See a sentence written correctly:
"A man can have no car, no house, and no money, but he must have a self-motivated heart."
It is normal for men to have no money when they are young, as long as they are self-motivated and know how to work hard, their lives will definitely get better and better.
But the most afraid of encountering a man who is not self-motivated, doing nothing all day, not knowing how to make progress, and saying that he hates women for being poor and loving the rich, such a man cannot support love, let alone support the family.
This society is very realistic, there is no so-called sentient drinking water. What can bring hope to a woman in the long years is never love, but a man's sense of responsibility.
01 Take the good buddies on a blind date
Fu Songlin (pseudonym), a 33-year-old takeaway delivery man who earns about 7,000 yuan a month, bought a two-bedroom house on his own, and the loan has been paid off. Although he is 33 years old, he has only had a relationship experience that lasted less than 3 months.
For the reason why he chose to deliver takeaway, Fu Songlin said that he was born to have sex freedom, and this job can just meet this, although it is hard, but when you are tired, you can go out and shake it.
When it comes to mate selection criteria, he said that he can accept between 27 and 35 years old, a little older or younger than himself, if it is divorced, it does not matter, as long as it is not a boy, as for the personality, he hopes that the other party will be mild-tempered and not unreasonable.
In order to improve the success rate of his blind date, Fu Songlin specially added his married colleague and good buddy Brother Long to help him check the pass, talking about his personality, Brother Long said that he has a straight personality, usually there is no bad hobby, the favorite thing in addition to travel is to write novels.
I thought he was just an ordinary takeaway brother, but I accidentally found that he still likes to write novels, and Red Lady was also particularly shocked. In this regard, Fu Songlin said that because he had a martial arts dream since he was a child, and when he was in school, he liked to read the martial arts novels of Gu Long and Jin Yong, so now he tried to write a book after delivering takeaways, and has written a book that has been published on the website.
After understanding his situation, Hongniang introduced him to Lu Lin (pseudonym), 31 years old this year, who is currently engaged in the e-commerce live broadcasting industry, although the work is busy, but the income is considerable, and he can earn between 8,000 and 10,000 per month.
For the other half, Lu Lin said that his requirements are particularly simple, hoping to find a mature and stable, the other party must be responsible, and can bear things with himself.
In order to give the female guests a different way to meet, Fu Songlin plans to combine his profession and wear a takeaway suit to send her a cup of warm milk tea, so that you can also inquire about the situation of the female guests in advance.
After planning everything, Fu Songlin quickly changed into his overalls, and then sent a cup of milk tea to the female guests as a courier, and then pretended to say:
"There's a handsome guy over there who ordered a cup of milk tea and gave it to you."
Originally sitting on a chair waiting for the blind date to appear, the female guest saw that suddenly someone brought milk tea to herself, and thought that the male guest had specially ordered it for herself, and then secretly observed herself in a corner, not knowing that this was today's blind date.
After some trial, Fu Songlin said that his first impression of the female guest was good, but when she was asked to describe it, the shy man suddenly got stuck, fortunately, he liked to write novels, so he used willow leaf eyebrows and cherry mouths to describe each other.
With the previous preparation, when the official meeting, when the female guests saw Fu Songlin and his good buddies for the first time, they directly regarded others as today's protagonists, and said that Fu Songlin looked more comedic.
In order to avoid embarrassment, the red lady quickly revealed the answer, telling her that the man in front of her, full of comedy, was the person she was going to go on a blind date today. Subsequently, in order to deepen their understanding of each other, Fu Songlin proposed to take her to the mall he often went to for dinner, and also specially introduced her to a relatively popular shop.
I thought it would be a pleasant meal, but just sat down Fu Songlin's performance made the female guests dissatisfied, after sitting down, under normal circumstances, the male guests will take the initiative to recommend a few signature dishes, but Fu Songlin sat still for a long time, and finally the red lady reminded him, and he reacted to know that he wanted to order. Therefore, the female guest felt that he was too shy.
In this regard, Fu Songlin felt a little wronged, because he had planned to let the waiter order tea first, but he did not come in for half a day, the waiter did not come, and he did not know who to order with, so he would sit dry.
In order to increase Fu Songlin's impression points, the group of relatives and friends quickly gave him a support, so that he who had not been in love for a long time must take the initiative as a man. With this reminder, Fu Songlin really improved, and when he ate, he also knew that he had picked vegetables for female guests.
