Wen | Wen'er
Speaking of Dink, everyone is no stranger to it now. With the change of people's ideological concepts, more and more young people choose Dink.
Young people choose Dink to pay more attention to their own value and freedom. There is no child this concern, the husband and wife time is their own, the money earned is also spent on themselves, not to mention how dashing life is.
And those who stick to Dink will tell others how comfortable they are in life and how high their quality of life is. When you are young, you earn money and want to travel, and when you reach retirement age, you don't have to bring grandchildren, avoid the common contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the time is all your own, so don't mention how comfortable you are in your life. The life shown by these Dinks makes those laymen who are concerned by children and tired yearn for infinitely, and they will secretly think that if they do not have children, will their current life also be the quiet appearance of the years?
But one of my Dinks confided in me his true thoughts. There's an old Dink in our neighborhood who's almost 70 years old. The old man and his wife were high-ranking intellectuals when they were young, and the two immediately agreed with the Dink concept that came from the West, so they resisted all kinds of pressure to insist on Dink.
So the two of them lived like this for more than forty years, and a few years ago, Uncle Uncle's wife died, leaving Uncle Uncle alone. I often see uncle wandering around the neighborhood, playing chess with other people, nagging.
Once when we talked about the topic of Dink, the old man said in a serious tone: "Dink was fast and dashing when he was young, and he regretted it when he was old." In fact, I regretted it when Dink was 50 years old, but at that time, my wife could not have children, and we thought about adopting a child, and finally we did not succeed. At that time, I never dared to tell the truth to others, trying to create a happy life for others, and forced myself to deceive myself and deceive others.
In a few years, my parents died one after another, and I felt that the sky would fall, my heart would be empty, and I would have no emotional sustenance. But at that time, there was still a wife around, and the two could still live a life of mutual support. Now my wife is gone, and I am alone in heaven and earth, and there is no longer any emotional comfort. Now I'm like a walking dead, trying to cut myself off several times. If you haven't seen me in the neighborhood for days, remember to visit my house. ”
After listening to the words of this old man, I was deeply touched. I've been in contact with and heard about the Dinks, and they seem to be pretty free. But as they get older, most of them regret it. Especially after the death of both parents, it feels like the sky has fallen, there is no emotional sustenance, and the heart is empty.
In fact, the Dink people are more selfish, only looking at the present, until they are old, they know loneliness. People, when they are young, are not afraid of anything; they are afraid of experiencing that kind of loneliness and emptiness after the age of 50, and it is difficult to adapt to their future lives from now on. People are social animals, and when they are young, they do not feel it, and when they are 50 years old, they prefer the trivialities of lively and human fireworks.
Nature is the fairest, you enjoy freedom, then you have to enjoy solitude. Especially when you are sick and need someone to accompany you to take care of you? Friends? Friends have their own families and take care of them for a day or two at most; who signs when they need to be signed by their families? It's only come to this time, it's too late! The first half of life is free, the second half of life will have to suffer! Aren't people more afraid of the second half of their lives?
【Topic Discussion: Do you have Dink by your side?】 How is life now? 】
Senior nursery teacher, psychological counselor, author of original parenting comic articles, welcome to pay attention to [Little Fart Baby], you want to know about family education, mental health, child development, fashion education, you can find the answer here!