Shakespeare once said: "Unsatisfactory marriage is like a hell, a lifetime of chickens and geese fighting, can not live in peace, on the contrary, choose a satisfactory spouse, you can be harmonious for a hundred years, endless happiness." ”
Marriage is what everyone needs to experience, but also hope that they can meet and get a sincere feeling, a good marriage state can make life better and better, but also to make each other better, know how to tolerate each other, know how to understand each other's two sides can avoid a lot of unnecessary trouble, but also can avoid a lot of quarrels, and only care about their own interests, people who are unwilling to understand each other, often lead to the relationship between the two sides gradually drifting apart, and eventually to failure.
Feelings are the basis of a marriage, and if there are feelings at any time, it is necessary to put feelings first, rather than caring too much about material conditions.
Buy a house 800,000, decoration 200,000, your family does not pay a penny? Girlfriend retorted: Really can be calculated.
Mr. Jia and his girlfriend Ms. Lui' affairs:
Mr. Jia is 30 years old this year, last year talked about a girl 3 years younger than himself Ms. Lu, the two people are almost at first sight, Mr. Jia's own conditions are relatively good, his father is in business, his mother is an employee of the enterprise unit, and Mr. Jia is also spoiled from childhood, the conditions at home are very good, after graduation, there is a car, there is a house, the excellent family conditions He also opened a restaurant through the support of his parents after graduation, although he did not make a lot of money, but he was also decent.
And Ms. Lu's conditions are not as good as Mr. Jia's, Ms. Lu's family is ordinary, there is an older brother in the family, although only two years older than Ms. Lu, and now she is not married, but as the daughter of the family, Ms. Lu has also been cared for by the whole family since childhood.
In the process of getting along with two people, in fact, there are still some incompatibilities, Ms. Lu is young, not so mature in thinking, always more willful, this is not harmful, after all, Mr. Jia can also tolerate, but in the face of marriage, willfulness has led to the dissatisfaction of the two people.
Because they have been in love for a year, the two people also basically understand the situation of each other's families, and when discussing the matter of marriage, Ms. Lu said bluntly:
"My mother didn't have any requirements, that is, she had to have a room, and then there was a dowry of 160,000 yuan, and there was nothing particularly demanding."
And Mr. Jia can also accept, after all, the current bride price is almost such a situation, so he accepted, but the house was prepared very early, so now naturally do not want to re-buy.
As soon as the idea of not buying a house came out, it was dissatisfied by Ms. Lu:
"If you can get married and not buy a house, how many years have you been in that house, the layout of your home is not good, the surrounding environment is not good, you must buy a new house."
Ms. Lu's words made Mr. Jia hesitate, but he was still ready to discuss with his parents, who at the beginning took into account the woman's feelings, so they agreed to buy a house, replace the new house at the price of the old house sold, and then renovate it.
I thought that this matter was over, but Ms. Lu said that she had to add her name to the house book, after all, she was married, if there was no guarantee in life after marriage, she was more or less dissatisfied, so she wanted to write her name on the house, so that in case of divorce in the future, her life was also guaranteed.
In response to Ms. Lu's request, Mr. Jia was initially reluctant and said:
"After all, the house was replaced after our old house was sold, and the decoration is not going to make your family pay for it, which is not appropriate to write your name."
In the face of Mr. Jia's words, Ms. Lui said:
"Then make a down payment on the house, and then I'll pay it back with you, isn't that all right now?" This way you can also mentally balance. ”
Mr. Jia was speechless when he heard it:
"Obviously you can buy a house in full, do you still have to take a loan?" What about paying interest to the bank? I don't know what you think, the price of the old house sold to add a little money to the new house, and not a lot, why do you have to take out a loan, it is a family, and you can live a good life. ”
Ms. Lui said:
"Can that be the same?" You bought a house with full money at home, and you won't write my name, but after paying the down payment, I will pay the house with you, which is a normal thing to write our names. ”
But Mr. Jia still did not agree, but said:
"Well, the decoration needs to prepare about 200,000 yuan, your family is responsible for the decoration, and another car is married, how do you see?"
Ms. Lui was immediately angry:
"The bride price in my family only asked for 160,000 yuan, you let my home be responsible for the decoration?" Still want to accompany the wedding car? ”
"Buy a house for eight hundred thousand, decorate two hundred thousand, your family does not pay a penny?" Still want to add your name to your book? Why don't you think that these requirements you said are reasonable and unreasonable, are you running to the house to marry me, or are you running to get married with feelings? You are not happy with the full payment of the house, you are not happy with the decoration you are responsible for, what do you want to do. ”
Ms. Lu was also unhappy at this time, and retorted:
"I'm really calculating, I'm a girl, how can you not understand me, give me a little security, I just want a guarantee." 」
The two people quarreled because of this, which also led to the suspension of the marriage of the last two people.
Write at the end:
Although Mr. Jia and Ms. Lu did not propose to break up, they did not talk about marriage, because the house matter led to a certain gap between the two, so they had to choose to temporarily let go.
And the biggest contradiction for this marriage feeling is that the two people do not have the heart to consider the problem together, Ms. Lui only cares too much about her own protection, only cares about her own gains and losses, ignoring that the most important thing in marriage is based on feelings, the life of two people is the most important, so that the two people have awkwardness and contradictions again and again.
The beginning of a marriage needs to be considered by each other, only in this way can we be together in the face of some material foundations, resolve more contradictions, and enter the palace of marriage more smoothly.