There are too many insures in life, what is true happiness?

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The ultimate goal of life is to pursue true happiness, learn traditional culture, people's mentality can really change, people will live frankly, live a down-to-earth life. Let's look at a passage in the I Ching, and we should read it together: "He who is a master is in harmony with heaven and earth, with the sun and the moon, and with the four hours." With the ghosts and gods of their auspiciousness, the innate and the heavenly disobedience, the day after tomorrow and the heavens. Heaven forbid, but what about man? What about ghosts?" Well, we ordinary people have many troubles and sorrows, many worries, as long as we are in harmony with the heavens and the earth, with the sun and the moon, with the spirit of heaven and earth, self-improvement, virtuous and material, in line with the four hours, and with benevolence, righteousness, wisdom and faith, we will "heaven and the earth, and the situation is worse than the people." What about ghosts?" It will start from building moral self-confidence. At the same time, it will also live and work in a down-to-earth manner, dilute personal selfish desires, and strengthen the spirit of helping others in the world.

Let's look at the middle passage again, and everyone reads it together: "A gentleman walks in his position and does not want to be outside." Plain rich, rich and noble; Su Yidi, act poorly; Su Yidi, act Yidi; It is affliction, and it is affliction. A gentleman is infallible and self-absorbed! In the upper position, not under the mausoleum; in the lower position, not to the upper. If you are right for yourself and do not seek from others, you have no complaints. The upper does not complain about the sky, and the lower is not special. Therefore, the gentleman is easy to live in order to live, and the villain is to be slightly lucky. Zi Ri: "Shoot what seems to be a gentleman, lose all the right hooves (hu), and ask for his body." Everyone must understand that poverty and lowliness are also tools, and wealth is also a tool, all of which are tools for equality and prosperity, and they will not complain about others, but serve the people wholeheartedly, and they will live happily and happily. As the Analects say, Zi Ri: "Learn and learn from time to time, don't you also say?" Have friends from afar, are you happy? People don't know and don't care, don't they also feel gentlemanly?" Zi Ri: "Aim at the Tao, according to virtue, according to benevolence, and in art." Zi Ri: "Hyun-jae, go back to ya!" A piece of food, a scoop of drink, in the dark alley, people are overwhelmed, and they will not change their happiness. Hyun-jae, back also!" No matter whether you live, sit, lie down, study and work, treat others and things, no matter how others treat you, you will be full of joy.

Let's look at morality and happiness. What is happiness? People nowadays practice money worship and believe that with money there is a blessing. Once I asked a parent: You let your child go to a tutoring class in the summer, why? Exam key middle school ah! I asked again: Why let the children go to key middle schools? Get into college! I asked again: Why did you let your children go to key universities? He replied that he would be looking for a job in the future. I asked again: Why do you want your child to find a good job? Make a lot of money! Find a good object! I asked again: Why do you let your children find good partners and make a lot of money? Keep asking, parents finally said: how happy is the money! Oh! Asked all the way, the original answer is the word happiness. What is our ultimate goal? It's happiness. The pursuit of money and the pursuit of power, in fact, the final pursuit is happiness.

Then, I told this parent something like this: "There are too many ins and outs of life. You let your child go to a tutoring class, he may not be admitted to a key high school, a key high school may not be admitted to a good university, a key university may not necessarily have a good job, a good job may not necessarily make a lot of money, and making a lot of money is not necessarily happy. Isn't it true that you still do what he does?" At that time, the parents were questioned, and he said, "Oh, what then?" I continue to analyze that after making a lot of money, sick and short life, happiness or unhappiness? If you are not happy, how can you be happy without money and health? Good health, but every day there are many people who despise you, insult you, torture you, when you go out, many people point and laugh at you, like a street rat, everyone shouts and beats, happiness or unhappiness? Unhappy. What is happiness in life? There is no happiness in one aspect alone.

In ancient China, it was said that the five blessings, the five kinds of blessings, and the five blessings were the true happiness. What are the five blessings, the five blessings? First, corning, health and tranquility; The second is longevity; The third rich, this rich is not to become the richest man, is not short of food and drink, is not lacking in clothing, noble is respected, no one insults you, no one looks down on you; there is also a good morality, that is, you are virtuous, do according to the laws of nature, can do things according to the laws of nature, the original meaning of morality is to do things according to the laws of nature, benevolence, righteousness, wisdom and faith, the last one is a good death, today there are very few people who really have a good death. We often say that the person who laughs to the end is the winner, but a person laughs to the end, not that you laugh at the end when you are awarded the title, it is not that you laugh at the end when you have a long salary, and it is not that you laugh to the end when you defeat others. What is the last ah? Dying laughter called the end, a person can die, no disease, with a smile to leave the world, in the past there are many people know that they are going to die, take a bath, change clothes, lie calmly, leave the world, peacefully pass away. What a blessing!

