There are many people, when they first met, with a surprised face, but the more they understand, the more they feel that this person's heart is very unbearable;
How many people, when they first met each other, did not get used to each other, but after deep understanding, they saw his pride, understood his frustration, and liked him more and more, and the two hearts were getting closer and closer.
Just because, like, often look at the flowers in the fog, look at the moon in the water, is a hazy sense of beauty; and love, but it requires you to get closer, close, understand, and then appreciate each other's advantages, accept each other's shortcomings, and finally can no longer put down.
In the TV series "Golden Powder Family", Jin Yanxi fell in love at first sight when she first saw Leng Qingqiu, chased to the school, chased to the girl's home, chased into a neighbor, and finally became a lover. But after marrying her home, he complained that she did not understand his son's sentimentality and did not understand his clumsy life.
Only because, once a woman falls in love with a man, she will make a mistake, too much trust in him, too dependent, and too "loving", so she believes everything the other party says, and she supports what the other party does, even if there is dissatisfaction in the heart, she will suppress herself.
And, once a man feels that this woman lacks freshness, he will love you, but he will not be able to resist the temptation; once he feels that this woman has no opinion, he will bully you and not care about you; once he feels that this woman has no self-confidence, he will feel that you are attached to him and will have no concern for you.
In the long run, men will become less and less like you, less and less like you, and will come home later and later. Therefore, for women, love is the need for you to guide the other party to pay, otherwise you will lose all your blood.
Whether you are husband and wife or lover, if you love a man again, you must also remain rational and sober.
A smart woman, she never does these three things, she will guide men to remember her, respect her, spoil her.
"Don't trust men's promises", only trust your own judgment
The most difficult thing in the world to look at directly, except for the sun, is the human heart.
And, some people say, the most unbelievable thing in the world is a man's mouth. It may seem like a joke, but it does make some sense.
Many vows, the moment they are spoken, are likely to be sincere, but it is a little difficult to do. Many vows, in the flow of time, can not withstand the blow of reality.
Therefore, when a man is in love, his mind is hot, and most of the words he says, when you are together, even he himself will forget his "when did he say".
However, women will not be discouraged because of it, love exists, and there are facts in your love, but time will make your love change a little, and this change is: either he loves you more and more, loving deeply and steadily; or he hates you more and more, and loves tired and has no feelings.
Of course, we all long for love to be like the first situation, but in life, most men will have a second psychology in their hearts, but they will not confide in you.
A smart woman who will listen carefully to what men say, whether on a whim or commit multiple times, but she will choose to trust her judgment more.
For what a man has promised but cannot do at all, she will not force him to do it, but will encourage him and give him courage; and for a man who can do it, but does not do it at all, she will remain sober and will communicate with him seriously until the man fulfills the promise he has promised, and will not let the man pretend to forget it.
Another point is that many times men don't feel anything for women, and sometimes you give him the opportunity to "not put you at ease".
For example, women will always be too considerate of men, it rains, men mean to you: "I'll pick you up", but they don't want to get up and leave the game they are playing, and the woman is still worried that he will pick you up, it will rain, so she did not bring an umbrella, took the bag on her head and ran to take a taxi. In fact, at this time, since he proposed, you can directly tell him: Well, I am waiting for you.
Remember: if you want to regain his love, you must give him the opportunity to love you, guide him, let him pay more for you, he will be concerned about you, and feel sorry for you.
"Not emotional", calmly facing the dispute between two people
Women are the product of emotion.
When two people are sweet, maybe a man will make her unhappy, and she will be furious and let the man coax and coax. But if you are still so emotional when you are fighting, it will only make your relationship worse and worse, and it will also make his heart want to leave you more and more.
You know, at any time, the women that men like are mostly gentle as water.
No matter how you have personality, no matter how you say "I'm tattooed, I smoke and drink, but I'm a good girl", but if you try to play personality with him, he will want to leave you in his heart and want to find a gentle and virtuous woman.
Of course, we are not saying that women must suppress themselves and not express their hearts, but that you must calmly tell each other your thoughts and your dissatisfaction with him.
