Children, in the hearts of parents, are the most precious, and no asset can be compared and measured.
No matter how much they play, parents will definitely have the appearance of parents in front of their children.
Many people will also sigh: only after having children, young parents can really grow up.
A few days ago, on his 42nd birthday, Mingdao posted the best gift of his life on Weibo.
When this photo was posted on the Internet, looking at the picture of Mingdao and his two-year-old son kissing sweetly, many netizens also liked it and offered their blessings.
This is also the first time that Mingdao's two-year-old son has been exposed in a group photo, you know. Ming Dao is a male god in the minds of many people, and the exposure of a two-year-old child will naturally make netizens care.
As a new parent, MingDao will probably encounter many problems in the process of raising children.
In fact, as long as the following points can be done, in the eyes of children, parents are the best and their favorite people, and they will not become people who stand on the opposite side and are angry.
There are very few parents who can do this in the process of their children's growth, but in the process of accompanying their children's growth, parents are also constantly cultivating so that they can become qualified parents.
[These parents are the children's favorite people]
1, love, there are certain boundaries
As a parent, we must understand that although the child is the continuation of their own life and dreams, they must maintain certain boundaries for their love for their children.
Once the parents' love is excessive, it will become coddling, and the children who grow up in the doting and honeypot will behave without rules, and the parents will interfere excessively in their lives and behaviors, and will gradually encroach on the children's lives.
When children understand things, they will not only have a strong sense of distance for their parents, but also have a strong resistance to their parents.
Therefore, as a parent, we must understand that loving children is inevitable, but we must maintain certain boundaries and know how to give in and avoid, which is the smartest parent.
2. Know how to listen and share
As a parent, in the process of growing up, it is not blindly preaching, nor is it blindly accusing the child.
Smart parents need to communicate with their children, and there will be a lot of confusion in the process of their children's growth.
As a listener, patiently listen to the questions and joys that come from your child's development.
As long as this can be done, there will be no obstacles to the parent-child relationship, and at the same time, there are powerful benefits in the child's expression and shaping of psychological quality.
3. Give your child the opportunity to try
Many parents are afraid that their children will be hurt in the process of growing up, and they dare not let their children do this, dare not let their children do that, for fear that they will be hurt in any way.
This kind of behavior that deprives the child of the opportunity to try is equivalent to blocking all the roads that the child is on.
What kind of deeds can children who grow up in this extremely depressing environment do?
As a parent, you may wish to let the child try, even if it falls, there is no obstacle, after all, the age is still young, in the stage of learning, they still have unlimited possibilities.
Only after trying, do you know where your life should go, and parents who dare to let their children try differently are equivalent to giving their children the opportunity to choose their lives.
4. Pay attention to every requirement of the child
Nowadays, many parents believe that what they arrange for their children is the best.
In the face of children's needs, they are completely ignored.
Children's desire to express themselves is there, but if they are not valued for a long time, it is likely that they will have the idea of retreating, and even the resistance is very serious.
Whether it is in learning or growing up, once they have negative emotions, it is very difficult to eliminate them in the future, and it often takes ten times and a hundred times harder.
Parents who can pay attention to their children's needs can also face the problems in their children's growth in a more rational state, which is the greatest luck for children.
5, there are expectations, but not oppression
There are expectations for children, which every parent cannot avoid.
After all, who doesn't want their children to be truly excellent and truly talented.
However, expectation does not mean oppression, excessive oppression, over-exploitation of the potential of children, will only be counterproductive.
【Author's Message】
Xun Zi once said that learning is not enough. Blue, taken from blue, and blue from blue; ice, water for it, and cold from water.
As a novice parent, the love for the child is often unrestrained, and any behavior of the child will be constantly beautified by the parents.
However, many habits are developed in early childhood, and most of these habits are deeply related to the word "bad".
And these are caused by the excessive love and doting of parents, in order to make children have stronger creativity in the future, in their growth process, the above is what parents should create for their children.
Children who grow up in this environment, whether it is the mind or the rules of behavior, will become the representative of other people's children, will become dazzling children, and their future creativity and energy will be stronger.
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