Germany, which has always been known as the "German Village", has a population of more than 1 million people, and the population problem will become one of the most challenging problems in Germany this century. Therefore, Germany has a policy of 600,000 subsidies for having a child, and you can also enjoy a three-year childcare period (usually without the consent of the employer), but no one wants to have children.
Do Germans dislike children because they don't like children?
The answer is no, on the contrary, they like children very much, and because they like children too much, they feel that they should give their children the best.
Raising a child in Germany from childhood to adulthood is a very high cost, many people may think that how can developed countries not afford to raise children, in fact, there is a problem of soft funds for children's education, and there is no fixed standard for children's education funds.
In Germany, which is particularly fond of children, they want to give their children the best, and they face high life and education costs. The 600,000 yuan funded by the government, if converted into euros, is actually only 76573.5872 euros. According to incomplete calculations, a child from birth to 18 years old adulthood, about 180,000 euros.
Of course, the government only relieves the pressure of raising children, not that there is no need to raise children. For the average family, if they want to give their children a better life, they must solve the remaining funds themselves.
Therefore, for Germans, if they do not have enough financial strength, they will not easily choose their children. As parents, their not-so-rash choices are responsible, which is why Germans like children but are reluctant to have them.
Second, a series of troubles and economic pressures brought about by having children
Earlier we answered the question that Germans like children but are reluctant to have children, mainly because of financial pressures. If after giving birth, two people raise the child at the same time, it is still satisfying for working families.
But another reason limits the solution mentioned above, after the birth of a child, Germany encourages women to personally bring their children until the age of 2 after childbirth, otherwise they will not receive a parental education fund for 2 years old.
In this way, the 600,000 childbirth subsidy is actually equivalent to the subsidy for women's unemployment. After the age of two, many women do not say that they can immediately find a job, even have a long adaptation period, and even women who are unwilling to continue working, so letting German women raise children themselves is largely due to the pressure of the family economy.
In another study, it was said that Germans generally believe that before the age of 3, the mother should raise the child at home, and the mother who insists on going to work will be called a "bad mother".
It can be seen that after giving birth to a child, it will cause great work difficulties to the woman, and this difficulty is actually the pressure of the family.
The issue of the ownership of children after divorce
Why is the issue of divorce mentioned here?
Because germany has always had a high divorce rate, unlike the mainland, Germans will largely belong to the woman after divorce. From German policies, we can see that they are more inclined to women with children. They believe that fathers do not have the same ability to raise children as mothers.
The gentleness and care of women's nature will allow them to show their advantages in taking care of children, but they are not specialized in earning money. In the era of high divorce rates, if both husband and wife divorce, then the financial pressure of caring for the child is all borne by the woman, and it was also mentioned earlier that the child needs at least 120,000 euros from birth to eighteen years old, which is a big cost.
If the child is awarded to a woman, there is a problem of bringing children, and the government encourages women to bring the children themselves, which means that women have no conditions for raising children at all. If the elderly are allowed to take children, then the child is not a good mother, and under the influence of this concept, most women are not willing to have children easily.
Many people will say that the father of a child needs to exercise his or her own custody, but it turns out that most fathers will evade payment for various reasons. Cumbersome legal procedures take one to two years, during which the woman cannot prove the man's true income after the actual income is divided and transferred.
At the same time, no matter how the man escapes, he needs to pay one-third of the existing salary to the woman until she finds a job, and whether the woman's work can pay for the life of their mother and son. This also creates pressure on the man after the divorce, so most men do not want children easily.
The lack of financial security, so that both men and women are not willing to have children easily, this is one of the reasons for the lack of children in Germany.
The German view of marriage and love
The previous mention is the worst case, and then we will talk about the German concept of marriage and love.
The superior conditions and open-mindedness of developed countries make them very indifferent to marriage. In Germany, it is normal to have children out of wedlock, and they are completely reluctant to tie themselves to the shackles of marriage.
Especially in the case of higher divorce rates, they believe that marriage will increase a lot of responsibilities and obligations, and if divorced, they also need to face the pressure of life and raising children. This is an end that both men and women, especially women, are unwilling to accept.
In this case, most young people are reluctant to get married.
On the other hand, Germany's openness and tolerance of feelings has also contributed to a low marriage rate.
In the Summer of Germany, thousands of people lie naked on Munich's largest lawn in the sun or run naked, but no one is surprised by this. And if you choose to like men or women, no one interferes, and in 2001, there was a Berlin mayoral candidate Klaus who revealed his identity, but this did not affect his campaign success.
It can be seen from the German concept of marriage and love that they want a life of freedom and freedom, and they are not willing to bind themselves with traditional ideas. If they don't have the strength to ensure their lives after marriage or having children, they will not get married and will not have children.
epilogue
In summary, we can find that the reason why most people in Germany are reluctant to have children is because they want to live their own lives better, and they do not want to be bound by their families and children. The idea that children and marriage should be spices for a better life, not a necessity, has exacerbated the rate at which Germany's population is ageing. The Idea of the Germans is spreading all over the world, and everything has two sides, and people's pursuit of personal happiness will inevitably bring a series of problems.
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