Every child has a sensitive heart that needs careful observation and careful care from parents.
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From birth to adulthood, with the gradual growth of the body, the child's psychology is also constantly changing, gradually establishing his own personality.
However, not every child can grow up easily, and psychological problems may occur at every stage of children's and adolescents' development.
If you trivialize your child's mental health problems, your child's future will be affected by unpredictable consequences. Some common manifestations of daily life may be precursors to psychological problems.
So, do you know what are the signs of mental health in children?
01
Poor academic performance/refusal to go to school
1. The child's academic performance is lower than expected (good brain, bad grades);
2. Failure to complete school assignments or homework on time;
3. Delaying school by indulging in entertainment and leisure activities such as games/networks;
4. When learning encounters difficulties, behavior is out of line, chaotic and negative;
5. High anxiety about academics and examinations, fear of academic-related failures;
6. Persistent reluctance or refusal to attend school;
7. Have strong emotional reactions (such as crying, tantrums, arguments, etc.) when leaving home or going to school;
8. Physical discomfort related to schooling: headache, abdominal pain, nausea, stomach pain;
9. Often have a negative evaluation of the school, or constantly question the necessity of going to school;
10. Fear is separated from parents, retreating to avoid contact with strangers.
02
depression
1. Sadness or powerlessness, low vitality;
2. Always thinking about death in the mind, suicidal thoughts or actions;
3. Irritable emotions;
4. Alienated from family and friends, refusal to communicate frankly, little or no eye contact;
5. Decreased appetite, increased sleep, poor concentration and indecisiveness;
6. Lack of interest in previously enjoyed activities;
7. Feeling hopeless, worthless, or inappropriate guilt, low self-esteem.
03
anxiety
1. Excessive anxiety, worry or fear, clearly beyond the level of age group;
2. Somatization reaction: tiredness, trembling, muscle tension, rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, dizziness, dry mouth, nausea, diarrhea;
3. High alertness: continuous nervousness, difficulty concentrating, difficulty falling asleep, easy to wake up;
4. Generalization of fear, affecting normal life;
5. Excessive anxiety about being abandoned by parents, excessive guilt.
04
Irritable/disruptive behavior
1. Frequent outbreaks of inappropriate anger at sudden events, excessive crying, cursing, and foul language when they are unhappy;
2. Attract attention through childish behavior, noise or strange appearances, and disturb others by talking casually during class;
3. Frequent fights, coercion of others, cruel treatment of people or animals, threats to harm parents, siblings or authority figures;
4. Destroying objects or throwing things in the same way when angry;
5. Passive attack: forgetfulness, pretending not to hear, laziness, procrastination;
6. Stubbornly refuse reasonable requests from authoritative figures such as parents or teachers;
7. Tension with siblings and friends, and many hostile acts, such as ridicule, nicknames, teasing others, etc.;
8. Failure to abide by predetermined rules in the game, refusal to share and cooperate;
9. Verbal intimidation or physical attacks on young and weak companions, such as screaming, swearing, pushing, destroying or robbing, throwing things.
05
Lying/stealing
1. Repeatedly lying to meet personal needs, manipulate others, or get what you want;
2. Lying for a long time in order to escape the consequences and punishment of bad behavior;
3. Lying in order to evade responsibility, homework, and housework;
4. Gain status in your peers by lying;
5. Stealing/taking things from home, school, community, etc.;
06
Enuresis/feces/attention deficit/hyperactivity/sleep disorders
1. Children over 5 years of age who still intentionally or unintentionally wet the bed, pee their pants, or defecate in inappropriate places during the day or night;
2. Trying to hide stool or dirty clothes in order to avoid the shame of bedwetting or feces, or the fear of being ridiculed, criticized, or punished;
3. It is difficult to maintain attention continuously, and it is easy to be distracted by external stimuli and inner thoughts;