A smart woman, she will not make a big fuss, nor will she let her bad emotions spread to her lover, so that the relationship between the two people is like a volcano, out of control.
For example, when driving, men will always point fingers at the side, saying that you can't do this, that's not okay, make you feel irritable, want to be angry, at this time you must press a pressure, say to him: I know that my skills are not good, but you are like this, will make me more impatient, if you drive, I also do this to you, how will you feel?
The more calm you are, the more he will feel "admired" for you.
The less impatient and irritable you are, the more he will feel "good" to you.
Love needs to be cultivated, don't expect two people to quarrel, the cold war for a few days, will solve the problem. That will only push him to the other side, and even make him look outward for "warmth"; don't worry about everything, let him "walk on thin ice" when he is with you, then he will only reject you more and more in his heart and do not want to be close to you.
Love, to guide him to understand you, to understand you, to let him release emotions around you, to truly express his heart, so that he can have more and more dependence on you.
"Won't give up on improving yourself" and let him chase after him
Some girls, once in love with a man, especially after marriage, change their appearance: the beautiful and beautiful woman of the past is gone, and instead a person who is dressed and does not even bother to put on makeup has appeared.
In fact, when a woman is with her loved one, most of what she wants is actually a sense of security. But, on the contrary, man's nature is to hunt animals, and what he desires is to be able to chase, to be able to satisfy his desire to conquer.
So, smart woman, she will keep herself attractive all the time.
First: physical appearance
A woman's maintenance of appearance should be a lifetime.
No matter what age you are, you must understand that your face is the epitome of your life.
Of course, the so-called "face" is not that your face can always maintain youth, but: your temperament overflows with confidence, you will not show a vicious expression; your figure can still maintain a symmetrical, not an unhealthy look; your dress is very decent, not casually dressed, very sloppy; your conversation is very calm and steady, not impatient and irritable...
The most important thing is that you know in your heart that your beauty is for yourself, not for anyone.
Second: psychologically
There is a saying that goes well: women must live beautifully.
Many people think that women live beautifully, that is, they have money and beauty, but this is only one of them.
More importantly, even if you don't have money and you don't look pretty, you are very satisfied with your current life, you will not complain, you will not be upset, and you will not feel unhappy.
Smart women never stop moving forward and never give up on themselves. She is very confident in her future, and she believes that she has always had a heart in her bones that makes her straighten her spine, so that she can maintain a healthy body at all times, and can make her mind full of wisdom and cope with various mutations in life.
That is, she is able to grow old psychologically "gracefully".
Third: in life
Many women will take care of men in various ways once they have loved people around them, and even forget their own needs and forget that they need to rely on more.
Smart woman, she will pay more attention to her own comfort in life, pay attention to her own needs, rather than look at the face of men's life, and will not do the silly white sweetness in love, but strive to improve herself, let herself have the ability to make money, let herself have the ability to be independent, she will not give up her own pursuit in order to please the people around her, nor will she live without opinion and self-esteem in order to cater to the psychology of men.
For them, love is the icing on the cake, not to determine the direction of her destiny, she will not be humble, love full, love with strength.
Therefore, when a woman always improves herself, allows herself to live more and more beautiful, more and more wise, can enter and retreat, can be rigid and soft, will fight, will also be spoiled...
Such a woman, how can a man be willing to let go? He will spoil you well, keep you by his side, and love you well.
So, women, if a man has no feelings for you, please insist on these three no's, don't panic, don't be afraid, don't hysterically reach out to him for "love", don't complain that he doesn't give you "companionship", and don't go to meet him without a bottom line, and want him to change his mind.
Do what you have to do, do well, in order to seize your own happiness.
Love is a chess match for opponents, but also pay attention to fate.
If the person next to you, you have paid a lot for him, but he still has to look out for freshness, then there is no need for you to linger. You know, in love, the most beautiful gesture is: you know my hard work, I love your interesting soul.
You have to believe that "if you bloom, the butterflies will come" is not a joke, but a truth in love.
Finally, may every woman be able to live the rest of her life: be the best version of herself and love someone worthy of your love.
Author, Frank Fox
Figure, network
May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!