Psychology and common sense of life have long told us that the degree of refinement and proficiency of a person doing something is related, roughness and mistakes are inevitable in the beginning stage of everything, only by experiencing mistakes and constantly summarizing experience in mistakes can we do more and more accurately. Due to the lack of children's young age and background knowledge, various "negligent" behaviors are very normal phenomena, as long as the environment is normal, children will slowly mature and do better and better. Just like learning to walk, you start stumbling, but you don't need to solve it artificially. If you don't see this as a problem, it is not a problem, and if you see it as a problem, you will create a problem. If parents are not sympathetic to the child's young age, every time the child falls, the parents always criticize it as careless and express dissatisfaction, which will bring disruption and confusion to the child, increase his psychological burden, and delay his growth.
Dewey, a famous American educator, said: "The first condition for growth is immaturity." So he believes that children write homework and make mistakes is also an element of homework design. This is not because mistakes are a good thing, but because being too enthusiastic about choosing materials and tools that do not allow for errors can limit students' creative spirit, minimize their judgment, and make them have little effect on the acquisition of ability. Therefore, Western pedagogy particularly emphasizes the opportunity to give children the opportunity to "try and make mistakes", which is exactly what Chinese often says that "failure is the mother of success". Homework learning is a matter that needs to be handled carefully, and it needs to be done collaboratively with intelligence, interest, perseverance and emotion, and a single "seriousness" does not exist, and it is impossible to complete such a complex event. If a child is always criticized for being sloppy in his studies, he will automatically adjust.
First of all, because people's attention is limited, children's attention range is more narrow, energy is very limited, if you focus on the question of right and wrong, there is no time for thinking and exploration. And how attention is distributed is also a habit to develop. Over time, the habit of not making mistakes may be cultivated, the habit of not being good at thinking and lacking interest in inquiry has also been cultivated, and a person who sits in prison for a long time will not be accustomed to sitting in prison, if he is used to being in prison, opening the iron door and not stepping out, it can only mean that his hope and mind have been destroyed, and he has been a double exhaustor of physical strength and thought, like the girls mentioned earlier.
Secondly, people are profit-seeking and avoid harm, if a child continues to receive the message of "you can be stupid, but you can't be wrong", and repeatedly because of sloppy criticism, he will subconsciously reduce his intelligence level, so that he really will not, in order to escape the blame brought about by mistakes. The consequences of this avoidance not only hindered his intellectual development, but also reduced his sense of self-identity. Children originally like to be smart, and feel that their intelligence can bring confidence to a person. Trust in one's own intellect and interest in one's studies is an important prerequisite for ensuring that children invest their feelings and perseverance in learning, without which it is impossible to achieve outstanding intellectual achievements. The honor of not making mistakes is very superficial, does not give children long-term confidence, and does not make children really interested in learning itself.
Third, often criticize the child sloppy, is a labeling behavior, will give the child a negative reinforcement, let him feel that he is a "careless" person, this self-psychological cues are very powerful, will affect his behavior expression, really become more and more rough, which will lead to more and more criticism from parents. Although due to the pressure of parents, children will repeatedly ensure that they will not be sloppy in the future, but subconsciously they will resist this request and produce emotional rebellion. In the midst of bad self-suggestion and defiance, he will become more sloppy, even breaking the jar and breaking the can, solidifying the sloppiness into a characteristic of himself, until he completely loses the power of self-correction. Can you expect a child who has not developed the habit of thinking and inquiring in learning, who is not confident or who has always been sloppy, can you expect him to excel academically? Children's "sloppiness" is a very normal phenomenon, the least worth mentioning in learning and life, and an indispensable tip for them to move towards refinement. The mountain road itself is not the peak, and if you want to reach the top, the trek on the mountain road cannot be omitted. A child, as long as he is mentally normal, has the ability to improve himself. If adults have not forgotten that they have also been young, they should not forget that they have also been sloppy, looking back at their own growth, is it the harsh rebuke that makes us immediately become meticulous, or tolerance and time help us to slowly improve? When we say that someone has a certain aspect of genius, it only means that he has this potential, not that he can achieve perfection with one shot, and the so-called "extraordinary shot" must also have the accumulation of relevant experience, and children need this accumulation even more.
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