When I saw a piece of news today, I felt very deeply that the family education on the mainland was really too backward. It happened on the morning of January 12 on the Beijing subway line 7, the mother of a seven- or eight-year-old child may be because the child is addicted to playing with mobile phones in the car, the things that should be done are not done, not only the attitude is rude to scold the child, pinch the child's face, the child will take off the mask after wearing the correct, and then the mother knocked off the hat, and was punished to kneel in public, kneeling for almost a long time. When someone couldn't look over and persuade the mother, she threw up a sentence in a cheerful voice, "I said my child, I want (him) to do whatever I want." Then he left the child and got out of the car on his own, and the child hurriedly got up and got out of the car. This kind of thing happens in the first-tier cities where high-quality mothers are gathered, and it is even more strange in other eighteen-tier cities and those poor and remote areas. This news appeared in the major media, and the course of events was probably like this, and I will not dwell on it too much. I just wanted to talk about my views on this matter from the perspective of family education. For this young mother, I have the following questions I would like to ask.
Ask the parents, what are you going to do? Are you going to train a slave? It is the nature of children to play greedily, and children who do not play really do not have a job. When the parent's cognition is inconsistent with the child's cognition, must it be the child's mistake? Think about it from another position, was this how you were trampled on by people when you were young? The child has dignity from the moment of birth, he is an independent individual, he is not an object that can be manipulated. Educating children is natural, but qualified parents will never humiliate their children in this way in public, and it is contrary to public order and good customs for you to do so.
Second, ask the parents, is the child just your own? Is educating children just your private business? From the perspective of child psychology, parents wantonly trample on their children's self-esteem in public, which is a lack of minimum respect and understanding for children, children only succumb to your strength when they are young, and how can they achieve self-examination and self-love with ten thousand disobediences. You also have a time when you are old, when your child has entered puberty and grown tall and tall. How strong you were to him when you were a child, how strong his rebellion and backlash were, resulting in either the child's inferiority depression, running away from home or even lightening up, or scolding the elderly parents, which kind of result do you want? Family education is the art of communication of the soul, the introspection and epiphany of the object of education, and must not be brutally suppressed.
From the legal point of view, you are already suspected of breaking the law. Article 5 of the Law on the Promotion of Family Education, which came into effect on the mainland on the first day of this month, clearly stipulates: "Family education shall respect the laws of physical and mental development and individual differences of minors; it shall respect the personal dignity of minors and protect the lawful rights and interests of minors." "This is the embodiment of social progress, and the mainland is now gradually in line with international standards." If this happens in developed Western European countries, the child who has been subjected to domestic violence by his parents can completely call the police, and the parents will at least be invited to drink tea by the police station or even detained and sentenced.
Parents must understand that the child is an independent individual who needs to be respected, belongs to you and belongs to the country and society, and the traditional filial piety also needs to keep pace with the times, that kind of blind pressure on the child, sneering at the child, thinking that the success of the child is the parent's education, failure is that the child does not fight and does not work hard, this understanding is precisely the parent's incompetence, but also the biggest failure of family education. Friends, what do you think about the family education method of scolding and humiliating children? Please post your opinion in the comments section.