02 The three views are incompatible and incompatible
In order to enliven the atmosphere, the female guest took the initiative to ask about Fu Songlin's work and asked him if he was too busy at work to delay finding a partner. It was originally a very good step, but Fu Songlin was not down, so he had to choose self-blackness, he said:
"People are here, only this looks, only this strength, rich and handsome always have to account for the same, right?"
Hearing that he was so unconfident, the female guest quickly asked him what kind of other half he wanted to find, and Fu Songlin said that he did not have high requirements, hoping that the woman could run the family and live a stable life in the economic aspect.
After listening to the conditions he put forward, the female guest was a little surprised and quickly said:
"Then you don't have many requirements, it should be easy to find?"
In this regard, Fu Songlin once again said with a negative attitude that although his requirements are not high, the requirements for the current girls are quite high, and boys with ordinary conditions do not even have the right to speak in the blind date market.
After saying this, Fu Songlin couldn't help but sigh a long time, seeing that he had such a negative attitude, the female guest who had been smiling quickly encouraged him to be optimistic, but Fu Songlin could not be happy, but the air pressure was getting lower and lower, and it turned out that after learning that the female guest was a very hard-working girl, he directly inferiorized himself, and felt that he had no advantage in front of the female guest.
Seeing the male guest's depressed attitude, the group of relatives and friends quickly comforted him that any work is slowly accumulated, and he also sent 5 years of takeaway to have today's results, so that he should not be arrogant and thin, and the days will definitely get better and better.
When saying this, the female guest also encouraged him not to give up lightly, and said that although this society is very realistic, she values the man's character more, and if the character passes and has a sense of responsibility, she is willing to fight with him.
I thought that this chicken bloody words would ignite the fighting spirit of the male guests, but he kept yawning there, which made the female guests feel a little uncomfortable, thinking that the whole process was their own speech, and the male guests were listless the whole time, which made her feel very frustrated.
In order to reverse the female guest's impression of herself, after eating, Fu Songlin quickly invited her to sit in her own home, and when she learned that his home was near the subway station, the attentive female guest quickly found some confidence for Fu Songlin, although it was only an old house, but still praised his good house location.
Although the female guests have taken the initiative to enliven the atmosphere throughout the whole process, unfortunately, Fu Songlin has always been a broken jar and a broken mentality, when the female guests saw the massage chair and foot soaking bucket at home, they quickly praised him for knowing how to maintain health, and as a result, he came to a sentence:
"No way, people are middle-aged!"
Then he also said that the average person loses his hair in his forties and fifties, and he only starts to lose it in his thirties, and for this topic, the female guest also continues to help him find steps, saying that it may be because the work is too hard.
After visiting the house, after seeing the layout of the two rooms, the female guest asked the other party if they planned to change rooms if they were together in the future, after all, the area is not large, and it may not be enough to live in the family. In this regard, Fu Songlin said that he has a high quality of sleep, so he is not very fond of this house in the downtown area, so he also wants to change the house.
Although the starting point of the house change is different, but the female guest feels that there is still salvation, so the scene came out of the question, originally intended to test the other party's self-motivation through the assumption of changing jobs, the result is that Fu Songlin directly said:
"If the risk is too great, I will not try."
The lively and cheerful female guest is a more adventurous person, and the shy and inferior male guest is a more conservative person, for each other's future, the female guest directly said that she wants to find someone who can shoulder the responsibility of supporting the family, and the male guest is too satisfied with the status quo, so that he can not see hope, so he decisively chose to let go.
03 What women are most afraid of is not suffering
Hobart said:
"The world is willing to give a big prize for one thing, including money and honor, and that is enterprising."
In a relationship, the most disappointing thing for women is not that men have no money, but that they are not enterprising. Many men always like to complain that women are too realistic, but the truth is that women do not have to struggle for wealth and wealth, as long as they are better than the initial life, they will be satisfied, rather than eating and lazy, and there is no sense of responsibility.
From the perspective of this blind date, the female guests have given a lot of opportunities, which can be regarded as a girl with three views, but unfortunately the male guests are immersed in their own world throughout the whole process, there is always a kind of grievance that I can't find the right object because the girl is too realistic, in fact, it is not that others look down on you, when you yourself look down on yourself, how to let others see hope in you?
Men can have no money, but they can't be unmotivated, poverty is not terrible, afraid that there is no hope, can not see the future.
Truly responsible men will never escape and prevaricate, but will carry heavy burdens and endure hardships for the sake of their loved ones, but never complain.
Hope not to say that women are realistic anymore, sometimes it's just that men don't know how to cherish.
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