The most effective way to improve your child's self-confidence

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Child loss of self-confidence = frustration personalization

Children without self-confidence are hesitant and afraid to try anything, and always feel that they can't do it well, so they don't dare to do it.

Self-confidence is a topic that pervades different educational ages;

How to make children more confident?

This topic has led many people, many experts, and many parents to experiment with a large number of ways to improve their children's self-confidence;

If the method of education is a treatment plan or a medicine, then you have to find the reason;

Only by finding the cause can we prescribe the right medicine and the efficacy will be good.

If you don't know the reason blindly prescribe medicine, what others eat and what you eat may delay the disease, and may also cause new diseases from old drugs.

The same is true for the diagnosis of the child's lack of confidence, and it is unwise to use the method directly without reason;

Children with different personality traits also show different ways of not being confident;

Mild-mannered children are not confident, shy, timid and hesitant;

Lively children do not have self-confidence but love to perform, people come crazy;

Today, I will talk to you about the fundamental reasons for the lack of self-confidence in children with each personality trait;

That is, the underlying logic;

In fact, children's loss of self-confidence comes more from the thinking of dealing with setbacks.

External manifestations:

If a child often says:

"I won't do anything", "Do anything." ”

Or, "I can't do anything, I can't do anything."

Or think which teacher hates him and which classmate doesn't like him.

Or feel like you don't deserve better care, you don't deserve to be cared for by others.

If he has said one or both of the above, he has no confidence in himself;

If he had all these scenes, it would have been a deep lack of self-confidence.

What do these words mean when they are spoken?

It represents that he has self-made setbacks.

That is to say, to drag all the problems to yourself;

If I don't do something well, I will feel that I can't do it myself;

The teacher doesn't like me and thinks it's because I'm not good enough;

I didn't dare to ask my parents for new toys and new clothes, because I felt that I didn't deserve better things.

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Children without self-confidence grow up to become adults without self-confidence;

It will affect the pace of his growth, will affect him to open up his own territory, and naturally affect the academic performance of all subjects and the goal of life growth.

If the child will not have self-confidence on the road to growth, it will be shown in different life scenarios;

At the time of the entrance examination:

It is likely that when he enters high school and college, he will think that he is not suitable for a good university, and he will not be able to enter a good university;

When entering the workforce:

Entering the society, he may think that he is not worthy of going to a good company, that he cannot get an invitation from a good company, or that he will not be liked by his boss;

In a marital relationship:

Entering a marriage and love relationship, you will feel that you do not deserve to find a better partner, and you do not deserve to have a more harmonious and happy family.

You see:

Once the thinking is solidified in childhood, the fate of a lifetime is thus determined.

Therefore, we must seize the best stage of the child's thinking growth and help him reverse the solidified thinking.

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Help him turn around his solidified thinking

How?

When he says again: I will not, I am not good at doing certain things, to correct his thinking;

Turn this idea into: this thing may not be my strength, but there are a lot of people around me who are very good at doing this, they can help me, I can continue to learn and improve, and eventually it will become my strength.

If the child says: XX teacher hates me, correct his idea;

Turn it into: the teacher doesn't like me because I don't listen carefully in a certain class, or my homework is late, and if I don't disappoint the teacher, in fact, most of the time he is very happy, so I want to make sure not to disappoint him next time.

If the child says: I am worried that my parents will not support my idea and decision, I will change his thinking;

Turn this idea into: I study and live well, I just need to ensure that my parents and teachers can see my learning results more clearly, and I can get the support and affirmation of my parents.

If you do, you're actually transforming your child's solidified thinking into growth thinking, turning him from a pessimist into an optimist;

What is the difference between the two?

The pessimist encounters anything he will have several kinds of thinking;

First: this kind of thing happens a lot;

Second: blame yourself and feel worthless;

Third: I feel that nothing I can do will change this result.

And how will optimists be different in the face of the same thing?

First: he will think it is an emergency;

Second: he can see many external reasons and will not reluctantly drag on himself;

Third: He can discover his own shortcomings and is willing to learn and change from them.

Pessimists --- fixed thinking

Optimists --- growth mindset

This kind of thing happens a lot

He would think it was a sudden event

Blame yourself and feel worthless

He can see many external reasons and will not reluctantly drag himself

I feel like nothing I can do to change this outcome

He can discover his own shortcomings and is willing to learn from them and change

If children's learning today is for a better future, then mentality is the core strength here;

Mentality is composed of thinking, and if there is pessimistic thinking, there will be a pessimistic mentality, and a pessimistic life will be lived;

With optimistic thinking, there will be an optimistic attitude, and you will live a life accompanied by good luck.

So parents and friends:

Be sure to grasp the best age for children to build their thinking, that is, before the age of 6;

If you have missed it, then you must at least turn his thinking into a growth mindset before he turns 12;

Then this child you invest in and guide him will eventually see the results and returns you want.

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