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In this life, people may meet countless people, but not everyone can stay in your life for a long time.
Seemingly noisy red dust, sometimes think carefully, who can really know and accompany themselves?
Loneliness is the norm in life, when there are many people, you may feel the most loneliness. That kind of life of calling friends and friends, drunken dreams and death, when the song is scattered, who will accompany you?
When you are young, you may also feel that being friends all over the world is a kind of psychological satisfaction. As the years go by, you gradually find that most of the time, you are in a state of solitude.
Teacher Yu Qiuyu said that in this world, no one can really empathize with a person's pain. You have a thousand arrows piercing your heart, and you do not want to die, it is only your own business.
For a person, it doesn't matter if you have friends or not, the key is whether you can coordinate your heart.
Once upon a time, time was the least noteworthy word in your dictionary.
But the more you grow, the more you want to escape from the ineffective societies. I just want to be alone, to be quietly alone, to turn over those old memories in my heart, and to think about the future plan for life.
Because you have understood that others are all passers-by in your life after all, and only yourself are the most real.
Leave that quiet to yourself, do what you love, and indulge in your own world.
Neither rush into other people's lives nor allow others to walk around in their own world. Don't want to participate in various social activities, simply stay away from the crowds, and stay at home alone.
With the common void and the snake, the hook heart fights, it is better to spend time on yourself.
02
There is a kind of person who is often alone and used to living without friends. Reading books in his spare time, watching movies when he is tired, making favorite foods, and arranging his life very fully.
There are also times when you are in a low mood, but you don't try to talk to others, because he knows that that kind of effect is not very big.
Writer Xin Yiwu said that our hearts, our flesh grows on each person's own body, sour, sweet and bitter, and the taste of our own taste is only understood by ourselves. Don't pin your hopes on others, don't ask others to understand your feelings, and shouting loudly is in vain.
The joys and sorrows of this world are always not connected, instead of asking others to understand you, it is better to spend that time to sort out your mood.
Just like the room you have stayed in for a long time, do a psychological cleaning regularly, and any haze will pass. And no matter how much others say, the person who will eventually clean up is you. It is better to reflect alone than to reflect more directly.
Most people who like to be alone have a strong heart.
Maybe you've been vulnerable and you've been traumatized. Slowly, you will understand that people live in this world, never regard others as their salvation, and the only thing that can save you is yourself.
Many people feel that they have no friends, lack social relations, and are anxious about interpersonal interactions, to put it bluntly, as Sanmao said, "We are unwilling to explore our own value, but we value the participation of others in our lives." ”
Anxiety, inner turmoil, emotional out of control, fear of loneliness, dare not face... At the end of the day, it's all its own problem. Maybe there are other factors, but that's not the point.
Bravely face your own current situation, calmly accept everything that life gives you, maybe your life is not perfect in the eyes of others, but it does not prevent you from becoming the best self in your heart.
03
People who like to be alone are often more able to live the way they want to be.
Because you don't have to spend time trying to please, but you know how to devote more energy to pleasing and cultivating yourself.
He understood that the more deliberately he looked for something, the more he couldn't find it.
And friends, as the writer Sanmao said: it is already good to have one, it really does not have to be too much. The joy of friends, the trust of that steadfastness. If there really isn't, there's yourself. Treat yourself well, get along with yourself, and be a friend.
Once young, fleshy, enthusiastic, afraid of living as an island, desperately trying to squeeze into those circles.
Later, it was found out that your friend who poured out your heart and lungs ended up crossing the river and demolishing the bridge in front of the interests; the person you helped ended up being ungrateful and betraying your friendship.
Only after experiencing it is more understandable that a life of solitude may be more suitable for oneself.
04
Alone, there's nothing wrong with that.
And friends, on the other hand, are not something that can be won through hard work. True friends are met when walking on the road of life, promoting each other, achieving each other, and making each other better and better.
If we can't meet it, it won't prevent us from becoming better.
Because, your life will not be due to the participation of others, some of the paths you should take do not have to go. Whether you have friends or not, you have to walk this life independently. Not having friends is not terrible, and being alone is also a best treat.
Some philosophers in the West say that people who take advantage of opportunities to be alone usually have depth.
Zeng Guofan was often vigilant about himself, and cautious and alone was at ease.
Throughout his life, every day he would devote a certain amount of time to meditate alone, contemplate himself, examine words and deeds, alert himself, and through reading, explore the wisdom of the ancients, guide himself, and practice himself.
Being alone can make us more aware of our past and present, and can we look forward to the future more clearly.
Especially in the life full of material desires, learn to be alone, in order to keep their own heart, learn not to invite more people into life, do not go to crowded places to join in, in order to have the peace and enjoyment of being alone.
I also hope that you who read the text can live the way you want.
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