Wen | condensed mother's understanding
Every time the child eats, he says that the meal is "not delicious, I don't want to eat", sometimes he just grabs a few bites and runs, sometimes he simply does not eat. Children have no appetite to eat, how to grow a body?
Parents are worried, just wait for their children to go to kindergarten, let the teacher adjust it.
Going to kindergarten can indeed solve a large part of the problem, but children always have time to eat at home, such as children do not want to go to kindergarten for breakfast. What should I do if I eat at kindergarten at 4 p.m. and get hungry in the evening? Always have to eat at home on holidays, right?
Therefore, even if the child goes to kindergarten, the teacher cannot be fully counted on to solve it, and the responsibility of the parents cannot be less.
My family had the same situation, and with a clever trick, the child's appetite increased greatly
Erbao has been in kindergarten for half a year, and has been eating at home in the morning, and he has to eat some for dinner, and he has also had no appetite for food. Later, I took a good approach, insisted on chatting with him every day, made a pact, and his appetite increased greatly from then on, which surprised me.
Here's the thing, I prepared two fish, but because I went out to eat, I didn't have time to do it, so I said to Erbao, "Tomorrow morning, my mother will make you fish to eat, right?" ”
Erbao listened, happy and excited, full of promises "good", this is not the end, continue to ask "let's drink soy milk in the morning, right?" "Eat dried steamed buns, right?" "Eat strawberries, right?" ......
There happened to be these ingredients at home, I happily agreed, and then I played it myself, and Erbao also agreed with my recipe, so I happily decided.
The next day, I made all kinds of meals as promised, and Erbao ate every kind of food, and ate a very large amount, very fast, satisfied, and happy to go to school.
Therefore, I thought of agreeing with Erbao a recipe every day in the future, I don't worry about cooking, he doesn't worry about eating, and I am really satisfied with the implementation, and I no longer have to worry about the children's dislike of eating dishes.
The agreement seems simple, but it goes straight to the child's heart
Don't underestimate this simple, small agreement, for the child, it is psychologically solved the problem of his resistance to eating.
First, give the child the right to choose what he eats, rather than completely passively accepting the adult's arrangement.
When a child becomes self-aware, he likes to be in charge of the house, to give orders like an adult, and he feels that he has the ability to do something, and he is full of joy. The meal you choose, accept it in your heart, and how you eat it is fragrant.
Second, let the child play to the advantage, called "empowerment" in psychology, let the child become the controller, he will be happy to actively do a thing.
Children around the age of 4, with a certain dietary experience, know which foods are delicious, which foods are not delicious, just like a small foodie, if the child likes to express, let him speak freely, it gives him the opportunity to play an advantage, the child will definitely seize the opportunity to show himself.
Finally, pay attention to the child's feelings, enhance the child's sense of self-worth, and the child will be particularly autonomous.
When we cook, we only like to do what we want to eat, or we think that children like to eat and should eat, but our wishes are not in line with the child's preferences, and the child may reject it. The child chooses according to his own feelings, and there will be no deviation.
Therefore, the agreed method is from the child's point of view, so it is very effective.
Chat about recipes, simple and easy to operate
It's easy to smoke for a few minutes a day, and I'm sure you can do it.
Before going to bed, you can communicate with your child and make a record, as a sense of ceremony, but also afraid of forgetting.
We asked the kids bluntly "What are we going to eat for breakfast tomorrow?" "The child will say a few favorite meals.
For easy-to-use meals, we can immediately undertake, for controversial meals, we must tell the child the actual difficulties, hope that the child understands, and agree on another day.
We can also discuss the varieties and practices with the children and let the children make choices. For example, do fish eat striped fish or pomfret? Is the rice steamed, porridge, or made into soy milk? Are tomatoes eaten raw or cooked?
We also need to make supplements to make the nutrition richer. For example, if the child does not choose vegetables, he needs to add a vegetable, such as sea rice rape, etc., to tell the child about this idea, and the child can generally accept it.
After the agreement, some meals need to be prepared in the evening, so they have to be done to prevent the next day from being too late.
The next day, according to the agreed recipe, smooth the dish, make the dish, be confident, and get it done in half an hour, which is very efficient. Not only does it make children love to eat, but it is also conducive to our time control.
Two tips
If you have made an agreement with your child, but the child does not cooperate when eating, do not doubt this practice, you must ignore the following two problems.
Do not feed with snacks before meals
Some children will feel hungry before they arrive at the meal, and adults will give him snacks or fruits, and it is not impossible to eat at all, but do not eat too much.
When you're full of snacks, where is there room for a full meal? Everyone understands this truth, but it is easy to ignore.
Prompt positive encouragement when eating
When children eat, sometimes they will eat while playing, and we can't help but urge children to "eat quickly, and then don't eat again...", which will not motivate children to eat, but will only make children more reluctant to eat.
We can encourage children with positive language, "Wow, you've eaten half a bowl!" "You've eaten several dishes!" "You eat much faster than last time" "When you're done eating, you can eat strawberries"... These positive words will motivate children to enjoy eating.
epilogue
Children have no appetite for eating, which is a headache, in fact, because the child is not involved in the cooking process, if we chat with the child every day to make an agreement, the child enjoys the choice, plays the advantage, experiences happiness, and will naturally eat a large bowl.
This is a small method that I practiced first-hand, simple and easy to get started, and shared with friends, I hope it helps.
I am @ Ning Ma Wu Yu two boy mother, more than 10 years of parenting experience with children to read, English enlightenment, scientific enlightenment to share parenting insights, landing parenting dry goods welcome attention, parenting road together