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New divorce big data has been released, and the divorce rate in Chongqing is 4.92%, ranking second in the country.
Why is Chongqing cited alone, and why is no one talking about Tianjin, which is number one? I think there is a very main reason, because netizens have always had a good evaluation of men in Chongqing, thinking that they love their wives and listen to their wives.
For such a man, everyone generally defaults to marrying such a man, the woman will be very happy, and such a marriage will be longer. But the cold data tells us that no, Chongqing's divorce rate is high, ranking second in the country.
That's why everyone is shocked by this, because it's completely different from what everyone thinks, doesn't it mean that their marriage is happier and more stable, but it doesn't. So everyone has to find the reason, what is the cause of Chongqing's divorce rate is so high.
The account that posted this news @ Sina Chongqing asked netizens a question, why do you think Chongqing people are so "dare" to divorce?
A "dare" word is used very delicately, because divorce is indeed not a small thing, it can be said that it is a big thing related to a person's life trajectory, divorce and non-divorce, the future life path is completely different. Use the word "dare" to show that they are brave enough to dare to jump out of the cage of marriage.
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As for why they "dare" to divorce, netizens agree that the main reason is that Chongqing women are very independent, and through this data side, it is also confirmed that Chongqing women are more independent and their minds are liberated, so they dare to divorce.
I think this explanation is perfectly feasible? Independent women do dare to divorce more than non-independent women, they are not afraid of the trouble of divorce, they are not afraid of facing the difficulties of life alone after divorce, so when marriage feels unhappy, they dare to escape from this marital relationship and live the life they want.
Why independent people dare to divorce more, because they are independent, not dependent on people's lives, do not need to rely on reaching out to their husbands to get money to survive, they will make money themselves, they can support themselves.
In marriage, it is always independent women who live more freely, more freely, more freely, because they are independent, so they have a certain right to speak in marriage, do not need to bow to their husbands, and do not need to cater to their husbands.
As a result, they live more egos and are less wronged, because their husbands will care more about their feelings, even if they are unhappy in their marriage, they are not treated well, and they are not afraid, because they have the courage to end the marriage and end the game.
Independent women, whether spiritual or financial, are relatively independent, they will not rely on their husbands spiritually, they will not pin their happiness on each other, and economically they can earn money to support themselves, and they do not have to reach out and ask for money.
This is the biggest confidence in a woman's life, because with this as a base, she lives without any grievances.
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In the past, when such news appeared, everyone unanimously showed a more mournful mentality, feeling that divorce data was so embarrassing, marriage was so difficult to maintain, and marriage could not be maintained for a lifetime, so they would be more pessimistic.
But now netizens no longer have that pessimistic mood, but very optimistic, talking about such a topic, but also very gentle in their hearts, many people think that this is a good thing, not a bad thing.
This is indeed not a bad thing, because marriage should be a place where it should be free, it is to like a person, want to live with her for a lifetime to get married, if you don't like it, don't want to have a drink with him, then divorce, such a marriage will make people look forward to it more.
Because everyone who decides to enter into marriage has the opportunity to start again, and can make new choices when they find that they have taken a wrong path, or find that a path does not work.
This shows that our modern era has become more civilized, and we are all more tolerant of marriage, more accepting that a marriage that does not continue should be divided, rather than continuing to be entangled.
So this divorce data reminds us once again that marriage is indeed unstable, not that you can live a lifetime after getting married, if you want to live with each other, then you should take responsibility for yourself and do your due obligations.
If you don't feel good enough, or if you feel that marriage doesn't give you the happiness you want, then you can also have the right to choose again.
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