First of all: quarrel is a form of communication, not all quarrels are bad, on the contrary, occasional quarrels between men and women will also enhance each other's feelings (when quarrelling, it can most stimulate each other's emotions and expose needs).
Far from it, the theme of today's article is: quarreling with boyfriends, how to make him soft
1. Figure out the logical thinking of men and women arguing: men are rational in the majority (men focus: quarrelsome, I have to analyze clearly, who is doing it wrong... She was wrong, I will never admit it)
Women, on the other hand, are the majority of emotional thinking (women focus: it doesn't matter who is right and who is wrong, what matters is his attitude toward me, he can't coax me, he can't bow his head and admit his mistakes. Well, since I don't coax, don't apologize, and can't let me leak my emotions, even if I'm wrong, I will never bow my head and admit my mistake)
2. Learn to guide men to take the initiative to bow their heads. [Note: The premise of guidance must be understood in the man's subconscious: coax you = give each other steps + hammer your small fist. [Don't coax you = the old lady doesn't eat or drink + ignores you + doesn't give you a good face] This can strengthen the concept of men arguing to coax you. And to indoctrinate repeatedly, to change his cognition.
And then, once the man coaxes you to be fine. You can take advantage of a woman's unique characteristics: to be cute.
You can look at him with grievance and say, "So what's wrong with you?" Will it be done to me again in the future?
You can also say with grievance: You make people afraid of you like this (and then hammer him with a small fist, or snuggle directly into his arms)
When he sees the way you are wronged, he will not only feel guilty in his heart, but also make him realize that he really should not do this to you.
3. Take the retreat as the advance, and use the bitter meat meter. [This trick female friends have a special advantage in using it, and can instantly stimulate men's desire for protection]
How to use it? You can suddenly look at her with grievances when you are arguing, or even watch her not say a word, and then hold back tears.
You can also look at him and say: Honey, you said before to be nice to me? Is that how you treat me now? Then hold back the tears.
Why do this: one can stimulate his desire to protect, pull him back to the previous promise to you to make a comparison, and the other can arouse his guilt, so that he can't help but coax you, apologize to you, and even pull you in his arms.
Smart women in dealing with the quarrel between men and women, will not force the men to win or lose, but outsmart. Forcibly fighting to win or lose may not make men bow their heads and admit their mistakes, but if they can stimulate men's desire for protection and guilt, even if you are really wrong, the other party will willingly bow their heads and coax you.