When people reach middle age, they should remember the sophistication of people: don't show your wealth in front of your relatives

The poet Nietzsche once said: "A man with a strong sense of vanity is not so much to stand out as to be outstanding, but rather to because he thinks he is outstanding, so that he does not hesitate to play tricks and tricks, so that vanity can obtain the greatest satisfaction." ”

Vanity is always a double-edged sword for people, which can both spur you to climb the peak and completely hit you to the bottom.

The former is a handful, and the latter is followed.

In this world, there are too many people who, in order to satisfy their vanity, do not hesitate to deceive, or even cover their ears.

Showing off wealth is a manifestation of behavior driven by vanity.

Put yourself too high in a virtual position, win the envy of others in a showy way, and thus satisfy your own vanity.

You think you've created a great image of yourself, when in fact, you've done something stupid.

Showing off wealth is the work of stupid people, smart people know how to do things in a low-key manner, especially in front of relatives, even if they are rich, they must try not to show wealth.

Relatives leaking wealth before are asking for trouble for themselves

The ancients said: "Wood shows in the forest, and the wind will urge it." ”

It is telling us not to be too ostentatious in doing things, after all, "the gun hits the head bird".

A bird flying too high is not necessarily a good thing.

In the same way, a person who is too high-profile will bring disaster to himself.

Showing off your wealth in front of relatives is only a matter of moments, but the trouble that follows is endless.

Where the lights don't shine, it's all human nature.

I once heard a very realistic and true story:

A fish farmer who was overjoyed to make a lot of money told him about it while drinking with his neighbors, and soon after, he found that all the fish in his fish pond were dead.

He learned to shut up, and later he made money doing business in the city and bought a big house.

He never told anyone about it again, because he knew that where the lamps could not shine, human nature was like cattle.

There is a very famous saying on the Internet: "There is something terrible about ghosts, I will take you to see human nature." ”

Yes, human nature is the most intimidating thing in the world.

Your development is easy to arouse the jealousy of relatives, and jealousy is easy to trigger the evil of human nature.

Driven by the evils of human nature, you never know what you are going to face.

Those who seem to be closest to you may one day become the most dangerous people around you.

They don't have a deep hatred for you, they just envy you and don't see you as well.

In order to pull you down from a high place, they often do something unexpected.

Don't be afraid of thieves, you are afraid of thieves.

Many relatives hope that "one person will be enlightened, and the chicken and dog will ascend to heaven", so after learning that you are rich in life, they will inevitably calculate one or two.

I believe that many people have heard the story of Brother Dayi, who was originally an ordinary farmer, and later became popular because of singing, and made a lot of money because of it.

After he developed, relatives, friends, and neighbors from the same village came to him to borrow money and never returned it.

In an interview with reporters, the villagers also did not shy away from saying their true thoughts: "He is so rich, why should he return it to him?" ”

This seemingly absurd theory is a matter of course in the eyes of the villagers.

Although the money is in your hand, the gaze of concern is already as dazzling as a needle.

Those hungry wolf-like eyes have already stared at you, whether they borrow or they will try their best to get a piece of the pie.

If you don't give, they'll discredit you out there, saying you're cold-blooded and ruthless.

If you give, they won't pay it back. You have to force them to return, and from now on you have a few more enemies.

"Low-key" is the great wisdom of life

People often say that they are low-key and high-profile.

There is some truth to this statement.

Young people may not understand, but after middle age, everyone will definitely understand the great wisdom of this.

First, low-key can avoid disasters

A man standing on the tip of a mountain is like being pushed to the cusp of the storm, and he will face the greatest danger and countless unknown disasters.

But if you put it in the most inconspicuous position, he is only the most ordinary one among all sentient beings.

He will not attract attention, will not provoke jealousy, and will not fall into the waves of the deep sea.

He could live the most peaceful days in the most inconspicuous positions, avoiding the troublesome troubles and disasters.

Second, low-key can accumulate blessings

The root cause of showing off wealth still has to be attributed to vanity, which is too strong to make a swollen face and be fat, or to show off everywhere with a little achievement.

A person who can't hold his breath will inevitably do something high-profile, so that his blessings will become thinner and thinner.

But if you do the other, your low profile is accumulating blessings for the rest of your life.

For the rest of your life, be a low-key person

A true low profile requires a balance of attitude, mentality, and speech.

First, be humble

Confucius said, "If you are a threesome, you will have my teacher." ”

No matter what kind of achievements you have and what kind of people you face, please maintain a humble attitude.

Neither arrogant nor arrogant, nor blind.

Face everything with an open mind and face everyone with humility.

Second, be calm

In the "Little Memoirs of the Window", it is written: "Do not be frightened, watch the flowers blossom and fall before the court; go to stay unintentional, and look at the sky and the clouds are soothing." ”

A person with a calm heart should not be insulted and face everything in the world with a calm mind.

What is spoiled? What is indifference?

Fan Zhongyan's "do not like things, do not grieve with yourself" is the best answer.

Third, speech has a degree

Language is a rather magical thing in this world, it can be both a gentle wind and a drizzle, and it can be a murderous blade.

Not hurting others with words is a kind of self-cultivation, and it is also a rule of conduct that everyone should always keep in mind.

Do not despise people, do not slander others, subtract sharpness, and speak with moderation.