The original author | Qijia's mother
When adults just calmly tell them that the word or word is not good, or ignore it and do not react in any way, no one emphasizes, and after a while they themselves forget it.
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Long-term talking about the church turns into nagging
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If you can't do it yourself,
Reasoning is counterproductive
If you want your child to read a book, pick up the book yourself.
Let's take a look at the story of Shandong's "Xueba Village".
A small village with a population of only more than 1,800 people has produced 16 doctors, more than 30 masters, and more than 100 undergraduates. Exploring the reasons is inseparable from the strong learning competition atmosphere in the village.
The influence of the environment on people can never be achieved by chattering.
Master Nebula said, "Before we ask others, we must first ask ourselves, if we can't do it ourselves, we can't do it to others." That is why we should 'blame ourselves with the heart of blame, and forgive others with the heart of forgiveness'."
Deeply.
If parents can't do it, what qualifications do they have to ask their children to do it?
What kind of person you want your child to become, change yourself first, and try to move towards that goal.
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Treat children and lead with love
Psychologist Winnicott said: "Every child is a natural psychotherapist for parents".
In fact, children come to achieve their parents, and what they want is only the love and acceptance of their parents. In the process of educating their children, parents can continue to grow themselves.
When we accept ourselves and tolerate our children with the standard of tolerance of ourselves, the potential of children is more easily stimulated.
When we treat children with unconditional love and inclusiveness, and influence children with their own actions, the future of children will not be too bad.
Find the child's shining point, praise in time, do not hesitate to praise; the child has done something wrong, point it out at the same time, tell them the right thing.
Some people say that every child is a unique seed, but the flowering period is different. As long as you water and care with your heart, let this seed bathe in rain and dew, follow the seed's own growth trajectory, and slowly watch the seed grow, this seed will definitely bloom the most beautiful flowers!
What parents have to do is to turn "preaching style" into a loving leader and influence their children with their own actions.
About the author: Qi Jia's mother, a ten-year-old mother, in the process of accompanying her son to grow up, understands that children come to achieve their own achievements, and every difficulty in life is a practice.
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