In daily life, children's electronic products are sometimes in a state that parents cannot control or even unsupervised.
So, how to use children's electronic products, how to control time, how to reduce children's use of electronic products or how to divert children's attention to electronic products, I believe this is a problem worth exploring.
A psychologist in the United States selected 100 children from ordinary families across the country and divided them into two groups: 50 children who did not have access to mobile phones, and another 50 children who were obsessed with mobile phones.
10 years later, the results of the follow-up survey are lamentable:
Of the 50 kids who are obsessed with mobile phones, only 2 are admitted to college. Almost all of the 50 children in the other group were admitted to college. Sixteen of these college-going children received full scholarships from the school.
After reading such a report, people can't help but sigh: is the gap in life ruthlessly pulled apart by a small mobile phone?
Mobile phones are a magical thing, and adults with self-control are easily fascinated, let alone children.
In fact, children's dependence on electronic products, tracing back to the source must be found from the parent level to find the reason.
As the first "coaxing weapon" in the ranking, as long as it is unveiled, the child immediately concentrates, does not cry or make trouble, and saves countless mothers who collapse for the doll. But who knows that today's children are gradually infected with "mobile phone addiction", and this phenomenon is becoming more and more intense...
However, the harm of electronic products such as mobile phones to children is beyond doubt.
Because children's vision is generally stable at the age of 6-8, too early and too much contact with electronic products, will cause great harm to the baby's vision; and playing mobile phones, watching TV is a one-way communication, long-term use of electronic products, it will be easy to form a one-way thinking mode; long-term playing mobile phones, watching TV, but also make outdoor exercise time reduced, easy to cause physical development delay, low exercise function and so on.
Whether it is around or in the social news, the harm of electronic products such as mobile phones to the baby is not uncommon. Therefore, countries around the world have regulations on children's use of mobile phones, such as:
Finland prohibits wireless communication companies from directly marketing mobile communication services such as mobile phones to young people, and if this ban is violated, it will be punished with a fine of 100,000 euros;
The British Ministry of Education once sent a letter to the principals of various secondary schools, prohibiting students under the age of 16 from using mobile phones;
The French Senate passed a bill prohibiting students from using mobile phones in kindergartens, primary and secondary schools...
Luo Fat once said that the reason why games in electronic products are addictive is because of its timely feedback. Real-life learning is typical of delayed feedback.
Jane McGonigal also argues in Games Change the World that games can fill us: the hunger for a more satisfying job, a hunger for strong ethnic belonging, and a thirst for a more meaningful life. For example, some children's grades may be a mess, but they are big heroes in the game world. In short, the lack of dignity and worth in the real world is compensated in the game world.
But the so-called dignity and value in the game are, after all, illusory. Scientists have also shown that the brain circuits that often read books are more complex than the brain circuits that play games, which is what we usually call the brains of children who play games often tend to become stupid.
The brain is in a passive reception state for a long time, lacking active thinking, and lacking to develop exploratory neurons and brain circuits. Over time, the brain's functions not only fail to develop, but also gradually retreat.
Obviously, in addition to the damage to the child's brain, the game also affects the child's social relationship. Because of the long-term state of human-computer interaction, it naturally affects the ability of interpersonal communication.
We know the harm of electronic products to children, but we must admit that electronic products are the product of social civilization and progress, and it is difficult to eliminate them. So all we can do is how to minimize this harm. So, how do you do that?
1. Make an appointment with your child. Respect the opinions of both parties, not the parents. The rules are simple and easy to operate, avoid being too complicated. Agree on a trial time, avoid once and for all, and do specific analysis of specific situations in actual operation.
2. Encourage more and praise less. Avoid nagging and accusations, and don't expect your child to change all at once. Give your child time to correct and progress, even if it is a little progress, give timely encouragement and feedback. Here, my personal view is to avoid rewarding utilitarianism and not to let children feel that parents do not just love themselves when they make progress, but the person who always supports themselves and loves themselves.
3. Game life. There is no substitute for the love and companionship of parents. If parents can accompany them with their hearts, they can lead their children to feel the same fun life as games, such as taking children for walks, travel, and reading books, children will observe insect dwellings, birdsong, grass dew in nature, perceive the beauty of mountains, seas, clouds, and fog, and expand their horizons and hearts in the book. Where does the child get the energy and time to indulge in games?
Of course, many parents may say that I still have my own work and life, how can I circle around my children every day. But life is very realistic, where you spend time, how much you invest, how much you lack, life will be feedback one by one.
4. Talk about the pros and cons of the web. If your child happens to be in kindergarten or elementary school, it is necessary to talk to your child often seriously and seriously about the harm of games, talk about the pros and cons of the Internet in two, and establish a correct understanding of electronic products and the Internet from a young mind. Because no matter how good the supervision, it is not as good as the child's own correct inner judgment and the bottom line education of the self at the critical moment.
Don't grab the child with the game, and don't push the child step by step to the game, after all, all the calm waves when you are a child will set off an uproar when adolescence comes.
5. It's important for parents to lead by example. A friend's child once said a word to his father who played with his mobile phone: Daddy, you are so ugly! Like a big stinky shrimp slumped on the couch! A word awakens the dreamer. It turns out that the way we play with mobile phones is so ugly in the eyes of children. Wanting your child to play less with their phones and tell the truth a hundred times is not as useful as the power of an example.
It is said that education fights for the parents' financial resources and the children's aura, and it is better to fight for the cohesion between parents and children.
Good parents care for their children, listen to their children, and guide their children, rather than throwing their children a mobile phone.
A small mobile phone often hides the philosophy of parenthood and the future of children.
May parents encourage you!
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