Praise the child in these 12 ways, the more the child praises the better, the effect is immediate
Who wouldn't boast? Isn't that a good thing to say?
But you know what? In fact, there is also a knack for praising people, especially for children
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American humor guru Mark Twain once said
"A sincere compliment can make me live two more months"
Whoever he is, he likes to hear others praise him, rather than being criticized by others
Being praised by others is always in a happy mood, and being criticized by others is inevitably discouraged
For children, a word of praise can not only make children more confident
It also strengthens their courage and strength in the face of setbacks and tribulations
However, not all praise will have a positive effect
Those general words of "you are so smart", "you are awesome", "you are so good" often make children proud and arrogant
Because its subtext is that you are highly talented and you can do it without effort
This makes it easy for children to form a fixed mindset and give up their efforts
Or when encountering setbacks, it is directly determined that they are not good enough by nature, which is very unfavorable for the growth of children
True praise should allow children to form a growth mindset
Attributing all successes and failures to mental strengths such as effort, choice, persistence, etc., rather than to the level of intelligence and the merits of talent
Only in this way can children "win without arrogance and defeat without discouragement"
In the face of success, do not be complacent, proud and arrogant, know how to continue to work hard and keep striving
In the face of failure and difficulties, you can rise head-on, do not give up, do not abandon
As a parent, you must learn to praise your child correctly
The following 12 ways of praise, the more you praise, the better the child
01
Praise the child's efforts
One child was at the top of the test and showed the transcript to his mother
One kind of mother likes to say, "Baby is so good, awesome, the test is too good."
Another kind of mother will say: "The test is good, this is all the baby usually hard work, to continue to refuel"
The first kind of praise from mothers often makes children feel that they have done a good job
So he will stop and just try to maintain the results he has already achieved, rather than trying to get closer
The second way of praise for mothers, on the contrary, not only affirms the child's current achievements
It will also allow children to continue to work hard and strive for better results
In contrast, the mother who praises the child's hard work is better
02
Praise the perseverance of the child
When your child is faced with an esoteric chess game, challenge after challenge is exchanged for failure after failure
When your child wants to try rock climbing, climbing high again and again is exchanged for falling down again and again
At this time, your sentence "Come on, you can do it"
It often puts a lot of pressure on children, causing them to give up
On the contrary, when you replace "you must be able to do it" with "good performance, persistence is victory, keep working hard."
At this time, the child will be more patient, have perseverance, and the success rate is higher
03
Exaggerate the details of the child
It is said that the details determine success or failure
For parents, in daily life, we must learn to praise more details of their children
When he makes some kind of progress, grabbing a specific detail to praise him will not only make the child feel that you pay attention to him
You can also let your child pay attention to details on their own
For example, children have made progress in swimming
You can praise him
"Baby, a lot of progress, you see your posture feels more standard, ventilation frequency is also well mastered"
04
Exaggerate your child's creativity
Lenin said
Fantasy is an extremely valuable quality
For children, their imaginations are abundant and there are always all kinds of fantasies
It is this kind of imagination and fantasy that makes children more creative, more thinking and enthusiasm for life and the world
As parents, we should not discourage our children, but learn to encourage their children to act in the air
Boast about their creativity, and the child will be better
05
Exaggerate the child's attitude
As the saying goes, attitude is everything
Whether at work, study, or life
A positive attitude tends to make people more serious and have a greater chance of success
As a parent, you must know how to praise your child's attitude
For example, if your child finishes his homework today and takes the initiative to start preparing for tomorrow's homework, then you must affirm him
06
Exaggerate the child's spirit of cooperation
Man is a social animal, and no one can be an island
A person who knows how to work in a team will often be better in the future
As a parent, we must know how to guide and encourage children's communication skills and the ability to unite and cooperate
When the child cooperates with the group, he achieves certain results
Parents should remember to praise him and tell him
"A few of you cooperate very well, oh, in the future, we must unite and cooperate with our classmates and continue to cheer up"
07
Praise your child's leadership skills
Why praise your child's leadership skills
Because this can not only increase the child's self-confidence, but also cultivate the child's sense of responsibility
As a parent, one thing your child is responsible for is successfully accomplished with the cooperation of other classmates
At this time, in addition to praising their spirit of cooperation, we must remember to praise the child's leadership ability
08
Praise the courage of the child
Courage is a very important quality, not only representing the spirit of progress, but also enabling people to better face setbacks
For parents, we must praise their children's courage
When your child learns to ride a bicycle, remember to praise him for his bravery
When the child learns to swim without swimming circles, remember to praise him for his bravery
Only in the continuous accumulation can children become more and more confident and more and more adventurous
Only in the face of setbacks and difficulties will we have our own courage and capital
09
Praise the child's attentiveness
When you're ready to go out and take your kids to the park to play
He offered to bring an umbrella
When you are sick and cold today, the child took the initiative to buy you medicine
As a parent, you must praise your child's carefulness
Attentive children, thinking about the problem will be thorough, which is a very valuable quality, especially for boys
10
Praise your child's credit
Lu Xun said that honesty is the foundation of man
As a parent, we must cultivate our children to have good personal credit
Only then will his future become honest and reliable
When your child is about to make a pact with you, remember to tell him "I believe you can do it because you always mean what you say"
11
Exaggerate the modesty of the child
The great Man Mao Zedong once said
"Pride makes people backward, and humility makes people progress"
A person must learn to learn from others with an open mind
Only in this way can we learn from the good advantages and experiences of others and let ourselves grow
In addition, an open-minded person will be more comfortable in the face of failure
As parents, when children do well, we must learn to let children be humble, and then continue to work hard
When children do not do well, we must let children be humble, learn to summarize lessons, and ask others for advice
When the child has achieved humility, remember to praise his humility
12
Boast about your child's choices
Choices matter
Whether it's studying or living, or making friends
How to make a choice is a very critical thing
When a child makes the right choice, we remember to praise the child a lot
Dear parents, when you want to praise your child
Think about the 12 ways I said it
Remember, the key to cultivating a child's growth mindset lies in how you praise your child
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