Mr. Ji Xianlin once said in "Sorrow and Joy Self-Crossing":
"On the road of life, everyone is a lonely traveler.
There are thousands of conditions in the world, bittersweet joys and sorrows, ups and downs, except for self-crossing, others can not help. ”
Everyone has their own life, and they all have their own lives, so the joys and sorrows between people are not connected.
Many times, instead of pinning your hopes on others, it is better to sober up and calm down in time, so that you can see the truth of life and see the true nature of life.
Especially at the low point of life, the more you look forward to help from others, the more likely you are to suffer great loss and disappointment.
In the path of life, no one can help you, or walk this road on your behalf, and you naturally rely on yourself to stand on your own, self-reliance, and self-reliance.
1: People in the trough, quit laziness, quit arrogance
Zeng Guofan Zengyun:
"All the mediocre people in the world, ancient and modern, are defeated by a lazy word; the talented people in the world and in the past and the present are all defeated by a proud word."
The reason why people live, they become mediocre, the reason why they become failures, is that they are lazy in doing things and arrogant in life.
It is precisely because of laziness in doing things and arrogance in life that it is easy to fall into the trough of life.
However, these people usually do not try to find the reason for their own problems, even if they are in a difficult situation of failure, but blindly complain about the injustice of society and the reality of the world.
They think that once they vent their inner resentment and dissatisfaction to the outside world, they are in a good mood and will not suffer losses.
In fact, this approach of dealing with problems without treating the symptoms or treating them locally has not only not solved its own problems, but also exacerbated the seriousness of the problems.
Truly intelligent people, they will do, in the process of creating value, they only care about hard work, only practical, only diligent, the rest is handed over to time.
In the process of silence, silently accumulate energy behind the back, work hard, and wait for the flowers to bloom.
People are in the trough of life, they should calm down, do not still be in a lazy state, but also need to quit the arrogant psychology.
Through such cultivation, we can gradually find the vitality and turnaround of life in the whole process.
As Yi Shu said in "Until the Sea Withers and Stones Rot":
"Be quiet in everything: come quietly, go quietly, work hard quietly, harvest quietly, and avoid noise."
The depth of the water is silent, the people are steady, the people are at the low, we must retain the real effort, as well as the down-to-earth spirit, and more humble pursuit of the realm.
2: People are at a low point and rely on themselves
If you are in a low for a while, you always want to get help from others, and you want to use the power of others to complete your own things.
Then, once you develop such a habit of relying on others, over time, the inertia of this dependence will harm yourself.
Because in the future, when facing various problems, the first thing we think of is not to recognize this problem, to verify our own views, nor how to face and solve the problem, but to turn to people.
It is the duty of others to help you, and it is the duty not to help, even when one day we are full of trustworthy people, because they constantly ask each other for help, so that the other party gradually chills and is disappointed, they will alienate themselves.
So, in this case, you stay in the trough of life, what else can you do?
Some say that pessimists are often right, but optimists win in the future.
Always believe that the optimist can win in the results because they borrow from the pessimists, see the vision, and at the same time find opportunities from them to win the results.
People who have this pattern, then when they are really in trouble, they will also tell themselves that not seeking others is their own confidence, but also a kind of dignity left to themselves.
Therefore, when people are at a low point, the test is not what we have now, but what we have prepared in the past.
How well we prepared in the past, then how much confidence and confidence we have to face the problems we encounter in the present.
So, how can people rely on themselves?
Relying on oneself, to put it bluntly, is to rely on one's own confidence, and the bottom line comes from one's ability, and one's ability lies in the good habits that one has developed day after day, year after year, in the process of growing up.
As Dostoniewski said:
"The second half of a person's life is made up of habits, and his habits are developed in the first half of his life."
Therefore, whether a person is successful in the second half of his life depends on whether he has developed many good habits in the first half of his life.
Once good habits are formed, once there are more good habits, the performance of natural comprehensive ability will be more excellent and outstanding.
Such excellent talents can not only become their own backers, but also become the backers of the people around them.
Relying on yourself can be regarded as a kind of confidence, in order to retain the courage and self-confidence to rebound at the bottom when it is at a low point.
3: Self-ferry
People, when they are alive, if they want to live beautifully, live with confidence, and live enviably.
Then, you should know yourself in time, understand yourself, empty yourself, improve yourself, and sublimate yourself.
The purpose of this is to invest in yourself, so that you can really get more polish from reality, and you can really become mature, calm and strong from it.
The reason for everything is that in the first half of life's polishing and hard work, let yourself see more human nature and the reality of society.
Then, using these experiences and wisdom, I let myself dare to face it alone when I encountered the trough of life, and calmly crossed myself.
Calmly swallow the grievances, swallow the pain, survive the difficulties, and then meet the dawn, achieve great things, and be sharp.
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