Today is not like this, lying in the hospital, full of tubes, painful. When rescuing, with electric shocks, it was very painful. The ancients were very thoughtful, not one-sided, five kinds of blessings, five blessings, not just to make a lot of money. How to do it in order to be blessed with five blessings? According to the law, those who follow the path will perish, and the benevolent and righteous and wise believers will do it, and the five blessings will come to the door.

There are two old Chinese sayings: the rich are not more than three generations, and the poor are not three generations. It means that there is no eternal Hao family, and there is no eternal cold door. It doesn't matter if the family is surrounded by disciples, as long as you are diligent and thrifty and pay attention to education, after three generations, it is possible to make a fortune. The family is rich, do not be complacent, after three generations, it begins to decline. For example, in the Jia family in "Dream of the Red Chamber", Jia Baoyu's great-grandfather Jia Yuan was a founding hero and was named the Duke of Rongguo, in Jia Yuan's generation, the Jia family flourished for a while, but in the third generation, that is, Jia Baoyu's father, Jia Zheng's generation, began to decline. In the second episode of "Dream of the Red Chamber," Leng Zixing commented on the Jia family: "Nowadays, the teeth are growing day by day, the affairs are flourishing day by day, the masters and servants are up and down, there are as many people as possible who are rich and honored, and there is no one who strategizes and painters; their daily pomp and circumstance expenses cannot be saved, and although the outer shelves have not fallen, the inner bag has also been exhausted." Later, as we all know, the Jia family was raided and defeated, "it was like a bird that had eaten all the birds and thrown themselves into the forest, and the land was really clean." From this point of view, it is meaningless to leave property to future generations, and it is not more than three generations rich. Therefore, all the teachers here, if you are a rich man, you don't have to get carried away, you are not rich for three generations, if you are poor, don't despair, poor is not more than three generations. There are only three generations of rich and poor, and there is a reason. For example, grandpa and grandpa's generation is very poor, not willing to be poor, they have struggled since childhood, diligent and thrifty, after this quality is cultivated, it is possible to make a fortune. After I became rich, Chinese often had such a thought: I was poor in the past, I can no longer let my son be poor, my elders have not enjoyed the blessings, I have to let my children enjoy it. From a young age, children stretch out their hands in clothes, open their mouths with food, and when they grow up, they spend money like dirt and throw thousands of dollars. Instead of cultivating any good qualities and outstanding abilities, it is contaminated with many problems, and these problems are the bane of the losers.

It is useless to blindly earn money, and educating children is more important than anything else. No matter how much money is earned, if the child's education is not done well, it is also a failure. How many children of rich families have gambled, taken drugs, violated the law, and even gone to jail. Li Shuangjiang's family is rich, spoiling the overlord Li Tianyi, is he happy?

When I went to Fujian to give a lecture, I met a village party secretary who was working as a volunteer at the congress. He is a village party secretary, in fact, he is a business and makes a lot of money. He had two sons. The eldest son worked in the county and started a business, and the second son went to a good university, found a job in Xiamen, and bought a house, which was more expensive than Beijing. Supposedly, this is a happy family. However, the second son was tainted with the vice of gambling, and as a result, the family was destroyed, and the court sealed the house. The village party secretary was dumbfounded, and his son owed a lot of money, what to do? If you don't have money, the house will be gone, the house will be gone, and the two families will not be allowed to divorce? Parents are divorced, what about the children? None of the places to stay. As a last resort, the village party secretary paid money and paid off millions of gambling debts for his son. The village party secretary is now more than sixty years old, has worked hard for decades, and the rich man with a million dollars is suddenly destitute, has nothing, and has to go out of the mountains again, do business again, and make money again. He took me to the airport and said with deep emotion: You have to talk about traditional culture well!

Rich for only three generations, it seems to have become the law. Some people say, can this law be broken? Yes, but be wise. For example, the Kong family, from the Han Dynasty Dong Zhongshu deposed the Hundred Schools of Confucianism to the present, more than seventy generations, although the Kong family has ups and downs, but basically prosperous. What is the reason for the prosperity of Kong's parents? Emphasis on education.

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