Intensive reading mom: Children who love to play with mobile phones are being stolen by mobile phones a little bit, and they have lost their competitiveness among their peers early.
Author:Shui Jingyu (Parents Intensive Reading Author)
Recently, taking the child to a friend's house for dinner, during the meal, the friend said:
"I'm sad to death, the holiday is almost over, and the divine beast in my family is also playing crazy!" Hold your phone every day and don't let go! ”
As soon as this remark came out, it triggered a fierce discussion among friends:
"My family is also, every day to think of ways to bargain with you to see mobile phones, tablets, computers, you turn off the TV for him, take away the mobile phone, tablet, he also yelled at you, angry at me!" 」
"My family is even more excessive, the child's father also takes the child to play mobile phones and brush videos, the two people are very happy to watch, so angry that I want to kick them out!" 」
Is the scene of friends complaining like the daily life of countless children in life?
Children's Cybersecurity Research Report (2016) shows that the mobile phone contact rate among children aged 3-6 years has reached 91%; children aged 9-10 years old in primary schools have almost the same behavior as adults.
In other words, today's children, if they are not careful, will be immersed in various electronic products and have fun.
This also makes many parents headaches, how to scientifically control children play electronic products, has become a difficult problem for parents.
The harm of mobile phones is far more terrible than we think
Recently, after reading a report, I can't help but sigh!
An American psychologist selected 100 children from ordinary families and divided them into two groups: one group had no access to mobile phones, and the other group was obsessed with mobile phones.
A few years later, a follow-up survey found that almost all children who did not play mobile phones were admitted to college, while only 2 children who were obsessed with mobile phones were admitted to college.
Netizens have sighed: if you want to destroy a child, it is enough to let him play electronic products crazy.
Sometimes the gap between people is often inadvertently opened, and indulging in various electronic products is likely to be the beginning of the child's life.
1, causing great harm to the body
Recently, the Central Radio and Television Reported that when Xiao Jie, 11 years old in Jiangsu, got up, he suddenly found that his neck could not move.
After inquiry, Xiao Jie has to play with his mobile phone for a long time every day. According to the doctor's analysis, this may be the trigger for Xiao Jie's pillow.
What is even more tragic is that such incidents are not uncommon.
Previously, the news reported that the nine-year-old child played with his mobile phone without exercising and suffered from venous thrombosis. On that day, the boy had a persistent low-grade fever, accompanied by chest pain.
When changing clothes, parents find that their children's two legs are different in thickness and color. Eventually the child was found to have a large venous thrombosis, which also triggered a pulmonary embolism.
Recently, the British "Daily Mail" has written an article pointing out that children's use of mobile phones will cause memory loss, sleep disorders, cervical spine and other health problems.
In addition, playing with mobile phones will also increase the obesity rate of children, weaken immunity, and affect height growth and physical development.
Children who love to play with mobile phones are being stolen by mobile phones little by little, and they have long lost their competitiveness among their peers.
2. Invade your child's privacy and put them at risk
Now, a lot of social platforms allow the display of real personal information, even geolocation. When children use electronic devices, they will unconsciously expose their own information.
Some time ago, the popular movie "Lost on the Internet" told the story of a 16-year-old girl who disappeared, and her father finally found her daughter by analyzing her daughter's common mobile phone and cracking social software.
And the bad guy who kidnapped and hurt the girl was the bad guy who approached the girl step by step through the Internet and abducted her.
The irrational use of electronic devices will not only have a negative impact on the physical and mental health of children, but also serious and even life-threatening. Parents, don't be afraid!
Cell phones are quietly devouring our kids
Some time ago, a sad and heartbreaking thing happened, a 14-year-old boy in Nanchang, Jiangxi Province, killed his own grandfather, and the incident was as follows:
Grandma was cooking in the kitchen, and Grandpa went to call his grandson to dinner, but the grandson was always there with his mobile phone to play, so Grandpa angrily snatched his grandson's mobile phone away.
