Ask what the worldly situation is, and teach people to live and die.
Undoubtedly, love is beautiful, but it will also make you suffer from gain and loss. After all, the matter of feelings is not a tangible substance, whether you like it or not, you can feel it, but you can never grasp it.
The story of the amorous woman and the negative heart has been interpreted continuously from ancient times to the present. So that more women think that in the relationship, women are always in a weak position, in a relationship, why is it always hurt to be themselves?
From the perspective of physiological structure, women are indeed not dominant, but not all women will be helpless in the face of love, and there are countless happy loves and marriages in this world.
At the end of the day, it's all about their own business. Without means, even the best love will be consumed in the increasingly commonality and trivialities.
In fact, if you want men to care more about you, it is not so complicated, change your mind, you may wish to learn the "Buddhist system".
Women always don't understand why they give 100% of their own, but in the end it is a bad ending - men seem to not care at all, enjoy it for granted.
In fact, women have already made the mistake of not seeing love as their whole. Love is only a part of everyone's life, without love, the days still have to go forward.
Men, on the other hand, are much more sane. They never regard love as the most important thing in life, but think that good love is the icing on the cake, and career is the first thing compared to love.
If a woman could have such a mind, everything would be much simpler. See love as an ordinary part of life, with love to add points to life, without love to manage themselves well.
In this way, you can get out of the dead loop.
There are often female readers who privately write backstage saying that they cannot be cherished in their feelings, and they have done all the things they can think of and do for each other, but the results are very different from what they wish.
Ask him what he wants to eat before work, and when he gets home, he will take the initiative to cook and cook, and when he returns, he will bring the rich meal to the table, and after he finishes eating, he pushes the bowl and lies on the sofa to brush videos, chat, and play games.
Women complain that he can't see his own efforts at all, that he doesn't know how to hurt himself, that he indulges in his own world every day, and that he is extremely impatient to chat with him.
The reader said, why did you love each other so much before marriage, but after marriage, you became like this?
In fact, the answer is obvious, you do everything well, where does he have the opportunity to show himself?
After reading the story of your friend Puff (pseudonym), you may understand.
Puff is a freelancer, in the eyes of others, she sits at home without wind and rain, does not have to suffer from the crowding of buses, does not have to work and rest on time every day, sleeps every day until she wakes up naturally... This is a great blessing.
With such good working conditions, you should take care of the family without hesitation, the window in the home is clear, the child is sensible and well-behaved, and the husband is also taken care of. However, this is not the case.
The hygiene of the family is done by the husband and the children, the puffs are responsible for breakfast and the change of sheets and clothes, the task of dinner and picking up and dropping off the children are entrusted to the husband, and it happens that one day the husband is not at home on a business trip, she does these things.
Therefore, people often say in front of Puff's husband, "Your daughter-in-law will really enjoy life", and even Puff's parents feel that their daughter has done something too much and stays at home tomorrow.
But Puff's husband said, "She works harder at home." Indeed, only the husband really understands puffs, working at home needs to overcome a lot of external interference factors, and it is not easy to calm down and do things well.
The big and small things in the family, as well as the personal contacts between relatives and friends, are all choux that puff is worried about, which will occupy her working hours, and if she can't finish the work during the day, she will have to stay up late and work overtime.
After the child arrives home to help with homework, the chicken flies and the dog jumps, after all, puffs spend more time with the child and have to bear more pressure.
Puff's husband understood her and never demanded her by the standards of a virtuous woman, and he knew that she was not easy. And puffs never compare with other women, as long as they live well.
In her life, work accounts for half, and the rest are family, husband and children. Because my time schedule is very full, I don't have time to think about those chicken and dog troubles.
Some people say puffs, the husband is dressed brightly outside every day, you nest at home without makeup, will not worry?
Once, puffs had a similar crisis, when her husband had a little wind and grass, and she was very nervous. At that time, the child was still young, and she did not have the energy to work at home.
There is no financial resource and nothing else to do, other than to take the children to do housework and make the husband the focus.
That time was the darkest in Puff's life, and the relationship with her husband was almost to the freezing point. Because of her catching wind and shadows, her husband would rather stay in the office and work overtime than return early.
Puff said that she was hysterical, giving all her care and love to her husband while constantly torturing him.
Later, possibly stimulated by the failure of a friend's marriage, Puff suddenly woke up. She was originally a very confident woman, and seeing her own state after getting married and having children, Puff decided to change.
She no longer calls her husband to talk about her troubles, and tries to take her baby out alone to breathe fresh air... When the other side of the world opened the window for her, she realized that she had lived too narrowly.
Too serious about marriage, too much for the husband as the center of gravity. Later, puffs had what they wanted to do, and once people got busy, their spirits changed.
When my husband arrived home from work, she saw the cold pot and cold stove in the kitchen, while she was busy working in the study and took the initiative to choose dishes to cook.
Originally Puff thought he would be scheming, but he didn't. Later, she saw her husband take the initiative to take the child to clean up, wash the dishes, and accompany the child to play games... I even changed my habit of drilling into the study after dinner.
And once the child wants to find her, the husband will say, "Let the mother rest for a while, and the father will accompany her."
You see, women always think that they are indispensable in housework and with children, but there are actually some things that do not distinguish between men and women.
If you don't do it, someone will do it. You've done a good job, so why should others rush to ask for credit?
Many women tighten their strings as soon as they get married, the food must be done, the bowl must be washed, the hygiene must be cleaned, and the clothes in the washing machine must be cleaned in time...
Men do a little thing, women feel dissatisfied will nag... But in fact, the woman let go, encouraged and praised the man more, and he happily did it. Even if you don't do it for a while, the sky will not fall, and there is no need to worry.
As for whether men spend money outside and violate the principles of marriage, there is no need to pull tightly.
If he really has a heart, no amount of love you give can stop him. Love yourself well, run your own life well, and believe that no man is stupid enough to give up the current calm and warm life, and must find himself unpleasant.
As for those ape-minded horses, who can guarantee that they will not desert their minds?
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