When it comes to writing homework, it is estimated that many parents are very eager to complain, children are either unwilling to do it, or perfunctory procrastination, or play while doing, an hour of homework is stunned can be dragged into three hours to write, so that parents are manic. In particular, the current school has been open for nearly half a month, and many teachers have successively assigned homework to their children after class, and the irritability of parents is increasing day by day. So, what can be done to make a child willing to write homework?
To know how to make a child willing to write homework, the first thing is to understand why children do not write homework.
Most of the reasons why children do not write homework have two points, one is not to think that this is their own business, the second is that parents will add extra homework after writing, and the third is to be sucked in by other more fun things, resulting in play while doing.
According to these reasons, the following methods can be taken to prescribe the right medicine.
First: Work with your child to make an assignment plan
Some parents may say that my child is so young that he can't make plans, and it is better for me to set it directly. However, parents should understand that children are independent individuals, and in the matter of writing homework, children should participate together and make learning plans together, rather than parents talking about it. For example, discuss with the child what time to do homework every day when he comes back from school, how much to do every day, what rewards to do after doing it, and what punishment to accept if he does not finish. Although the child is small, the child can understand that this is the plan he made at the beginning, the promise he made, and the things he promised must be done well.
Second: Let the child bear the consequences of not writing homework
I have seen many parents, every time they urge their children to do homework, they love to say a sentence such as "if you don't do homework tomorrow the teacher will criticize you" and "if you don't do homework, you won't let you enter the classroom" and so on. But each time it was just lip service. Therefore, the child does not realize what are the consequences of not doing homework, but thinks that this is what parents should do, parents do not supervise, stare at it, anyway, the final result is paid by the parents. Therefore, parents can try to let the child bear the consequences of not doing homework once, do not do it or urge, wait until the next day to go out to realize it, or can join hands with the teacher to perform a play, when the child does not write homework, let the teacher criticize the child in public, so that he realizes the harm of not writing homework.
Third: Reward the child appropriately
Since there is a penalty, there must be a reward. Whenever the child completes the homework in advance or completes the homework according to the agreement, the child can be rewarded with relevant items or accumulate corresponding points, so that the child can enjoy this happiness and use positive feedback to stimulate the child's interest. Do not see the child complete the homework in advance and then the parents add homework, which will only be appropriate and make the child procrastinate. Imagine that when you finish your job at work, the boss adds more work to you, and exercises you in the name of exercise, what will you think? You'll definitely do it next time while touching the fish.
Fourth: Master the laws of communication
Many parents often use imperative and questioning tones when asking their children to do something. For example, "Rubbing again, you hurry up and do your homework!" "How long have you been eating?" What time is it? Don't do your homework yet? But behind this tone is to label the child, do not trust the child, it is easy to cause the child's rebellious psychology." Try using declarative sentences such as "It's 8 o'clock now and you're going to do your homework" or "You've been playing for an hour, and you can't finish tonight without doing your homework."
Fifth: Allow children to play before doing
Each child's personality habits are different, some like to play enough before doing homework, and some like to finish homework before playing. Therefore, parents should allow their children to play first and then do it, rather than blindly comparing their children with others, after all, our purpose is to let children complete this thing and learn knowledge from it, rather than let children learn as we think.