It is precisely because of this move of the grandfather that the grandson directly picked up the fruit knife and stabbed at his grandfather in anger, and the grandson's practice directly led to the death of the grandfather.
According to neighbors, when the police came to arrest him, he was particularly calm and smiling.
His reaction was understated, as if he were just killing an ant: "He stopped me from playing with my phone, damn it!" ”
This indifference can't help but feel creepy.
A small mobile phone actually gave the child a heart demon, losing the last of his sanity and moral self-control.
In the mainland, more and more children under the age of 15 suffer from "network autism" because of addiction to mobile phones, and they are the characters who are thriving in mobile phones, but when they return to reality, they are cowardly and psychologically fragile, and it is easy to go to extremes because of a small matter.
Psychologists said: "Excessive exposure to electronic products is very damaging to the formation and development of children's personality, and children will have anxiety, depression, irritability, apathy, autism, personality splits, and even violent behavior." ”
If parents do not limit it, our children who have worked hard to raise and give high hopes are easily swallowed up by mobile phones.
Parents do this, and they can be happy without electronic product babies
Seeing this, some parents began to be anxious, since there is such a big harm, it is better not to contact it in the future.
However, we know very well that the idea of not touching mobile phones and tablets is very unrealistic, electronic products are double-edged swords, and the key is how parents guide their children to use.
1. Parents should learn to lead by example
According to a 2018 survey by Deutsche Telekom, the average number of mobile phones Chinese has reached 600 times, and it is found that parents spend more time playing mobile phones than spending time with their children.
Therefore, parents should first be strict with themselves, and try not to look at mobile phones when getting along with their children.
This can send a powerful signal to the child: the mobile phone is just an ordinary tool for parents, and it will only be used when needed.
2. Create a healthy and orderly environment for the use of electronic devices at home
Devora Heithner, a parenting guide for the "mobile phone age," points out that parents can try to set up the charging area in the living room common area, or they can restrict the signal in the home and cannot cover the bedroom.
This will make children realize that electronic devices can only be used in common areas of the home and cannot be brought into the room. At the same time, the child only plays with mobile phones and tablets in the public area, which can also help parents better supervise the details of her use.
It is also possible to target children of different ages, and parents need to make different adjustments to the room layout. If your child is still young, you can adjust the placement of electrical equipment in the home.
Large equipment such as televisions and computers should not be placed in the most conspicuous and comfortable places in the home.
On the one hand, this can avoid children's premature access to these devices; on the other hand, it can also reduce the number of scenes in which children see adults using electronic devices.
If the child is older, parents can concentrate their electronic devices related to schoolwork in the study.
In the room where you play and rest every day, don't put electronic devices.
3. Create more "unplugged" family activities
Have parents ever wondered what would happen if the whole family stayed with their children and didn't use their phones?
Susan, a journalist in the United States, did such an experiment to keep everyone in the family out of touch with any electronic devices for 6 months.
At first, everyone feels very uncomfortable, the adults have to explain it to their colleagues and friends, and the children are even more dissatisfied.
But gradually, it became apparent to the family that the relationship between them was getting closer and closer.
Moreover, because a large piece of time was vacated that originally belonged to electronic devices, the little ones' strengths and hobbies were displayed one by one.
Some parents will have questions, can this "unplugged" activity really be interesting enough to let children take the initiative to put down their mobile phones? What exactly can I play with my kids?
Hettner experts believe that the focus of designing "unplugged" activities is to cater to children's interests and strengths.
For example, if a child loves to do handicrafts, he can design a separate area, where there are only tables, drawing boards, clay and other crafts.
In addition to family activities, parents can also take their children to participate in outdoor "unplugged" sports, such as climbing mountains and playing ball on weekends.
"People's Daily" once warned parents: "Educating their children well is the most important cause for parents in this life." ”
Put down the mobile phone, accompany the child more, after all, your attitude, hidden in the child's brilliant future.
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