don't try your best to help him, but look at his specific performance and make a decision.
A person's bones are shameless, then his words cannot wash himself white, and his clothes cannot hide the ugly things he has done. Only those who "cannot be adulterous and poor cannot be moved" can really be relied upon.
The negative person's face, like the clouds of summer, turns black for a moment, white for a while, and becomes a pouring rain for a while.
04
When betraying the family, it is very desperate.
"The Reconstruction of the Heart" writes: "No one can betray me, and now I have seen through the betrayal." ”
If you are counting on a person who has betrayed his family and can change his mind, then you are waiting for a stone to blossom and a piece of decaying wood to sprout.
You know, a person who turns away, ten cows can't pull back. You are behind him, crying desperately, then you just make your eyes puffy and your mind haggard.
Amorous is always ruthlessly hurt. The negative person, once he decides to leave, will be very desperate and will throw away your hand fiercely.
Someone said: "Forgive a person who betrays himself, once is tolerant, twice is generous, and three times is despicable." ”
In fact, a single forgiveness is redundant. Because of your forgiveness, he will continue to look for a third party, even if he really changes his mind, the depths of your soul will leave an invisible wound, like a dark shadow, entangled with you.
05
When you encounter a negative person, where should you go?
Put away your weakness first, there is still a long way to go.
Next, you have to learn to thank the 'sad man' who gave you up halfway through. Otherwise he will lead you to a road of no return. If you want to blame, blame yourself, because you are not smart and can't see people's hearts.
After that, excellent you, not afraid of no one to accompany; if you are destined to be unaccompanied, it is also a scenery to come and go alone. ”
There is only one heart in the human heart, and only for the right one. If you give it wrong, take it back immediately.
From now on, no matter how much you love someone, don't lose yourself.
From now on, learn to live with yourself.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
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