What should you be like as a child?
Parents will think of the phrase "the ignorant are fearless", and subconsciously feel that cheerful and lively, like to engage in destruction, is the child's childhood should be like. However, there is a category of children who are very different, they are introverted, they like to be alone, and they enjoy the feeling of loneliness.
In life, children who like to be lonely have almost no friends. Most of the time, it is a person who does things quietly and never takes the initiative to interact with others. Of course, they will also "pretend" not to accept the initiative of others, because the child does not know how to get along with others.
In the minds of parents, these children who are always alone are the manifestations of "autism". I even feel that the child's various behaviors are intentionally or unintentionally revealing "pathological". All in all, if the child is particularly fond of loneliness, it is definitely abnormal behavior.
But in fact, there is nothing wrong with children liking to be alone. Just like adults, some people have a flamboyant personality and especially like to be lively; some people are introverted and always quietly in a daze. Therefore, whether the child has a cheerful personality or an introverted and lonely personality, it is a normal performance.
Here, parents need to be solemnly informed: liking to be alone is not unsociable, nor is it a lonely personality, nor is it the so-called autism.
I want my children to have a healthy and perfect personality, but the sky is not what people want, they have independent thoughts, and they should not grow according to the requirements of their parents. Even if the personality is imperfect or flawed, it should be tolerated. Don't easily label your child with any negative labels that affect their growth too much.
I believe that parents have heard a saying: if you can't melt into the circle, don't force it to melt, because it doesn't belong to you. In this relatively impetuous and prosperous society, the "lonely force" is even more precious, and the child will never wronged himself, but he will do what he does not like and deal with people he does not like.
In fact, children who like to be lonely, they will enjoy more happiness
1, will not be affected by the noise of the outside world
The noisy environment outside, to a lonely child, is like a cloud of smoke, completely unimportant. They can always maintain their original intention, move forward with firm faith, and will not be easily attracted by the noise of the outside world, and they will not be hurt by the gossip of the outside world.
Loneliness will make children have a strong concentration, as well as self-control, they are very clear about their goals, the future will be closer to success.
2. Strong problem-solving skills
Always alone, let the child have more time to think, all the problems encountered, in the end, will rely on their own efforts, slowly overcome. In the process of being alone, children will grow rapidly, especially the ability to think about problems, which will be obviously stronger than children of the same age.
At any time, children will not chase the wind and will always maintain the most unique insights. Imagine that children know how to deal with problems on their own from an early age, and their experience is not richer when they grow up.
3. Have super creativity
In addition to solving problems, children who are alone also have strong creative abilities. In the public mind, being alone is probably the most boring thing, and it is a waste of time. But if you think about it another way, being alone can also inspire creativity.
The more boring the environment, the easier it is to stimulate their potential, imagination, coupled with unfettered hands-on, and finally achieve extraordinary creative ability.
Therefore, it is not a bad thing for children to enjoy a lonely space. Parents really don't have to be too nervous, just make sure that their children's physical and mental health is enough. The rest is to leave all the time and space for the children to enjoy freely.
If they see that their child is enjoying solitude, parents should not bother in the name of "love" and "care". Because these small actions may destroy the child's concentration and thinking ability. If they really have needs and encounter problems that cannot be solved, I believe they will seek help from their parents in time.
How do you make solitude meaningful? The best way to do this is to teach children to think. Guide them to dig out their own interests and do what they like during their time alone. Even if the child is not perfect, do not rush to deny it, so as not to discourage their enthusiasm.
At no time, please do not force your child to socialize. As the old saying goes, "The country is easy to change, the nature is difficult to move", since the child likes a quiet lifestyle, then do not force him to see the noise outside. The so-called things must be reversed, the more the parents are forced too tightly, the more resistant the children are.
All the children who like to be alone and like to be lonely, they all use the most primitive methods to be loyal to their hearts.
Write at the end: Life is long, and children are trying to be themselves, focused, serious and hardworking. I believe that living alone will allow children to create more surprises and dig up more treasures. It must be said: children who are alone, they are very planned for time, especially self-disciplined.