The years are hurried, and inadvertently, a person has come to the second half of his life.
In old age, people are a little more open-minded, a little more indifferent, don't show off anymore, show off too much, it is very easy to put yourself into an embarrassing situation.
There is a kind of person who has suffered from life when he was young, who has not eaten enough to eat well, who is poorly dressed, who has nothing to do at home, who is surrounded by walls, and who lives all his life in a state of looking up to others.
But as the old saying goes, thirty years of Hedong, thirty years of Hexi. This kind of person has a good life, although he has no ability, he has suffered for a lifetime, but his children have a job, they will make money, and they are filial piety, so they will live very comfortably in their old age.
If you can let go of the obsession of the first half of your life, enjoy the second half of your life safely, and be an old man who does not talk about right and wrong, does not like to compare, and does not show off his wealth, wouldn't it be better to have a good time. However, he likes to "reveal the rich", likes to show off the materials he has, and over time, there will inevitably be gaps between relatives, making himself particularly embarrassed. Some people like to show off their children's wealth, and over time, they will cause conflicts between their children, and they are also particularly embarrassed.
01, people are old, don't show rich.
In this society now, how many are so poor that they are jingling? Others don't say it, not necessarily others drink the northwest wind every day.
I have an uncle of my own family, when I was young, my family was very poor, and I had three children, two sons and a daughter. Both sons did not have any success, did not study well when they were young, and worked everywhere to support their families when they became adults. The daughter graduated from college, married a rich and capable husband, and the two people did business after marriage, and their lives were prosperous.
The good life of the uncle in his later years also depended on his daughter. The daughter is rich and rich, and from time to time she subsidizes the uncle's family. The uncle had money in his hands, and the people were also floating.
Often when there are many people, they show off how rich their daughter is, and the most commonly used sentence is: "The safe of the daughter's home, you have not seen it, you can't close it!" The money was thrown in one by one, and when it was thrown in, it fell out..."
Or when the neighbors were chatting, they came to another sentence: "My daughter gave another 20,000 yuan of pocket money, I don't want it, I have to give it hard." ”
Everyone was red-eyed and uncle gave birth to a good daughter. But unexpectedly, because the uncle often showed off for his daughter Lufu, the two sons and daughters-in-law had their own careful thoughts.
The eldest son wants to buy a house, let the uncle talk to his daughter, borrow 500,000, the uncle goes to borrow money, the daughter says that the money is in turnover, and the maximum loan is 100,000 to the eldest brother. The eldest brother and sister-in-law were very angry.
The second son wanted to buy a car, let the uncle talk to his daughter, borrowed 300,000 yuan, and the daughter said coldly in front of the family: "My money is blown by the wind?" The fifty thousand you borrowed last time has not been repaid. The second sister-in-law immediately blackened her face.
Uncle is quite embarrassed, he originally thought that his daughter is an upstart, how much money can be taken out, not to mention to his own brother to use, did not expect his daughter to be so rude, let him lose his old face.
The daughter once said to her father seriously: "In the future, don't show off your wealth for me, the money is not so easy to earn, you do this, it makes it difficult for me to be a person, and the more difficult the relationship with my brother and sister-in-law is." ”
02 People are old, keep their mouths shut.
When a person reaches old age, keeping his mouth, opening his legs, and eating a light diet is the best health.
We spend two years learning to speak, but we have to spend a lifetime learning to shut up.
Especially in the old age, you should have accumulated a lot of life experience and understood the truth of life. Know what to say and what not to say. When it's time to say it, you must know how to say it so that you don't hurt your family, friends, or relatives. When you shouldn't say it, know how to shut up.
Shutting up is also a practice.
Don't think that what you say is harmless, you can keep your mouth shut, especially in front of relatives, show off your family's wealth less, and don't embarrass others.
The days are lived by themselves, and happiness is not happy as long as they know it. No matter how much money you have, don't brag about it all the time. After all, money is an external thing, more money is more than a small person, and the tree is easy to attract wind. Always thinking about the flattery of others, although it sounds full of joy, but in fact, don't forget that there are more people who covet you because of money.
How many relatives have been angry because money has become angry, and even become enemies?
How many families were originally harmonious and happy, but brothers and sisters were estranged because of money, or even dead and did not interact with each other?
When people are old, they must handle family relations well, and do not always favor rich children, and feel that other children will achieve nothing, and even use sour words to stimulate them. They are all the same children, money is just an external thing, as long as there is filial piety, they are all good children.
Keep your mouth shut so that you will not be used by people with hearts, and you will not destroy the harmony of the family.
Keeping your mouth, not showing wealth, and having an indifferent attitude is the smartest way for people to live in old age.