Let's be honest! It is true that not every native family is happy and warm, and some people have always wanted to escape the shackles of the original family. All of them are due to their parents, who used the wrong way during education, and even if they later spent hundreds of times more energy, it would not help. Parents should always remind themselves not to become "rotten parents" in the eyes of their children.
1: Completely only care about your own feelings
Never listen carefully to or understand the child's opinions and moods, and completely ignore the child's feelings when speaking and doing things. When others kindly remind them, these parents will even say: What else do they know? / My decision was the best! / Are you raising children or am I raising children?
2: Lack of sense of proportion with children
There is still a need for a sense of proportion between people, even in front of their own children. Often "crossed the line", not giving or respecting the child's private interests and space. Looking through the child's chat history, privately sending messages to the child's friends, naked in front of sensible children, etc., will affect the child's psychology.
3: Look down on your own children
Other people's children are always the best, but their own children will never understand things! Never praise the child, even if the child has achieved better results than their own ability, this kind of parents are also with a dismissive attitude. Over time, the child either loses self-confidence or chooses to express himself in an extreme way.
4: Have excessive desire for control
Intimidating children with excessively harsh punishments to achieve their ultimate goal of compromise is 100% showing that I am the parent and you should listen to my way of education. Growing up in such a mentally stressful environment, it is easy to have deep psychological problems after being depressed for a long time.
5: Frequent moral kidnapping
A large number of parents like to say this: I really raised you for free! I'm doing this for your own good! Can't you just get a little angry and give me a long face? Family members shouldn't be so calculated! And so on for moral kidnapping words. Children from such a native family will more or less have a deep sense of guilt in their hearts.