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There is a popular saying in the baoma circle, "The child is quiet, must be a demon", the child suddenly quiets down, like a time bomb, I don't know when it will give the parents a shot, but compared with the two-year-old child, it is still "a small witch to see the big witch".
The two-year-old child who is "dog-defying" is a mess every day at home
There is a bao mom in the bao mama circle who complains that her child has just entered the "terrible 2 years old", and every day she wakes up at home as if it has been robbed, the living room is full of toys, and there is not even a place to stay, and the paint is also full of coffee tables.
And that's just the tip of the iceberg, with rice in the kitchen, food in the fridge all thrown on the floor, sinks blocked by toys, daring kids even picking up their mother's big lipstick and painting...
For the mother who had just worked hard to clean up the room the day before, waking up at noon to see this mess in the house, she could only accept the fact of "biological".
The destructive power of children is far more than this, not to mention the 2-year-old who is still "dog suspect". People who have experienced it know that no matter how obedient the child, after growing to 2 years old, it will change from the original cute baby to a "little devil", so that the parents have a head of two.
Where did the "terrible 2-year-old" come from?
There are several rebellious periods in a person's life, two years old is the first, when the baby already has a self-awareness, hopes to be accepted, so in many cases are willing to emphasize their feelings and opinions.
When the parents disagree, the little guy's rebellious mood comes up, but this is not that the child is ignorant, but the child at this stage is "self-righteous".
Psychologically, entering the rebellious period is an important reason for the dislike of 2-year-old children, and it is also related to the lack of ability of the baby, such as the 2-year-old baby wants to lift heavy objects to prove himself, but the strength is not enough, he touches a nose of ash, and he will lose his temper with his parents if he is uncomfortable.
In addition to insufficient ability, the 2-year-old baby's ability to express and understand is also limited, can not understand what parents say, want to say things to parents can not express, in this case will appear more rebellious.
What should parents do in the face of their children's "terrible 2 years old"?
On the "self-awareness enhancement" response
After entering the terrible 2 years old, the baby wants to try everything on his own, eager to prove that he is not a bad thing, and those safer things are allowed to be done by the child, not only let them give full play, but also exercise their hands-on ability.
And for those dangerous things, do not let the child do it will make trouble, do it and fear of danger, simply do not let the child know, do not appear in front of him.
About the child's various "no" responses
Inconsequential things the child said no to follow him, since having such a mentality, I found that many problems have been solved.
At that time, my family's second treasure demon wanted to wear that orange dress, even if it was too dirty to wash it, I also gave him to wear, anyway, there was no impact, and I avoided a contradiction by following him.
But when encountering some things that can not be allowed to come to the child's nature, then temporarily put it down, divert the child's attention, parents do not dwell on this matter, then go with their own will, then the child's attention may not be here.
Sometimes, just don't give the child the opportunity to say "no", directly put the option ABCD in front of the child, don't ask him if he chooses, directly let him decide which one to choose.
Response to "curiosity"
After the baby is 2 years old, it is no longer a cute and cute creature, they also have to start their own exploration of the world, sticking to their parents, and dismantling the home is inevitable.
At this time, parents should play an important role as guardians, must respect the child's curiosity, lead the child to explore and learn in more areas he does not know, and guide the child to correctly understand things.
The terrible two-year-old is actually not bad enough to make parents helpless, appropriate freedom and necessary discipline are indispensable, and helping children successfully pass this stage is also a big progress for parents!
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What kind of collapses have you experienced in front of your child's "terrible 2 years old"?