When I arrived at the university campus, I was exposed to many new things, and the outside world was much more exciting than my hometown. After going to college, without the all-round discipline of parents and teachers, everyone began to fall in love. Although I am still ignorant of love, I see that my classmates around me have boyfriends one by one, and I also have a desire for love in my heart. Later, after being introduced by my roommate, I quickly confirmed my relationship with my roommate's friend.
Looking back, I found that I was with the boy just to fall in love, but I didn't really like him. So I was like a "scumbag", but when I look back on my mental journey at the time, it really is. When I was a student, I didn't know how to like someone well. It was in this environment that I unconsciously wanted others to have what I had. Therefore, the love that began with such a mentality, the result can be imagined, and it will end in a short time. I'm glad I didn't go wrong all the time, didn't amplify the damage.
Of course, from small places in the countryside to big cities, it is inevitable that there will be differences with students with good family conditions. At that time, I was secretly envious of those classmates who had good conditions. They were all dressed in clothes I had never seen before. I also fantasize that one day I will be able to use the so-called good things like them. However, I was just envious. I'm well aware of my own gap at this point, so I've always been rational and didn't make unrealistic moves for my own little vanity.
But I believe that there must be a group of people who, in order to satisfy vanity, or self-esteem, punch the swollen face and be fat, or crazy part-time to earn extra money, can not afford to spend. Some people think that "everyone has it, I don't have it, how faceless"; others just want to prove that "I am not worse than them, I can have what they have".
When a person can't prove that he can use his strength, it is often easy to unilaterally choose clothes to find psychological balance. Create a good appearance as a person with good conditions, and on the surface shine brightly, as if trying to overcome the gap caused by different growth backgrounds. But many times, we ignore the knowledge and cultivation brought by good families to these students, which we cannot surpass no matter what, at least we cannot catch up overnight. If one only focuses on superficial efforts and does not enrich the hard power of the heart, then in the end you can only face the situation of the adventure island.
Not only on campus, but also in society and in the workplace, we all need to face the differences between people.
Everyone wants a good life and good things, such as high-end clothes, bags and cosmetics, such as the latest mobile phones and computers, which is understandable. Some people are born with everything, and some people struggle for years without results. So, before you want to own your own wealth, the most important thing is to learn to invest in yourself! Those external material things are not real wealth. You can consistently output and create value. That's your real wealth. Everyone has their own way to go. Don't get lost by the scenery halfway through.
When you have great people around you, you should learn from their excellent traits and even look for opportunities to work with them, maximize your investment in yourself, make the most of resources, grow your knowledge, learn more skills, and broaden your thinking. There may be a lot of difficulties in the learning process, but if you stick to it, you will gain a lot. More importantly, you don't have to envy others, but become the object of envy of others.
You have to believe that you deserve everything good, but don't worry, maybe it's not the time yet. All you have to do is calm down, go your own way, and don't stop for the sake of others.