4. Overactive, energetic, not resting, difficult to sit quietly, or talk too much;
5. Difficulty falling asleep or waking up easily, crying or asking to sleep with parents;
6. Waking up in sadness, accompanied by nightmares, dreams involving dangerous scenes;
7. Sleepwalking.
07
Low self-esteem/sensitivity/introversion/social terror/shyness/language barrier
1. Verbally express self-contemptuous comments, seeing oneself as unattractive, worthless, stupid, failed, and unimportant;
2. Inability to accept praise, no way to identify or accept their positive traits or talents;
3. Easy to blame, excessive please, afraid of rejection by others, especially peers, difficult to reject others, afraid of not being liked;
4. Refuse to risk new experiences for fear of failure, embarrassment, or humiliation; act in a negative way;
5. Avoid socializing and avoiding eye contact; have little or no close friend relationship except relatives, show excessive withdrawal or avoidance of contact with strangers for a period of time, and excessive social isolation activities, such as reading, listening to music in the room, playing games;
6. Excessive sensitivity to criticism, disapproval or rejection of signals, lack of decisiveness;
7. Excessive need to be liked by others before showing a willingness to engage with others;
8. Often self-defeated, do not like to compare with others, feel unpopular;
9. There are significant physiological symptoms in social interaction, such as rapid heartbeat, heavy sweating, dry mouth, muscle tension and trembling;
10. Language disorders: small vocabulary, difficulty in organizing long sentences, difficulty expressing feelings; stuttering;
08
Separation anxiety/attachment disorder
1. Excessive emotional sadness or constant complaining when thinking that the guy will leave him and separated from his relatives, such as crying, attacking, asking to be together, throwing a tantrum; or experiencing physical discomfort, such as headache, stomach pain, nausea;
2. Constant fear of unrealistic separation, such as the disappearance of parents, kidnapping, injury, misfortune, etc.;
3. Constantly complaining after leaving home or separating from parents, exaggerating sadness, such as pleading to go home, asking to see parents or calling;
4. Unwilling or unwilling to sleep without the company of intimate objects, refusing to sleep outside the home;
5. Show withdrawal and rejection towards the primary caregiver and distance from all;
6. Show friendship to strangers too quickly, or express feelings to strangers without choice;
7. Refuse to accept care and insist that no one is needed to help;
8. Store food or overeat;
9. Exhibiting aggression against siblings, companions, caregivers;
10. Lie frequently without remorse, or steal something small that is not important.
If the child has any of the above behavioral signs, or the child himself raises the need for psychological counseling, please seek a professional psychologist for consultation and treatment as soon as possible, and do not delay the best time for the child.
09
Everyone will have psychological resilience, which refers to people's ability to deal with psychological stress.
But the child's psychological adaptability is not yet mature, they do not know how to divert attention, many times they can not quickly digest grievances, relieve pressure, so some in the eyes of adults look at the small things that are not worth mentioning, but in the child's heart is a big thing, can not be solved.
There are thousands of ways for adults to solve problems, but for unhappy and unable to solve them, they often go to extremes.
Therefore, when the child appears above psychologically unhealthy signals, in addition to taking the child to receive treatment from a professional psychologist for the first time, a parent's method circulating on the Internet to help the child reduce the pressure of life and academics can also be used by reference:
1. Make sure your child sleeps enough;
2. Spend at least half an hour a day sitting next to your child to do things together or talk and chat, companionship, will make your child get psychological satisfaction;
3. Only allow children to choose relevant courses because they like it rather than the pressure of their classmates;
4. If your child routinely cannot sleep before 12 o'clock, further understanding and appropriate arrangements should be made as soon as possible for his studies or interest classes;
5. Extracurricular activities are mainly for children to relax from the pressure of schoolwork and learn team spirit and interpersonal skills by doing what they like. Make sure your child doesn't choose extracurricular activities just to enhance their resume rather than their hobbies;
6. Tell your child that you love themselves, not the grades they bring home. Tell them: They are your lifeblood! You love them every day and there will be more people who will love them in the long journey of their lives;
7. Tell your child not to judge their place in the world by current school standards. Tell them: You are smarter and more capable than you think. You'll feel great in college, so the good days are coming;
8. Take your kids out for mountain climbing, camping, or other outdoor activities, which is a great way to reduce stress. Boys are easy to open up when they are in a car or climbing a mountain, and it is also a good time to communicate with children before bedtime and at the dinner table;
9. Telling your child that experiencing setbacks and failures is a good experience, and it makes you more experienced and confident about overcoming it and coming out of it. So embrace setbacks and failures because it makes you strong, and don't be afraid of it;
10. Learn to seek help from friends, parents, teachers, and other adults, clearly understanding that seeking help is a sign of intelligence rather than weakness;
Every child is the continuation of life, the hope of the future, and many times, it is also the driving force for us to continue to live and continue to struggle.
Therefore, we must pay attention to the mental health of children, after all, guarding children is also guarding ourselves.
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