Love, if the love is strong, there will be no worries.
For example, we can face the sky, even if there are some freckles on the face, the skin is not so delicate;
For example, we can laugh, do not need to care about the image, laugh without showing teeth, do not need to care.
Because we know that the other party loves us, in the process of getting along, the other party has given us enough trust, we know that no matter what we do, the other party will not abandon themselves.
Therefore, if there are still some concerns in a relationship, it must be because the love is not deep enough.
True love will make us return to our truest selves and return to the truth.
In the relationship between the sexes, want to make the man love you more and more, remember to accompany him to do these 4 things, don't be embarrassed.
Learn to think from the other person's point of view – empathy
Many women, when dealing with feelings, will automatically think of themselves as the one who takes it.
They ask men to care about themselves, to be considerate of themselves, and to support themselves unconditionally no matter what happens, otherwise they just don't love themselves.
They only see their own feelings, only ask men to consider problems from their own point of view, but forget that love is mutual, and women should also consider problems from the perspective of men.
Because men are just ordinary people with seven passions and six desires, they also need warmth and care.
As Sabine said, "We always think of other people as medicine, but in fact, the other party may be a patient like you." ”
Empathy is to consider the problem from the perspective of the other party, and use emotion as a medium to go to the depths of men's hearts.
When we are able to open the door of a man's heart, the man will be spiritually dependent on us.
Don't keep your emotions in your heart when you're angry, communicate
In a relationship, the most terrible thing about each other's emotional state is not the difference in income, personality, different hobbies and living habits.
For us, the most terrible thing is that two people obviously live together, but the distance between them is getting farther and farther away.
Some people say that the distance is getting farther and farther away because two people have an argument, which makes them estranged from each other.
But in fact, quarrels are also beneficial in a sense, which can make the problems between two people change from implicit to explicit.
The root cause of the estrangement between them is that after the quarrel, the two people take the Cold War approach without communicating.
Most of the things that affect each other's feelings, if we are willing to take the time to study carefully, will find that these are the result of poor communication.
Therefore, we need to know a truth - there is nothing wrong with two people having a conflict, but don't hold your emotions in your heart, and feel that it will pass if you endure it.
We don't say, the other party will never know, in silence, the other party feels that we are unreasonable, we feel that the other party does not care about themselves.
In the long run, love will only perish in silence.
Don't take away the other person's space in the name of love, respect
Love is not as close as possible.
"I care about you, that's why I'm sticking to you all the time", this sentence is probably a sentence that many women often say in gender relations.
In their view, because they care, they want to stick to each other every day, they have to chat every day, and if the other party does not reply to themselves in time, they will be angry.
But in the adult world, where everyone is busy and has their own things to do, how can there be so much time to chat, everyone has to live.
Therefore, under this repression, men will feel that their love is full of a sense of captivity, and then want to escape.
At the beginning of the book "A Feast of Flow": "If you lived in Paris when you were young, Paris would follow you all your life, because Paris is a feast of flow".
The flowing things go all the way forward, and because there is no fixed shape, it can adapt to all environments.
And we must also take water as a teacher, give men respect, let them experience a sense of comfort and ease, so that they can achieve a relationship.
Learn to give the other person positive psychological cues, praise
In the TV series "Little Joy", Ji Shengli was a bit busy cooking for the first time, and the scrambled eggs were burned black because of the poor heat.
Ji Shengli was a little embarrassed, he was worried that his wife would reprimand him, but his wife did not, and her wife encouraged herself to say that the first time she cooked was very good, and it would be better to take it slowly.
After hearing his wife's encouragement, Ji Shengli was full of fighting spirit in his heart and felt that cooking was not so difficult.
Bi Shumin once said: "Love is afraid of silence, too many people, think that love to the depths is speechless." In fact, love is a difficult emotion to describe, which needs to be expressed and transmitted in detail. ”
Don't feel that two people have been together for a long time, and it is always a little embarrassing to praise each other.
In fact, men need to boast, and the more they exaggerate, the more they will feel that the lover and love they choose are worth it.