Starting tomorrow, I'm going to quit my job and stay home full-time to take care of our newborn twin sons, which is not an easy decision for me, but I believe it's the one that works best for our family.
We discussed this decision, but in addition to the financial problems, I slowly found that there are many results after "becoming a stay-at-home mom" that we did not discuss, so I decided to write it down and tell you, and I hope that in the next few years, you can promise me a few things.
Please never neglect my dedication to home
Although I am glad that I can start to spend my life with my children and family, I am also very afraid, I am afraid that one day, you will no longer have me in your eyes, afraid that one day, I will become an indispensable presence in the family, not the unique woman you love.
The job of a stay-at-home mom is very difficult, tedious, exhausting, and lonely, so the first thing I want you to promise me is, "Always try to see what I'm trying to do, and don't ignore it."
I don't want you to take everything I do at home for granted, and when you get home through the whole day, please understand that I've done a day's work, and the job is continuous and without rest, even in the evenings, on weekends, during holidays.
The pressure of parenting will not be eliminated because the child sleeps, or let me go out for a day, I need to make sure that the children feel happy and healthy at all times, teach them to be kind and good character, this responsibility is very large, so please, please, because I stay at home every day, I will ignore the efforts I have made to this family.
It is the responsibility of a stay-at-home mom to take care of the children, not to do housework
I need you to know that the purpose of becoming a full-time mother is to raise our children well, and all the housework such as cooking, drying clothes, sweeping the floor, and mopping the floor are not the main responsibility of full-time mothers, so these things, I think we should divide the work and cooperate.
If we hire a babysitter, we don't ask her to help pay our bills, cook every meal, walk our dog, or clean the house, what we ask of her is to take care of our children and make sure they are happy and full every day.
So when you come home, if you see dinner not cooked or the house is in a mess, don't think that I 'didn't do anything' at home, if you want to know what I did at home, look at the children and know that they are the best I do in the family, the most dedicated, even impossible work.
Don't let the chickens and dogs in your life be broken, so that you think that "stay-at-home moms" are easy jobs
To tell you this, one of the reasons is also to hope that we can become a role model in the eyes of children, now that it is the 21st century, I don't want children to have a gender stereotype in their hearts, that is, housework is done by women, and I hope that they can understand from an early age that family affairs are family affairs.
I hope you can give me some encouragement and compliments from time to time
Whenever you come home, you may see me tired, plain, wearing loose sportswear, you may think that I am not attractive, but I hope you understand that it is not that I do not dress, but because my life revolves around the child for 24 hours, and there is no extra energy to spend on myself.
I want you to be proud of my efforts and tell me, "Thank you so much for all that you have done for this family." Just as I thank you for being the financial backbone of the family, stay-at-home moms need these positive rewards because the hard work of this job is often invisible.
I want you to remember that we are husband and wife, lovers, partners, so we should spend life together, the two of us, should be equal, become a full-time mother, what I am most afraid of, is that one day, I will become the woman in your life to clean the house for you, buy vegetables, fold clothes, dear husband, I hope you remember, I am the funny, capable, deeply loved by you woman.
I believe that becoming a stay-at-home mom is a very good choice, but I am really afraid, I am afraid that your vision of me will change, the world will change its vision of me, and my own vision will change.
Dear husband, you are the person who knows me best in the world, you know my personality, my abilities, my shortcomings, and how much I can bear, so please promise that in the next few years, you will always put me in your eyes, put my heart, and even when I lose myself, you can help me find myself.
Love your wife