Published an article on how girls and boys can upgrade their relationships, and there are many private messages from brothers that I have asked me to write about how boys and girls can upgrade their relationships.
Brothers, the upgrade relationship with girls pays attention to the water rather than the water. That is to say, do not always think of crossing directly from acquaintance to love with a girl, during which there will be a process [mutual acquaintance - initial understanding - get a good feeling - tentative upgrade, such as ambiguity - upgrade success], the most common mistake of many brothers is that when the girl's attitude towards herself is good, it is mistaken to think that the girl likes herself, so she is anxious to confess love, but it is because of this self-righteous behavior that you personally strangle love.
Let me talk about the right steps to upgrade the relationship with girls:
1. Mutual understanding [The purpose of mutual understanding, to facilitate mutual preliminary understanding, when knowing each other, we must pay attention to personal image, whether it is boys or girls, like to take people by appearance. Sometimes, the personal image is in line with the positioning of others' minds, which is a plus, and if you don't dress up, it may also be a minus point.
2. Gain goodwill [The purpose of acquiring goodwill is to facilitate the next step of relationship upgrading]
How can I get a good impression on the other person? (Attractive personality + Chat style (humorous and funny) + Highlights (such as being a person, talent, etc.)
3. Tentatively escalate relationships
Take dating as an example: if you can easily ask each other out every time, and you feel relaxed and happy with each other, then it is easy to upgrade the relationship. [You can create opportunities for physical contact, such as crossing the street to pull up the other person's hand, or to stroke the other person's hair, as long as the other party does not resist, then let go and test]
If you can't ask the other person out every time, or even if she always keeps her distance from you intentionally, then usually the other person is not interested in you. (Solution: You can take her to play exciting projects, such as roller coasters, playgrounds, so as to create close contact opportunities)
Chat can also escalate relationships, such as:
Girl: I ate a hot pot today, and I feel so spicy (share event)
Wrong way: "Drink more water when spicy" (solution)
The right way: "Hmm, eat hot pot without me, who told you to eat alone + disgusted expression" (provide emotional value)
Girl: Scolded by the leader today (complaining about emotions)
Wrong way: "That's the way it is, adjust your mindset" (solution)
The right way: "Your leader also doesn't know how to pity Xiang Xiang and cherish the jade, such a beautiful little fairy can't bear to scold." After a while, after work, my brother took you to eat hot pot. (Empathy, causing the next topic, so as to achieve the purpose of the invitation)
4. After the ambiguity is successful, the relationship can be directly upgraded. At this time, we must not be afraid of the head and tail, and directly follow the direction of the couple. [Note: In the period of not passing the ambiguity, do not blindly confess, it is easy to be issued a good person card. Confession is a trumpet of victory, not a clarion call to attack.