When parents are angry, the easiest thing to do must be to beat the child, in our eyes, there is no problem that cannot be solved by beating, if not, it will be beaten again.
But you know what? Children are actually very fragile, and they really can't fight at will!
As soon as Yuan Yuan's mother remembered what had happened a few days ago, she was afraid. A few days ago, because Yuanyuan's homework was too grinding, and there was still half of the homework not written at ten o'clock in the evening, Yuanyuan's mother was so angry that she took the book and patted Yuanyuan's head a few times.
Unexpectedly, in the middle of the night, Yuan Yuan vomited and said that he was dizzy. Yuanyuan's parents quickly took the child to the emergency room. After the doctor's examination, he found that it was a slight concussion caused by Yuan yuan's mother hitting the child's head, and the doctor warned yuan yuan mother that "the child's head is very expensive, can not be hit casually, if it is serious, it may cause the child to die!" ”
Yuan yuan's mother was suddenly frightened out of a cold sweat, and now as soon as she thinks about this, her heart is pounding.
When parents are angry, it is not only easy to choose their words, but also often appear to be hands-free. Reach out and hit, but do you know that there are 3 places on the child's body, and parents can't hit it when they are angry, otherwise, it may cause lifelong regrets.
First, the child's head
The child is not tall, so the head is the most convenient for parents, take the hand to beat, take the book to shoot, the first reaction of the parents to find the place, is the child's head, especially the back of the head, raising the hand is a slap, loud, and smooth.
In fact, the child's head is very fragile, and it is easy to hit the problem if one is not careful, resulting in lifelong regrets.
Lives are at risk
Sun Zheng, a well-known neurosurgery expert, pointed out that the bulbar is located in the back of the head, which is the center that manages breathing and heartbeat, and if the back of the head is hit, it is easy to become a respiratory center concussion, which can cause some complications of respiratory failure and cause death.
Intellectual impairment
The brain is covered with dense nerves that control different aspects of a child's intelligence. For example, the cerebral cortex is divided into 4 parts, namely the frontal lobe, the parietal lobe, the occipital lobe, and the temporal lobe, which are responsible for the movement, sensation, vision, and hearing parts of the child.
In 1874, the German scholar Wilnick found that a patient's auditory organs are obviously normal, can hear sounds, but can not distinguish language, and lost the ability to understand words, and finally he found that the patient's parietal lobe, occipital lobe and temporal lobe at the intersection of the temporal gyrus have been damaged, that is, there is a problem with the hearing part, which eventually leads to his incomprehension, that is, "receptive aphasia".
If the child's forehead is injured, he will not be able to speak, the expression will be sluggish and laborious, and the expression ability will be limited;
The top of the child's head is damaged, and he will not be able to write, that is, the ability to write and draw is biased, and he cannot write a good word.
The back of the child's head is damaged and cannot be understood, that is, he can see the words, but he cannot understand the meaning of the words, and his comprehension ability is limited;
If the two sides of the child's head are damaged, they will not be able to understand, they will not be able to distinguish the pronunciation of words, they will have difficulty understanding words, and they will not understand them in class.
See no, this is only part of the function, there are parts of the brain that control sleep, exercise, and memory, if you often hit the child's head, these corresponding parts may be damaged, thus affecting the child's intellectual development.
Second, the child's face can not be hit
There is an old Chinese saying that "revealing people does not expose shortcomings, and hitting people does not hit their faces", but some parents just like to slap them. Because in their hearts, this kind of insulting beating can make children firmly remember the shame of being beaten, achieve the effect of "long memory", and punching the face is the same as the head spanking, convenient and convenient.
As everyone knows, punching the face can indeed make many children remember for a long time, but the insult is extremely strong, very hurt the child's self-esteem, especially the red and swollen slap prints make the child have no face to go out, embarrassed to see people, for children in the self-esteem establishment period, it is the biggest insult and destruction, it is easy to lead to children's inferiority and shame personality.
In addition to that, punching the face can easily break a child! In the TV series, there are often bridge sections where the father slaps his son deaf, which is really not an exaggeration!
Adults have large palms, and one slap can hit the child's eyes, ears, temples, nose and face. Coupled with the huge strength of adults, it is easy to hurt the child's vital organs. If the ear is accidentally injured, it is easy to cause perforation of the eardrum and affect the hearing.
Especially the temple, experts pointed out: "The position of the temple, after this position has been beaten, because its orbital lining is relatively thin, in the case of concussion, fractures can occur, and fractures are also unfavorable to the development of the optic nerve." We have clinically found that a slap blindness. ”
Third, the child's back can not be hit
Do not underestimate the child's back area, the child is still growing and developing, the spinal cord and spine development is not sound enough, parents hit the back or spanking, it is easy to make the wrong force, resulting in damage to some nerves, thereby affecting the child's development.
And the child's bones are relatively small, very fragile, once the adult is not well controlled, it is easy to cause fractures and other injuries, and even endanger the internal organs, causing internal bleeding.
Some parents have questions, "This can't be fought, that can't be fought, so where can I fight?" ”
I think as parents, we must first ask ourselves, why can we only use beatings to educate children? Why do you have to rely on fighting to educate him well?
If this is the case, then it only shows that your education is very problematic.
Zheng Yuanjie, the king of fairy tales, once said that the ugliest act of force in the world is that adults beat children, which is bullying. In fact, if you think about it, the reason why we beat children is because we don't know how to educate children, and finally choose the simplest and most rude, direct and effective way.
American child education expert Heim Ginort said:
"Punishment cannot prevent bad behavior, it can only make the offender more careful when committing the crime, more skillfully conceal the crime, and more skillfully undetected." When the child is beaten, on the surface, he is afraid and afraid, he may only be afraid of the rattan in your hand, he does not reflect on his wrong behavior, and even extremely wants to escape. ”
Children who are often beaten, the more their personalities are beaten, they don't care about their parents' stick education at all, and even have a rebellious psychology against stick education, and the more you beat me, the more disobedient I am. Slowly, children will also hate their parents, and the gap with their parents will become deeper and deeper.
Teacher Yin Jianli wrote in the book "A Good Mother Is Better than a Good Teacher", "In the face of a minor, the greatest civilization of an adult is to stand in the child's point of view, try to understand what he does, and guide his growth in a way that he is willing to accept." You have to treat him as a "man" as an equal, not a "weak man" to conquer.
When your family, friends, and colleagues make mistakes, what methods do you use to help him, inspire him, and guide him, you should use what methods to educate the child, rather than relying on "beating up" to solve it in a hurry!
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