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People are vain, eager to be recognized by others, to gain the envious eyes of others, which can not be regarded as a big mistake. It's just that some people satisfy their vanity in a way that enriches themselves, allows themselves to stand taller and be admired.
Some people have adopted the method of showing off and hyping it up, for fear that others will not know that they have these things.
Showing off, psychologically speaking, is a manifestation of unconfidence.
Whoever bluffs and shows off must be what he desperately lacks. People who love to show off are usually insecure, and they find the value of their existence by showing off their ways.
They are eager to be recognized by others, but their self-ability is limited, they cannot surpass others by themselves, or they do not know how to surpass themselves in the group, so they will use this bluff to highlight their own value.
Generally with the increase of age, the increase of social experience, and the improvement of personal ability, the behavior of showing off will gradually decrease, if a person is still showing off these in middle age, it means that he is mostly incompetent.
One: Show off your former glory
There is an old Chinese saying that a good man does not mention the courage of the year.
No matter how dazzling the glory of the past is, he is already in the past tense, but in middle age, he still only remembers the glory of the past, indicating that his current life must be very unsatisfactory.
The more people dwell on the good old days, the more they illustrate their dissatisfaction with the present. However, he did not focus on the present, by improving himself to achieve the glory of the past, but blindly talked about the past achievements, which can only show his inability to reality and his shallow vanity.
If you've always been good, then you don't need to show off your past, and others will now recognize you.
If you can't get the approval of others now, it means that your past achievements have not helped you in the present, and it is only a laughing stock to say it.
When people reach middle age, it is the climbing period of their careers, and it is the time to show their fists and work hard, but at this time, his talking points are only those deeds of the past, which can be seen how lackluster his life is now.
Two: Show off your love history
Feelings are very personal things, he can become a treasure in your heart, often take it out to reminisce, but it should not be the talk of your mouth, in social occasions to put gold on your face.
Some people always like to show off their past love history, as if the more people they have interacted with, the more attractive he appears, but they do not know that such behavior not only cannot show his charm, but also makes him look hateful.
This kind of person's view of love is fundamentally wrong.
The relationship between you is a good memory, he does not represent how good you are, just the attraction of two hearts to each other, and this kind of person materializes love to some objective hard conditions, so as to prove how outstanding he is.
What he cares about is not the love between you at all, but all the status of the ex now.
From a person's attitude towards the ex, we can see his true character, if he always slanders the ex after separation, or uses the ex to flaunt himself, it can be seen that his character is very poor, the realm is very low, such a person is really not worth interacting with.
Three: Show off your connections
We all have a group of people around us who especially like to show off their connections and listen to the names that appear in their mouths, one bigger than the other. According to them, this is all because he learned to make friends, but what the real situation is, it is a matter of opinion.
In most cases, those who like to show off their connections are often those who are not satisfied.
The friendship of gentlemen is as light as water, and true friends do not need to show off. In this way, people will know how good your relationship is, more like a bluff of the fox and tiger.
Really good people, there is no time to waste on these useless social networks, their every minute is precious, they are creating value. And good people tend to keep a low profile, and they won't be happy to see their dating situation become the appetizer on the wine table and become the topic of other people's population.
People who show off their connections don't even have the slightest respect for their friends.
In the "Vegetable Root Tan", it is said: The talent of a gentleman, the jade and the pearl, cannot be easily known.
A person's beauty should be like jade jewelry, warm and moist, and cannot be easily seen. Glass beads may be dazzling, but they are of low value, and jade may not look luminous, but it is warm and golden.
If a person still does not know how to be humble and low-key in middle age, but shows off everywhere, it can be seen that its pattern is very small, the ideological realm is very low, most of such people will not have great ability, let alone deserve deep friendship.
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